Mama bear instinct

[Stingyshark]

We went to DHs grandmothers funeral when DD was 5 wks. I put her in the baby bjorn and let people look at her bit there was no way anyone was holding her. Pass the baby also gives me anxiety...
Plus also, I don't get along with most of Hs family, so there's that. They have no respect for me, don't understand boundaries & think they are entitled to have a relationship with dd whilst talking shit about me. .. Sorry for that little tangent.

[Stingyshark]

Also, my main concern was DD getting sick. As I said, DHs family has zero boundaries and would have no qualms holding dd while sick, if I allowed it.

I would like to mention that mil ended up in the hospital with pneumonia 3 days after the funeral. BIL had the flu.. So, my crazy is not totally unfounded.

[dcrunnergirl52]

I'm pretty much the opposite. Someone wants to hold my baby, sure, here he/she is. My baby starts to cry, and I think, I should probably rescue the baby or feel like I should be holding him/her, but nope, I hold a crying baby lots and lots. I'm fine with someone else having a turn for a few minutes.

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Just to be clear, I don't keep anyone from holding him, I just suck it up and grit my teeth.

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Also I realize it's irrational and I seem to be in the minority so that gives me a place to start with therapy. Thanks for being candid with me MMM!

[ssmjlm]

It hasn't for me yet, and my kid is 9m.

The worst was we had a labor day cookout and everyone was all in E's face and she just kept looking at me, like save me mama! I hated how they were with her. She's just a baby!

Now thankfully she's mobile and has no problem turning around and reaching for me. So at least when one of the IL's is bothering her and she doesn't like it, she can now voice her disproval.