February is CEP's month to send a care/cheer package to Pixy

[pescalita]

Jan 21, 2014 15:37:10 GMT -5 @autiger said:

Jan 21, 2014 15:34:22 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

People sending us tp won't do any good, we need it today. It's good, sometimes we need to get out of the house.

Unless Amazon can use their drones.  In which case, you can have it in 30 minutes or less.  Kinda like pizza.

They're talking about sending it before you order now. So really, amazon already done fucked up.

@majorwife I just snorted in the Round Table. Thanks.

[secretlyevil]

Jan 21, 2014 15:56:35 GMT -5 asdfjkl said:

Jan 21, 2014 15:48:42 GMT -5 secretlyevil said:

It's all a okay at this point. You just had the balls to say what a lot were thinking. asdfjkl - your balls are bigger than most.

I literally came back from lunch to the craziness. It was startling, that's all. It's all good, I think this thread has just become one big therapeutic session.

Sheeeeyt.  You know what they call balls this big?  





A clit. 

#feminist4lyfe

Yup, can't formulate a response to that one.

[mominatrix]

Jan 21, 2014 15:56:35 GMT -5 asdfjkl said:

Jan 21, 2014 15:48:42 GMT -5 secretlyevil said:

It's all a okay at this point. You just had the balls to say what a lot were thinking. asdfjkl - your balls are bigger than most.

I literally came back from lunch to the craziness. It was startling, that's all. It's all good, I think this thread has just become one big therapeutic session.

Sheeeeyt.  You know what they call balls this big?  





A clit. 

#feminist4lyfe

[ringstrue]

secretlyevil I honestly don't think what you have done has been over the top at all. The other FB group seems to be where new "efforts" keep popping up.

[notsocreepylurker]

So great to see ya here Pixy. I got a funny story for everyone......

So my cat doesn't like to be brushed. And I am trying to be all adult-like and have a clean and nice home. While at Target I picked up some lint rollers -- thinking I could use them on the new couch I'm getting to keep the pet hair under some control. Well, I decided I would try to lint roller my cat. I rolled it on him and he seemed OK - lots of fur on the sticky paper so I pull that sheet off and go to roll him again. But the 2nd sheet is stickier than the first and he freaks so he starts running away. With the sticky sheet stuck to him. And the roller is spinning dispensing sheets as he runs away. I manage to rip the sheets to get it to stop. But here is my cat running around the apartment at full speed with a sticky lint roller sheet stuck to his side and 5-6 sheets attached to that like a tail behind him. I grab the sheets as he runs by and he is now free. I proceed to laugh so hard I cry.

[MixedBerryJam]

Jan 21, 2014 15:18:33 GMT -5 msmerymac said:

Jan 21, 2014 15:07:59 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

So here's what I need:

I need people to do what feels right to them. If running a race in her memory is what you need to do, please by all means do it. If you want to give someone a cup of coffee as a RAK, please do so. I don't need any tokens, or pictures, or mementos from those. (Ok, maybe the race pictures because I always like how people are so damn happy to reach the finish line.) RAKs are RAKs, do it for the other person. Please don't record them.

Spread awareness. Spread awareness of donating blood, or organs, or tissue. Be a voice to what *you* believe in. Do it in memory of my daughter if you wish, but make it personal to you.

I will always remember my daughter. I don't need stuff to help me do that. What I have, her two favorite stuffed animals, her princess crown, her ballet shoes... those are hers. No one sent those to me. That's how I will remember her.

My husband and I were laughing this morning that people have donated so much stuff to us, from their hearts and we're grateful, but we don't have any tp in the house. We're down to our last roll. So the tp conversation is appropriate here.

I mean, we can start a separate TP fund and get people to deliver it. NO PROBLEM! WE'RE ON IT!

Do you think she'll need kleenex, too? I love kleenex.

[pamela]

pixy0stix, your responses in here have made me smile and cry at the same time. I know you're going to be a different "you" after everything, but it's still you. And dammit, I'm crying in my cube. I don't do that. I've avoided responding much because I didn't know where what makes me feel better ended vs what would be just for your family since I don't know you outside of here. Just know I'm praying for your family.

[winecat]

:::: starts making room for massive TP delivery from Amazon Prime ::::

[Kristinmo]

Jan 21, 2014 15:23:30 GMT -5 taratru said:

Jan 21, 2014 15:07:59 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

So here's what I need:

I need people to do what feels right to them. If running a race in her memory is what you need to do, please by all means do it. If you want to give someone a cup of coffee as a RAK, please do so. I don't need any tokens, or pictures, or mementos from those. (Ok, maybe the race pictures because I always like how people are so damn happy to reach the finish line.) RAKs are RAKs, do it for the other person. Please don't record them.

Spread awareness. Spread awareness of donating blood, or organs, or tissue. Be a voice to what *you* believe in. Do it in memory of my daughter if you wish, but make it personal to you.

I will always remember my daughter. I don't need stuff to help me do that. What I have, her two favorite stuffed animals, her princess crown, her ballet shoes... those are hers. No one sent those to me. That's how I will remember her.

