UO Thread

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My UO (probably more for the main board) is that I really enjoyed our trip to Disney World. They make it SO easy for you to plan and make reservations, they take care of your transportation and baggage needs, the potential problem of long lines/crowds has largely been solved by the fast pass stuff. I was impressed by the quality of the food at many of the restaurants. Your kids are practically guaranteed to have a wonderful time. What's not to like (besides the expense, lol).

[Marmee]

On weight...I'm fat & gained weight pg & complain about it. But mostly I complain because I know I'm being judged by other women & should be unhappy & embarrassed by Ito my complaint is basically acknowledging that I **know** what they're thinking...like a defense mechanism. But inside my own head I like myself & still think I'm pretty & sexy with a lot of extra weight or not. I never in my life took pride in my body looking like X, I was normal & athletic & that' was good enough for me, even as a teen. I feel like I missed the body loathing gene so I constantly try & manufacture it as to fit in & motivate myself. What's funnier is that I'm surrounded by 95% slim to skinny Moms & I kind of like that I'm unique & don't look like a clone of them. But then I know they're secretly or not so secretly disgusted by me, judging me as lazy, unhealthy, selfish & that's what is super bothersome to me.

[holly116]

Okay I'm going to attempt to tread lightly, but from my recent perspective of having my DH in the ER because of his high BP and cholesterol, directly related to his diet, maybe we shouldn't all be so offended and protective about carrying extra weight? I'm stepping beyond the pregnancy weight gain, because I agree with everyone that Irish was out of line there, but being at an unhealthy weight outside of the pregnancy/breastfeeding part of life? Is it an UO to say that I don't believe that should be a comfortable place?

Let me be honest, my current BMI puts me in the overweight category, but maybe my UO is that really, I'm never going to be okay with that. And not because "society" but because I owe it to myself and my family to be healthier.

I'm sure there are some that can maintain carrying extra weight and still remain healthy, but let's be real, the vast majority cannot. It's affecting your blood pressure and your heart long term. It's affecting your energy levels right now.

[leonard131]

suzubell


If you read my original post you would have seen it was about those that complained about wanting to lose weight and in the same breath stated they don't have time to do any exercise. I specifically said it only takes a couple days a week. Based on your post you just stated you workout on weekends. So you are getting a couple days of exercise. Seems to me that the point of my post doesn't really apply in your situation. But that is my opinion and we all entitled to our opinion and how we each individually feel.


Women come in all shapes and sizes. Some of the strongest , fittest most beautiful women I know probably may be considered overweight in some people's eyes. my post was about the complaining and doing nothing about it whether it is diet or exercising. I never once made any comments about weight or body size or said anything about I think everyone should exercise. My point was about the people who complain yet don't make an effort to fit in some type of exercise. I also sympathize with those that are trying and struggle because it sucks. But the difference is they are trying  vs the person who isn't and just wants to complain.

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Feb 21, 2014 11:53:34 GMT -5 dulcemariamar said:

I actually think most people have a preference on the sex of the baby but are too PC to admit it or are afraid of jinxing it. Everyone wants a healthy baby but I also think people have a preference.

I think this is true too for the most part. But, honestly, I have truly, really, never ever cared. And I think that makes me a little weird because I haven't ever met anyone other than. DH that felt the same when it really came down to it.

[Birdie]

Feb 22, 2014 12:41:58 GMT -5 holly116 said:

Okay I'm going to attempt to tread lightly, but from my recent perspective of having my DH in the ER because of his high BP and cholesterol, directly related to his diet, maybe we shouldn't all be so offended and protective about carrying extra weight? I'm stepping beyond the pregnancy weight gain, because I agree with everyone that Irish was out of line there, but being at an unhealthy weight outside of the pregnancy/breastfeeding part of life? Is it an UO to say that I don't believe that should be a comfortable place?

