Would you say something?

[cgpm]

My mom's birthday is a few days after Easter so I offered to host Easter with my parents, my brother and his FI, and my aunt and uncle. Apparently my mom talked to my brother today and he said he plans on coming home Friday of that weekend and leaving Sunday around 1pm, so before dinner. He's going to school a little over an hour away. He said he's probably going to need to do homework.

While I completely get the homework thing, I don't think he understands how disappointed my mom is. He's been kind of blowing off birthdays and holidays recently and I feel like he only comes to things so he can go through the motions.

i kind of want to call to invite him to the Easter dinner so he can tell me he isn't coming and I can broach the subject. And if HW is the issue, he could do it on Fri. Evening/Saturday morning and come home a little later because the dinner can't be Saturday. At the same time, I don't want to overstep my bounds. 

What would you wise ladies do?

[cgpm]

Apr 11, 2014 15:27:30 GMT -5 RockNVoll said:

Well, to be fair, he's planning on being home for 2.5 days of family time, if I'm reading correctly. Even if he stays for dinner on Sunday, that's not your mom's actual birthday--were you advertising dinner that night as her birthday dinner?

And I don't think it's fair to assume that him coming later on Saturday works better in his plans than leaving earlier on Sunday. Since we don't know what your relationship with your brother is like we can't really tell you how or if to broach the subject, but since you seem to be reluctant to bring it up straight I'm going to assume you should just MYOB.

Yes, Sunday was advertised as her birthday dinner. 

I'm fairly close with my brother, although he's become more distant since he started dating his now FI. Which makes me sad. I don't think he knows he can still have platonic relationships with women besides her. I'm really hoping he grows out of this. 

[liveintheville]

Personally I wouldn't, but I only have older siblings. If I said I had to miss something due to homework it'd probably be because I had a set study time, lab, or study group or something.

[cgpm]

Well he and I chatted a little and I wasn't as direct as I had planned to be, but it went well. I know I should MMOB, but he's my only sibling and lately he's been letting all the responsibility of family obligations fall to me, which he will probably do for the rest of his life. Lol.

[mcc]

Easter birthday brunch instead?