My husband and I were laughing this morning that people have donated so much stuff to us, from their hearts and we're grateful, but we don't have any tp in the house. We're down to our last roll. So the tp conversation is appropriate here.

Okay, here's a confession: when I went to your house the other night to feed your pets, I really needed to pee.  And you were down to like 6 sheets on the roll.  So I only used 2, because I couldn't find anymore handy ANYWHERE. 

You couldn't just drip dry?  How insensitive of you!

::hair flip::

[pixy0stix]

My BFF dropped this off as I was leaving. She was tipped off by Andrea. Lololol!

[secretlyevil]

Awesome!

[vanillacourage]

Jan 21, 2014 16:35:50 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

My BFF dropped this off as I was leaving. She was tipped off by Andrea. Lololol!

OMG.  The bow. 

[andrealynn]

Jan 21, 2014 16:35:50 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

My BFF dropped this off as I was leaving. She was tipped off by Andrea. Lololol!

I thought you would get a kick out of the "your wish is my command" aspect, and she called me right as she was leaving your house, lol. The bow is a nice touch.

[earlgreyhot]

Jan 21, 2014 13:51:23 GMT -5 msmerymac said:

Yeah, while everyone is welcome at the memorial and I'm sure Pixy would find it somewhat lovely to have a huuuuuge turnout of people who care about her and ZB, TBH, I never met either IRL and didn't know Pixy's real name until last week. So attending an event which will involve Pixy, her husband, her parents, her in-laws, her coworkers and her IRL friends seems a little over the top. For me personally. Especially if you're standing around and a cousin or someone strikes up a conversation about how you knew Pixy/ZB. But hey, it's an individual decision.

Anyway, there's a fine line here. For the next year, if the boards and groups she was involved in can do this, I think SOMETHING can be helpful. I think cards and letters can be helpful. I think the money in the fundraiser will definitely be helpful. I even think people delivering food and hiring housekeeping for them and taking care of day-to-day things will be helpful while they are still sorting out their lives.

But then in a year, or two years, or 5 years... well, she's still not going to have her daughter. She's still going to miss ZB everyday. Of course, at that point, a new normal will set it and they'll be able to function reasonably well, and hopefully work and do their own grocery shopping. But I imagine at that point a huge part of the pain will also be that people are starting to move on. The world will keep turning without ZB in it. Her friends will go to Kindergarten and high school and college and get married and have their own kids, and ZB won't. And those 3 year old kids are most likely not going to remember her. The circle of people who keep ZB in their hearts and memory will grow smaller. The gift boxes will stop. The cards will stop.

So what are we to do? Obviously we want to send things now. Obviously it's a good intention to spread things out over the course of a year. I think it's a nice idea to let Pixy know we're thinking of her on August 2 and January 18. I certainly don't think letters or cards of condolence or donations to the fund are unreasonable. Those things are good. But yeah, there should be a happy medium here.

I agree with everything. But I wanted to just say that I was telling my sister about this and she immediately remembered a little girl in her dance who died tragically when they were ZB's age. She went on to say how it's one of her earlier memories and she thinks about her often. I didn't know the girl at all (I was a bit older) but remember my mom mourning and I remember lots of other random details about the community coming together.

I don't know why I shared that...but it's been on my mind a lot lately. The little girl's name was Sadie and she loved to dance.
 

[secretlyevil]

andrealynn - if you're sticking around, you need to make yourself a person avatar. Picturing you as the alien is creeping me out.

[FloFTW]

Hm, shame. I find Charmin produces the most dingleberries.

[karmasabiotch]

Jan 21, 2014 15:27:32 GMT -5 tef said:

May 11, 2012 8:53:47 GMT -5 karmasabiotch said:

Me but I'm going to take a nap and then try to watch the last 8 episodes of Survivor so I'm ready for the finale on Sunday.

What the hell? I'm trying to quote taratu and some post by karma about survivor is on. The NSA saw my apocalypse post, huh?

Sent from my SCH-I535 using proboards

So weird.  I'm not usually that lazy btw.  I feel like this should be known.

[andrealynn]

Jan 21, 2014 16:41:03 GMT -5 secretlyevil said:

andrealynn - if you're sticking around, you need to make yourself a person avatar. Picturing you as the alien is creeping me out.

lol! There you go. Though Pixy can confirm that I am, at least, a human shaped alien.

[pixy0stix]

Jan 21, 2014 16:45:22 GMT -5 andrealynn said:

Jan 21, 2014 16:41:03 GMT -5 secretlyevil said:

andrealynn - if you're sticking around, you need to make yourself a person avatar. Picturing you as the alien is creeping me out.

lol! There you go. Though Pixy can confirm that I am, at least, a human shaped alien.

Correct. She hasn't slipped out of her human character yet. I'll keep watching though.

[secretlyevil]

Jan 21, 2014 16:45:22 GMT -5 andrealynn said:

Jan 21, 2014 16:41:03 GMT -5 secretlyevil said:

andrealynn - if you're sticking around, you need to make yourself a person avatar. Picturing you as the alien is creeping me out.

lol! There you go. Though Pixy can confirm that I am, at least, a human shaped alien.