Let me be honest, my current BMI puts me in the overweight category, but maybe my UO is that really, I'm never going to be okay with that. And not because "society" but because I owe it to myself and my family to be healthier.

I'm sure there are some that can maintain carrying extra weight and still remain healthy, but let's be real, the vast majority cannot. It's affecting your blood pressure and your heart long term. It's affecting your energy levels right now.

I'm pretty much here myself. I don't feel that my pregnancy BP problems have anything to do with my weight or eating habits since I gained in the healthy range and ate decent. However, being on the meds and experiencing their side effects has really shown me how much I DON'T want to be on them after pregnancy. Plus not gaining weight like it was my job (like I thought I would) has shown me that some of my habits pre-pregnancy were probably playing into my inability to lose weight and have given me higher motivation to get into better shape after I poop out this kid.

Plus I want to be able to roll around with him on the ground, give him a bath, etc. and I won't be able to do that if it's hard for me to get up and have major back pain from leaning over a tub (exacerbated from excessive weight).

So I guess long story short, I don't feel like anyone should "settle" for just being overweight with no hope, but I also feel like we should encourage each other as women who have made other human beings and understand/accept that that changes our bodies. You can want to lose weight and still feel good about how you currently are - they aren't mutually exclusive like some people think. Positivity is a better motivator to people than shame and guilt.

[Birdie]

Now lets all hold hands

[sent]

Feb 22, 2014 10:37:31 GMT -5 @lcap said:

My UO (probably more for the main board) is that I really enjoyed our trip to Disney World. They make it SO easy for you to plan and make reservations, they take care of your transportation and baggage needs, the potential problem of long lines/crowds has largely been solved by the fast pass stuff. I was impressed by the quality of the food at many of the restaurants. Your kids are practically guaranteed to have a wonderful time. What's not to like (besides the expense, lol).

I can't wait to take my daughter to Disney World either.  My mom and brother can't wait to go with her either.  How soon can we go?  She is 11 weeks now.  I'd want to take her like this fall if not for her, then for me because I haven't been in 12 years.  And I want to go on a Disney cruise too.

My husband would rather go to Croatia, but I'm not feeling Eastern Europe with an infant.  Especially when Disney world probably has so many baby-friendly amenities.

[SallySparrow]

Feb 22, 2014 15:12:17 GMT -5 Birdie said:

Now lets all hold hands

*busts out acoustic guitar*

Anyone know the words to Kumbaya?

Or the chords?

Or know how to play guitar?


I have no UO this week. I'm too exhausted and busy worrying that my kid will never sleep again. Whee!

[Velar Fricative]

Feb 22, 2014 16:12:40 GMT -5 sent said:

Feb 22, 2014 10:37:31 GMT -5 @lcap said:

My UO (probably more for the main board) is that I really enjoyed our trip to Disney World. They make it SO easy for you to plan and make reservations, they take care of your transportation and baggage needs, the potential problem of long lines/crowds has largely been solved by the fast pass stuff. I was impressed by the quality of the food at many of the restaurants. Your kids are practically guaranteed to have a wonderful time. What's not to like (besides the expense, lol).

I can't wait to take my daughter to Disney World either.  My mom and brother can't wait to go with her either.  How soon can we go?  She is 11 weeks now.  I'd want to take her like this fall if not for her, then for me because I haven't been in 12 years.  And I want to go on a Disney cruise too.

My husband would rather go to Croatia, but I'm not feeling Eastern Europe with an infant.  Especially when Disney world probably has so many baby-friendly amenities.

Croatia is amazing!

I did not know liking DW was a UO. I've never been and am excited to go with DD. DH wants to wait until she's a little older and can remember it because he loves his childhood memories there, so we are thinking of going right before she starts kindergarten.

[h]

We had an absolute ball in Disney World last year. We had a fab time at Legoland, too. And in Croatia, for the matter . I don't get the weird judgment regarding vacation preferences.

