This is rude bride etiquette, right?

[TrickyBob]

I was creeping on the fb of someone who sent us a wedding invite and she was bitching about how they had to pay for the wedding themselves and that space is limited. She followed this up by saying that those who didn't get invited to the wedding will be invited to the wedding shower. 

People find this acceptable? 

If I got invited to a wedding shower and not the wedding, I'd be inclined to believe I was just another gift to the bride. 

[jaycee]

I always thought the shower is only for those invited to the wedding.

No way would I go to a shower if I wasn't invited to the wedding!

[FastHands]

Yeah, super rude.

[ECB]

Yes, rude. "Come bring me a gift, but you won't be invited to the whole POINT of the shower - the wedding....".

I wouldn't go.

[chiclet]

Yeah, that's rude. I would not go.

[wannabe]

Rude beyond belief.

Confession: I'd still want to go just to see the train wreck.

[venice2007]

Ugh I hate this but it seems to be becoming the norm. I know several brides doing this. Not any wedding I'm invited to but friends sisters/friends doing it. Awful!

[janegold]

Does she expect that people who aren't invited to the wedding are going to be consoled by the fact that they get to attend a gift-giving event before the wedding? Ooooh, goody!

WTF is wrong with people.

[TrickyBob]

She also keeps openly complaining that her family hasn't helped her pay for the wedding. Every single status about her upcoming wedding, she works in "we had to pay for this ourselves, now we cannot afford this or that because we had to pay for a wedding"

[Jermys]

I've gone to two showers where I wasn't invited to the wedding. Both were destination weddings where it was pretty much only family. I was okay with that.

[ECB]

Mar 12, 2014 9:19:07 GMT -5 TrickyBob said:

She also keeps openly complaining that her family hasn't helped her pay for the wedding. Every single status about her upcoming wedding, she works in "we had to pay for this ourselves, now we cannot afford this or that because we had to pay for a wedding"

Klassy.  She might find herself w/ even fewer people attending than expected.  Because seriously- after enough of those posts, I might be tempted to decline in order to "save them some money".  Hell. Way to make your guests feel like a burden.

[TrickyBob]

Mar 12, 2014 9:19:42 GMT -5 Jermys said:

I've gone to two showers where I wasn't invited to the wedding. Both were destination weddings where it was pretty much only family. I was okay with that.

That I can understand and seems acceptable. 

[anlo]

Mar 12, 2014 9:17:29 GMT -5 janegold said:

Does she expect that people who aren't invited to the wedding are going to be consoled by the fact that they get to attend a gift-giving event before the wedding? Ooooh, goody!

WTF is wrong with people.

This is what it sounds like.

"Don't worry, you can still bring me a gift!"

[tdk2]

Yes.

But I also think we new to tag nuggetbrain on all rude bride posts from here on out.

[TrickyBob]

I feel like nugget's sister and this woman need to get together. lol

[Deleted]

Mar 12, 2014 9:23:03 GMT -5 tdk2 said:

Yes.

But I also think we new to tag nuggetbrain on all rude bride posts from here on out.

Don't you think she has enough of that in her life? No.

[zitiqueen]

If you aren't invited to the wedding, you shouldn't be invited to any wedding-related pre-parties, even for a destination wedding. It's gift-grabby -- you're good enough to give me a gift but not good enough to be invited to the wedding. I had a destination wedding and my wedding shower consisted of 10 people, including me. Those people were also invited to the wedding.

[tdk2]

Mar 12, 2014 9:24:46 GMT -5 @missusbee said:

Mar 12, 2014 9:23:03 GMT -5 tdk2 said:

Yes.

But I also think we new to tag nuggetbrain on all rude bride posts from here on out.

Don't you think she has enough of that in her life? No.

I think she could Have a free pass to at least us all.

Or maybe on the odd chance there's a more crazy bride out there...

[Waffles]

I definitely wouldn't go to the shower if I wasn't invited to the wedding.

Very rude and gift grabbing.