Much better, thanks!

[laurenpetro]

Holy shitballs people. It took me forever to get home and I missed it all. Dang!

Pixy, if you would like cookies it would be my honor to make them for you. If not, it will be my honor to eat them for you.

[meshaliuknits]

Jan 21, 2014 16:51:52 GMT -5 laurenpetro said:

Holy shitballs people. It took me forever to get home and I missed it all. Dang!

Pixy, if you would like cookies it would be my honor to make them for you. If not, it will be my honor to eat them for you.

Please direct all cookies to pixy c/o meshaliu's mouth. I will be testing them for poison. Or something.

[laurenpetro]

Jan 21, 2014 16:53:48 GMT -5 meshaliuknits said:

Jan 21, 2014 16:51:52 GMT -5 laurenpetro said:

Holy shitballs people. It took me forever to get home and I missed it all. Dang!

Pixy, if you would like cookies it would be my honor to make them for you. If not, it will be my honor to eat them for you.

Please direct all cookies to pixy c/o meshaliu's mouth. I will be testing them for poison. Or something.

You should have said you're the rerouting address for perishable goods.

[meshaliuknits]

Jan 21, 2014 16:55:02 GMT -5 laurenpetro said:

Jan 21, 2014 16:53:48 GMT -5 meshaliuknits said:

Please direct all cookies to pixy c/o meshaliu's mouth. I will be testing them for poison. Or something.

You should have said you're the rerouting address for perishable goods.

My mind gets clouded when there are cookies involved. Who do I go to for confession? Cookie Monster?

[laurenpetro]

Jan 21, 2014 16:56:43 GMT -5 meshaliuknits said:

Jan 21, 2014 16:55:02 GMT -5 laurenpetro said:

You should have said you're the rerouting address for perishable goods.

My mind gets clouded when there are cookies involved. Who do I go to for confession? Cookie Monster?

You know, I do have some orders coming up next month. I could accidentally ship a few to the wrong address. Just sayin.

[eclaires]

I volunteer to receive any and all cookies.

[laurenpetro]

Jan 21, 2014 17:14:55 GMT -5 @dontcallmeshirley1 said:

Jan 21, 2014 17:06:15 GMT -5 eclaires said:

I volunteer to receive any and all cookies.

Why do I have the nagging feeling there won't be overwhelming offers to receive my shipment of Berry Gu? 

That depends on what it is. I'm on a 20th reunion diet.

[Deleted]

I posted Pixy's post in the Sticky thread, and then some additional clarification:

Also, just a little clarification (and I totally now realize it would have been better to post complete, detailed minutes from the local meeting we had on Saturday):

- As mentioned in the FB group, Pixy's BFF of 15+ years is one of the "local leaders" I've referred to in other posts. She (asilsjf) and andrealynn are working together to be the direct conduits to Pixy for the veritable masses the rest of us represent.

that said,

- Pixy has her own wishes, and I'm so glad she's able to voice them (I don't know that I'd have the wherewithal to do so). She of course is the "source of truth" for what should/shouldn't be happening. The rest of us humans may err on the side of trying not to bother her with details, and frankly it's better (IMO) for her to be able to intervene online - imagine if this were 20 years ago with no internet!

- At the local meeting, a board rep was chosen from those present - I got asked if I'd do CEP, I said yep. jenniloveselvis was one who PM'd me about the other idea for the local board assignments for each month going forward, and apparently I got tagged/tied to that endeavor, so she said she'd help with it. Help she did, and now we're at 11+ pages. She did a great job, but it's probably good that this ultimately got clarified that "stuff" is not the right way to go.

- I'm frankly glad CEP was the first board up for the monthly board thing. If anyone was going to drill down in emphatic, passionate, and fastidious fashion on the who/what/when/why-the-fuck-are-we-planning-all-of-this-stuff minutiae, it was CEP. Best to do that now than have it happen in four months when the cupcake shop is overrun with glitter and ribbon.

- A local "bus" is being coordinated for any local Nesties who know Pixy to carpool to the memorial - the idea was inspired by a local Nestie who figured it'd be the 'green' way to go for those who want to get up there and use less gas and less cars. So for those envisioning some kind of groupie tour and GTG - that's not happening.

[epphd]

Jumping in with nothing clever to say but wanting to jump on the love train. Love you, CEP. Pixy, to say you and ZB and your hubs are in my thoughts constantly is an understatement. I'm humbled by your openness in this situation - it's an expression of generosity that is hard for me to comprehend. We've all been given this gift - to reflect, to be mindful, to be humbled. You and ZB gave us - are giving us - that gift. I don't know what else to say except thank you. And I'm so, so sorry because I know it comes at a cost no one ever wants to pay.

[secretlyevil]

Jan 21, 2014 17:14:55 GMT -5 @dontcallmeshirley1 said:

Jan 21, 2014 17:06:15 GMT -5 eclaires said:

I volunteer to receive any and all cookies.

Why do I have the nagging feeling there won't be overwhelming offers to receive my shipment of Berry Gu? 

It's because you have to SWEAT to earn your gu...SWEAT!