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Feb 22, 2014 17:34:46 GMT -5 Velar Fricative said:

Feb 22, 2014 16:12:40 GMT -5 sent said:

I can't wait to take my daughter to Disney World either.  My mom and brother can't wait to go with her either.  How soon can we go?  She is 11 weeks now.  I'd want to take her like this fall if not for her, then for me because I haven't been in 12 years.  And I want to go on a Disney cruise too.

My husband would rather go to Croatia, but I'm not feeling Eastern Europe with an infant.  Especially when Disney world probably has so many baby-friendly amenities.

Croatia is amazing!

I did not know liking DW was a UO. I've never been and am excited to go with DD. DH wants to wait until she's a little older and can remember it because he loves his childhood memories there, so we are thinking of going right before she starts kindergarten.

We just got back and DS is 5 (starting kindergarten next fall) and it was the perfect age!

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Feb 22, 2014 17:34:46 GMT -5 Velar Fricative said:

Feb 22, 2014 16:12:40 GMT -5 sent said:

I can't wait to take my daughter to Disney World either.  My mom and brother can't wait to go with her either.  How soon can we go?  She is 11 weeks now.  I'd want to take her like this fall if not for her, then for me because I haven't been in 12 years.  And I want to go on a Disney cruise too.

My husband would rather go to Croatia, but I'm not feeling Eastern Europe with an infant.  Especially when Disney world probably has so many baby-friendly amenities.

Croatia is amazing!

I did not know liking DW was a UO. I've never been and am excited to go with DD. DH wants to wait until she's a little older and can remember it because he loves his childhood memories there, so we are thinking of going right before she starts kindergarten.

There was a long thread on the main page a couple weeks ago about not understanding the Disney love. If was the week before we were scheduled to go, so it stuck out in my mind. It's great for people with little kids but I admit that I *am* looking forward to them being a bit older so we can start going to more adventurous locations. Personally, I would choose Croatia over DW in a heartbeat if I didn't have three munchkins and no one to leave them with

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Feb 22, 2014 17:43:48 GMT -5 h said:

We had an absolute ball in Disney World last year. We had a fab time at Legoland, too. And in Croatia, for the matter . I don't get the weird judgment regarding vacation preferences.

Legoland in CA? I understand it's near San Diego? Did you combine it with Disneyland? How many days did you do there?

[h]

Feb 23, 2014 11:37:40 GMT -5 @lcap said:

Feb 22, 2014 17:43:48 GMT -5 h said:

We had an absolute ball in Disney World last year. We had a fab time at Legoland, too. And in Croatia, for the matter . I don't get the weird judgment regarding vacation preferences.

Legoland in CA? I understand it's near San Diego? Did you combine it with Disneyland? How many days did you do there?

Yes, the one near San Diego (I have heard the FL one isn't as great, and the Legoland discovery centers in Dallas, Kansas City, Chicago, etc. aren't the same thing as the amusement parks at all). My boys loved it! It is small and not nearly as overwhelming and crowded as Disney, and most of the rides are geared to about the 3-8 yo set, so it is great for little kids. It was clean, pleasant, and had reasonable food options in the park. The attached water park is really cute, too. They have a great play area for toddlers and splash pad areas--we went when DS2 was only 14 months, and it was great for him. There is a fun little attached aquarium. Plus a lot of really awesome, huge Lego creations to admire.

We went to SD for five days and planned to do two days at Legoland, a day at the San Diego Zoo, a day at Sea World, and a chill day at the beach/hotel pool. But DS1 begged to go back to Legoland, so we ended up scrapping Sea World and doing an extra day there.

I totally recommend SD with kids. Go for a long weekend and do a day or two at Legoland, a day at the zoo, check out the beach, etc. It is cheaper and requires less planning and effort than Disney World, and it's great for families with little bitty kids. I don't think it would be nearly as exciting for older kids or tweens.