[chiclet]

Mar 12, 2014 9:19:07 GMT -5 TrickyBob said:

She also keeps openly complaining that her family hasn't helped her pay for the wedding. Every single status about her upcoming wedding, she works in "we had to pay for this ourselves, now we cannot afford this or that because we had to pay for a wedding"

She should save some money and take a trip to the courthouse.

[TrickyBob]

Mar 12, 2014 9:34:46 GMT -5 chiclet said:

Mar 12, 2014 9:19:07 GMT -5 TrickyBob said:

She also keeps openly complaining that her family hasn't helped her pay for the wedding. Every single status about her upcoming wedding, she works in "we had to pay for this ourselves, now we cannot afford this or that because we had to pay for a wedding"

She should save some money and take a trip to the courthouse.

She did that for her 2nd wedding






(I am not judging multiple marriages, people can get married as many times as they want)

[chiclet]

Mar 12, 2014 9:35:19 GMT -5 TrickyBob said:

Mar 12, 2014 9:34:46 GMT -5 chiclet said:

She should save some money and take a trip to the courthouse.

She did that for her 2nd wedding






(I am not judging multiple marriages, people can get married as many times as they want)

One more time won't hurt!
Weddings can get expensive but dang. Does she have family on her FB?

[TrickyBob]

Mar 12, 2014 9:40:21 GMT -5 chiclet said:

Mar 12, 2014 9:35:19 GMT -5 TrickyBob said:

She did that for her 2nd wedding






(I am not judging multiple marriages, people can get married as many times as they want)

One more time won't hurt!
Weddings can get expensive but dang. Does she have family on her FB?

Yep!

[Deleted]

Mar 12, 2014 9:11:54 GMT -5 TrickyBob said:

I was creeping on the fb of someone who sent us a wedding invite and she was bitching about how they had to pay for the wedding themselves and that space is limited. She followed this up by saying that those who didn't get invited to the wedding will be invited to the wedding shower. 

People find this acceptable? 

If I got invited to a wedding shower and not the wedding, I'd be inclined to believe I was just another gift to the bride. 

This happened to me. Sister of a friend invited me to her bridal shower even though we didn't even like one another but I wasn't invited to the wedding or any of the other bridal events in Vegas and whatnot. I posted something on FB about gift-grabby people and all hell broke loose. How dare I say something like that about her? This is the kind of girl that signs her name to other people's gifts and mooches off of everyone. How could I not think it was gift grabby?

[Deleted]

She has commited two faux-pas here. 1. No one is obligated to pay for your wedding. You are lucky if you have the help. 2. People that are invited to the wedding shower should be invited to the wedding. It's only fair. What a twit.

[cookie510]

Mar 12, 2014 9:19:07 GMT -5 TrickyBob said:

She also keeps openly complaining that her family hasn't helped her pay for the wedding. Every single status about her upcoming wedding, she works in "we had to pay for this ourselves, now we cannot afford this or that because we had to pay for a wedding"

Are you friends with my sister in law?

She hasn't stopped complaining about how broke they becoming paying for their own wedding.

She also is inviting people to her bachelorette that she can't invite to the wedding, I'm not sure if she's doing that for the shower, but I think it's weird.

[chiclet]

Mar 12, 2014 9:42:08 GMT -5 TrickyBob said:

Mar 12, 2014 9:40:21 GMT -5 chiclet said:

One more time won't hurt!
Weddings can get expensive but dang. Does she have family on her FB?

Yep!

Has anyone commented on it?

[TrickyBob]

Mar 12, 2014 10:19:59 GMT -5 chiclet said:

Mar 12, 2014 9:42:08 GMT -5 TrickyBob said:

Yep!

Has anyone commented on it?

No, they all roll their eyes at her behind her back at family gatherings. lol

[gullterre15]

I think this is OK in the case of a destination wedding, but otherwise it is totally rude! PLUS complaining about it on FB. blech

[iammalcolmx]

I am going to go ahead and tag NitaX who was invited to a wedding, RSVP'd, and a month before the wedding the bride asked her to be "on standby" due to the cost of the wedding.