One. He lives across the country, but we've remained friendly through a fairly tight circle of friends. His wife is nice, but I wouldn't say we are friendly.
Post by thinklikeajellyfish on Jan 23, 2014 23:34:07 GMT -5
Yes, I am still very close to my ex-boyfriend and his entire family. His mother is one of my favorite people in the whole wide world, and the entire family is just amazing. I went to Idaho earlier this month for a family wedding. Every time I go home to visit I usually meet up with him and his wife.
I will not stay in contact with my stbxh or his family.
Yes. Though he's gay. I think that makes it easier.
ETA: To clarify, I think the bonds of our friendship in the first place weren't as strained by our break-up because his sexuality felt like an uncontrollable factor that took a lot of blame and fault out of the picture.
Nope. I didn't date anyone seriously before H and didn't maintain any sort of relationships with the guys I did go out with.
My high school boyfriend would probably still be friendly, but he kind of fell off the face of the earth and ended up finishing high school at a reform school of sorts, so, yeah.
We were best friends before dating and knew each other since birth. We tried the whole dating thing senior year of high school. After a while, we realized that we were better as friends. We're still very close.
I still consider XH a friend. We got along better after the divorce than we ever did when married. We fell off each other's radar for a while but reconnected recently. If he were in town I would go out for coffee with him in a heartbeat and H would have no problem with it.
I am very good friends/best friends with one of them... that was definitely a "should have stayed friends" situation. The other two I stayed friends with for a long time but now it is mostly just friendly passing interaction.
They are all really good guys and went off to do neat things with their life. It's been fun to continue to see everyone "grow up" and settle down. I feel very lucky that I got to spend my time with these people, because I certainly was not a great partner.
My H is still friends with a couple of his exes, but they grew up together and are pretty intertwined with each other's families still so it'd be sort of weird to cut things off.
Post by amberlyrose on Jan 24, 2014 2:04:20 GMT -5
Mostly just FB friends, but my first boyfriend texts me every year on my birthday, which I think is sweet. He was a shitty boyfriend, but he's always been a great friend.
I'm Facebook friends with the ones that never really mattered. I have only one other serious ex besides H and I steer clear from that shit, lol. Not that we ended on bad terms, I wish him the best and it just seems better this way.
Post by gullterre15 on Jan 24, 2014 8:17:49 GMT -5
Yes, I am friends with several on FB and IRL. I live in a small-town area and I see them around a lot, so it would be weird not to be friendly. I don't have a DH to care anymore anyway! YAY
Post by MixedBerryJam on Jan 24, 2014 9:11:50 GMT -5
I'm not. My husband was, and I still send some of them Christmas cards; and I won't tell the story again but I got married in my husband's ex-gf's home.
No way. Recipe for disaster under the right conditions, and I firmly believe this is the case for everyone regardless of how over someone you are.
I'm pretty much on this page when it comes to my first serious boyfriend (senior year of college). I was The One That Got Away. Even though we were "broken up" (because after a few years of mostly exclusive dating he just couldn't commit to being exclusive ^o)) we still kept in contact and were "friends," I suppose, even when I had started to date DH but there was always this push-pull between us. Obviously, as things progressed with DH, I had to make a decision and ultimately I chose to end the friendship with my ex because as long as I kept him in life, I wouldn't be able to move forward with DH.
I have no desire to see him ago because that would be like opening Pandora's box.
Post by wrathofkuus on Jan 24, 2014 9:17:50 GMT -5
Hrm. Now I'm wondering what it says that I can't even imagine any of my previous boyfriends being detrimental to my marriage. Did I miss out by not having cared deeply enough to have any residual... anything?
Not really. One of my ex boyfriends is dead. My first serious boyfriend lives out in Vegas and we have exchanged emails maybe once every few years. My ex, who is the father of my oldest, and I despise each other, so definitely not friends.
Merely FB friends/acquaintances with some. Unwilling to be friendly with others at this point. Co parent with one. I guess I just don't think of them much - I'm moving in a forward direction.
I'm FB friends with two of my exes. I'm friends though in real life with a few of DH's exes. I met a few of them years ago and we have stayed friends and now they talk to me more than DH.
Yes. My h and I are friends with my on again off again high school boyfriend and his wife. We were always better as friends. They are good people and it was high school so it's just funny.
Post by schitzengiggles on Jan 24, 2014 10:07:11 GMT -5
I started dating DH at age 17, so all previous relationships were in high school and I was totally clueless and naïve. I went for the loner bad boys who were hot but "misunderstood". Guess where most of them are now? Nowhere. Some have no education, kids with 5 women, dead end jobs, sit around drinking and doing drugs most of the time. Others have been in and out of prison. One in particular, who I dated for 6 months (a long time when you are 15), is a total psycho. I would absolutely not be surprised to hear that he murders somebody some day.
Needless to say, NO. I am definitely not friends with any exes. There was only one who I sort of kept contact with over the years. He was friends with DH, actually, long before I knew either of them, and he was my "first". (Sounds scandalous but I promise it was not). He passed away last year
Good thing I finally decided to give DH a chance, even though I felt like he was "nerdy" and "not my type at all". I remember asking my BFF if I should give it a chance or not and I was so torn about it. Aaaaand.....here we are, 15 years later. LOL
I'm friends with my xH, but no one else that I dated. I'm friendly/acquaintances with a few past hookups, but we don't go out of out way to keep current.
Thor is friends with his ex girlfriends. Hell, I'm friends with 2 out of 3 of the serious ones. (I've never met the third.) They're nice girls! One lives in Canada, so I rarely see her, but I really enjoy her company when she's in town. The other is my hair stylist and lives a few blocks away. She and I hang out quite a bit.