Post by Jennyanydots on Mar 21, 2014 9:05:40 GMT -5
Hi all! Think this is my first post on this board. I have a little girl, Claire, who is about 2.5. Pregnant with my second, due at the end of the summer.
I am wondering people's thoughts on the importance of initials in someone's name. My maiden name is a name that is usually a first name (the type of name that never goes out of style, can be unisex if altered a bit). I always envisioned using it somewhere in my one of my kid's names, and DH has always been supportive of that. If we have a girl, the female version will be the middle name for sure.
DH has vetoed using my maiden name as a first name for a boy. He just doesn't like it for a boy's name. Which is fine with me, because it isn't my favourite for a boy's name and we have a first name for a boy that we love - Benjamin. Our last name starts with G. BUT, if we used it for a middle name, the initials would spell BAG. My first instinct is that this might be a problem. Would he be made fun of, would it be weird to use?
If we didn't go with BAG, we would use my older brother's name (BIG), and yes, we would, of course, nickname him The Notorious B.I.G.
We agonized over C's middle name, and now that she is here, her middle name or initials hardly ever seem to come in to the equation. So I am wondering if I am overthinking this.
This will likely be our last kid, so if we have a boy and don't use BAG, I won't get to incorporate my maiden name anywhere. Thoughts?
I had issues with this because we wanted to use my father's name, which starts with an "I" as a middle name. Everything we came up with spelled some sort of word that we didn't really like! (PIC, DIC, LIC, etc)
I posted about this, as well. Everyone seemed to think as long as the initals didn't spell anything too awful that most people wouldn't even notice.
ETA: We have since moved away from using my father's name as his middle name, and his initials will now be 3 consonants.
Post by Jennyanydots on Mar 21, 2014 9:14:00 GMT -5
Thanks for your thoughts everyone! I am glad to see that I am mostly just overthinking it. I was just worried that to young/teenage boys BAG = nutsack. But maybe I will have the type of boy that would just think that is hilarious and laugh about it.
I wouldn't buy one of those monogrammed backpacks (a backpack that says BAG is just too much for me!) but otherwise I wouldn't hesitate to go with those initials. My initials were RAD, but very few other people knew my middle name so it wasn't really a thing at all.
DS's initials are JAP. It really gave me pause for a while and I questioned his name my whole pregnancy(and before since we had names picked out for 2 years) but I love his name so I just went with it. He's not Japanese so I figure it's ok. Anything monogramed would be jPa anyway.
Post by shellbear09 on Mar 21, 2014 9:42:43 GMT -5
My daughter is Claire too :). I don't think initials are really important at all unless its super bad and those aren't. At work I use my first and last initial a lot but I can't think of when I ever use all three.
The only ones I'd actively avoid are ones like ASS or TIT or whatever.
I agree. NBD just because the initials spell a word; what matters to me is whether it's a word other kids will tease them for (because kids do notice these things). A coworker gave her daughter a lovely name, but the initials are HAG. I have a feeling that girl already has her middle-school nickname.
As long as it's not a curse word, I don't worry about the initials.
I ended up giving my son BJ for first and middle initials. About a week before his birth I panicked and polled my local board and I think the baby names board on that other site and everyone reassured me it was ok. I got over it and gave him the name anyway because we loved it. So in my opinion BAG is nothing!
Post by statlerwaldorf on Mar 21, 2014 11:39:40 GMT -5
I don't think it's important, but DH vetoed one of our names because the initials would be EAR. Although now he wants to reconsider our middle name because he doesn't like the sound of MAR which I don't understand.