[rootbeerfloat]

Feb 23, 2014 11:37:40 GMT -5 @lcap said:

Feb 22, 2014 17:43:48 GMT -5 h said:

We had an absolute ball in Disney World last year. We had a fab time at Legoland, too. And in Croatia, for the matter . I don't get the weird judgment regarding vacation preferences.

Legoland in CA? I understand it's near San Diego? Did you combine it with Disneyland? How many days did you do there?

We've done Legoland and Disneyland (and Sea World) on separate trips. (SIL lives in SD, so we visit frequently.) My sister did both on one trip and thought her kid was overwhelmed, but he's kind of intense, lol. I personally wouldn't do both on the same trip either, but I think it can be done.

Legoland only needs 1 day. For DL/CA, I think 2-3.

[mdana]

Feb 23, 2014 16:49:36 GMT -5 swizz said:

Lol, late to the party but I only gained 18lbs and I subsisted on McD's for weeks at a time. I did not exercise outside a bit of walking during lunch. My body was just awesome efficient at being pregnant.

I sucked at breastfeeding though and feel so embarrassed pulling out formula to feed C in public. I'm also embarrassed she has to wear the helmet and always feel that both reflect on shitty parenting (and I feel totally certain that both feelings are thanks to the internet).

I also hate the feeling that I have to disclaimer my good sleeper with the I know that could change! Mainly bc it's the whole you'll understand when she gets older bullshit.

I do too.  I often feel like because N is an extremely mellow baby, my experience as a mom isn't quite as valid. Or because he's only 4 months, or because I only have one baby, etc.  I know I have A LOT to learn and a lot more to experience, and I know everything will change, but it doesn't mean that I'm less of a mom because I'm not facing those challenges, you know?  I don't think that the "just wait!" people mean it like that, of course, but it's still there in the back of my mind.

[anna7602]

Feb 21, 2014 16:30:05 GMT -5 irish said:

I think that pregnancy gains of 40/50/60+ pounds are ridiculous. For singleton pregnancies. How and why you would let that happen is beyond me. Saying you are "eating for two" is not acceptable - you aren't. End of.

Um, okay. I gained 40 lbs. during my first pregnancy. I ate rather healthily and took tons of prenatal yoga and water aerobics classes, and walked most places since I don't have a car.  I ended up losing most of the weight soon after having DD and losing 50 lbs. total within a year of having her.

I think it's shitty when people assume weight gain is directly a result of poor eating habits. But it's okay, my doctor was in the same camp you are and shamed me into thinking that my desire for a med-free vaginal birth was unrealistic and that I was "eating my way" toward a necessary C-section. I did, happily, prove her wrong and end up with the birth experience I desired. I listened to my body and gained what I feel I needed to gain to have a healthy pregnancy.

[anna7602]

Feb 22, 2014 7:43:33 GMT -5 curbsideprophet said:

Feb 21, 2014 13:27:40 GMT -5 SJ said:

Ok fine. I am not looking to fight with anyone (because I frankly don't care if people disagree with me) and I KNOW THAT I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT IT'S LIKE TO HAVE A CHILD.


-I think it's really weird that parents "these days" stay at birthday parties & playdates

I agree that most if the things you listed are not that unpopular, but I do question this one.

What age does this start to apply? DD is going to a birthday party tonight. The girl is turning three and DD is not quite 2.5 yet. I am certainly not just going to drop her off.

Maybe part if the issue is there are more parties for the two/three/four year old set and staying just becomes a habit.

When I lived in France, drop-off parties started at age 4. This felt about right to me. I came back to the U.S. and was asked to stay for a 5-year-old party. That seemed like total BS to me. DD completely ignored me during the whole party and I just stood in a corner with other equally ignored-by-their-children parents.

But then again, DD also went away overnight with her school at age 5 in France. I can't imagine an American school taking kids away overnight here.

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I gained zero pounds despite eating ice cream like every night and sleeping 12 hours a day. I don't have an unpopular opinion. I just like to brag that despite being fat I did not get any fatter while pregnant.