I found an interesting site while looking for an update on those poor babies. It has a pretty good summary of both of her blog posts so you don’t have to give her clicks. Plus, this thread is mentioned at the end. www.whatistheharm.com/blog/the-harm-of-megan-heimerredshaw
Oh wow I made it to the end and that is just one disaster after another. Those poor children.
I was surprised to see the shoutout to GBCN at the end.
I can't believe I wasted even more time on this ridiculousness, but I just read the what's the harm post. We're famous!! Megan is clearly deeply disturbed and it's rather obvious that her recollections hold no similarity to the truth. What I wonder is if she made the entire thing up, or if there are children that she has some connection to on some level. Is she completely delusional, a total conwoman, or some combination of the two?
“...I helped them with their adoption paperwork and vaccination exemptions.”
I'm a little surprised that they let people foster without full vax for everyone in the house.
Some states require everyone be vaccinated. Others only require you keep the foster placements fully vaccinated.
All of this is disgusting. Those poor poor kids. We have been through the deepest trenches with our adopted daughter. Even in the hardest times, I never ever considered ‘re-homing’ her. She is my child. Through and through. But, I know this is a thing. There’s a Facebook page called ‘Second Chance Adoptions’. They deal solely with children who were adopted (sometimes multiple times) and their parents are looking to re-home them. I think that many of the parents have the mindset of ‘all they need is a little bit of love’ and are shocked when that isn’t the case. Even then, figure it out.
I mean, to be fair if what she's described is even remotely true, he's a dick as well. Cheating on her, leaving her while she was pregnant and at the very end of their adoption process (I think the paperwork was all set and the first kid came home just a few months later?) and leaving her to figure it all out...that's pretty bad. Regardless, my sympathy at this point lies solely with those kids.
I read the blog posts last night and the deeply disturbed feeling won't go away. I am so angry that these kids were allowed to be adopted by her and put in this awful position. I am so angry at the adoption agency that is apparently no longer in business (surprise surprise) that allowed the christian saviors to swoop in and buy kids to make themselves feel like good people.
The line in the blog about teaching her (4 year old?) adopted daughter how to act around men made me want to vomit.
Megan Redshaw is a nutcase and possibly a sociopath and I hope she never gets to see those kids again.
I mean, to be fair if what she's described is even remotely true, he's a dick as well. Cheating on her, leaving her while she was pregnant and at the very end of their adoption process (I think the paperwork was all set and the first kid came home just a few months later?) and leaving her to figure it all out...that's pretty bad. Regardless, my sympathy at this point lies solely with those kids.
Oh I agree. He sounds like a total dick, but Megan Heimer is also not a reliable reporter.
It also makes no sense to me why HIS relatives would be the ones to adopt those kids (and then abandon them). Why would HIS family get involved with kids he has said he wants nothing to do with.
Guys so we really think any of this happened, other then the divorce?
Is there any proof these kids ever were in her care?
I do not.
I think some version of this happened. At one point she had pictures of all 5 kids on her FB. She's part of a FB weightlifting group that I'm on, so I'd check out her profile when she'd post. At some point, it dropped back to her 3 biological kids. She met the new guy at a crossfit gym.
There's just so much to unpack here. The white saviorism: She saved the kids, but provided so much for them while they were at the orphanage, but they were starving and malnourished when they got here. Her "non-profits" that both herself and her mom started. (BTW, you want to go down a white "Christian" female rabbit hole, start looking into how many of these self-proclaimed martyrs have started a "non-profit in Africa".)
I don't think she gave a shit about the kids until CPS got involved. It's on brand for her to suddenly want those kids back, and to have this gigantic battle with them over it. Little good Christian her fighting the big bad government. I wonder if the Camera men have contacted her yet.
Guys so we really think any of this happened, other then the divorce?
Is there any proof these kids ever were in her care?
I do not.
I think some version of this happened. At one point she had pictures of all 5 kids on her FB. She's part of a FB weightlifting group that I'm on, so I'd check out her profile when she'd post. At some point, it dropped back to her 3 biological kids. She met the new guy at a crossfit gym.
There's just so much to unpack here. The white saviorism: She saved the kids, but provided so much for them while they were at the orphanage, but they were starving and malnourished when they got here. Her "non-profits" that both herself and her mom started. (BTW, you want to go down a white "Christian" female rabbit hole, start looking into how many of these self-proclaimed martyrs have started a "non-profit in Africa".)
I don't think she gave a shit about the kids until CPS got involved. It's on brand for her to suddenly want those kids back, and to have this gigantic battle with them over it. Little good Christian her fighting the big bad government. I wonder if the Camera men have contacted her yet.
I think your last paragraph is spot on. She says she had a chance to go get them and didn't because reasons. If she really wanted them, she would have gone to get them then.
Totally not on topic, but the linked blog lists a lot of bad "crunchy" things Megan follows like anti-vax, avoiding modern medicine, detoxes, etc... but why is "no circumcision" listed on there? Am I missing something?
Totally not on topic, but the linked blog lists a lot of bad "crunchy" things Megan follows like anti-vax, avoiding modern medicine, detoxes, etc... but why is "no circumcision" listed on there? Am I missing something?
I'm going to try to keep this as neutral as possible - there is a lot of research around circumcision that is both pro and against. None of it is emphatically conclusive, despite what either side presents. There's been backlash against the militant intactivists in that they're often usually anti-vaxx as well.
Totally not on topic, but the linked blog lists a lot of bad "crunchy" things Megan follows like anti-vax, avoiding modern medicine, detoxes, etc... but why is "no circumcision" listed on there? Am I missing something?
I'm going to try to keep this as neutral as possible - there are is a lot of research around circumcision that is both pro and against. None of it is emphatically conclusive, despite what either side presents. There's been backlash against the militant intactivists in that they're often usually anti-vaxx as well.
Thank you!! I had just never heard this as negative or a "crunchy" thing so I was curious.
I found it also weird that she wouldn’t pay a ransom to rescue “her kids” on “principal.” She just wouldn’t even entertain it. And then her story didn’t explain further and somehow she got them out? How?
Also the amount of money she claims to have spent has to be in the hundreds of thousands. As a single mom who does online media marketing from home?
I found it also weird that she wouldn’t pay a ransom to rescue “her kids” on “principal.” She just wouldn’t even entertain it. And then her story didn’t explain further and somehow she got them out? How?
Also the amount of money she claims to have spent has to be in the hundreds of thousands. As a single mom who does online media marketing from home?
It’s all insane.
She says Her parents sold their house or land or something.
I found it also weird that she wouldn’t pay a ransom to rescue “her kids” on “principal.” She just wouldn’t even entertain it. And then her story didn’t explain further and somehow she got them out? How?
Also the amount of money she claims to have spent has to be in the hundreds of thousands. As a single mom who does online media marketing from home?
It’s all insane.
This got me. You don’t leave a young, scared child in the hands of unknown strangers for 3 weeks *on principle.* You pay the bribe and be done with it.
I found it also weird that she wouldn’t pay a ransom to rescue “her kids” on “principal.” She just wouldn’t even entertain it. And then her story didn’t explain further and somehow she got them out? How?
Also the amount of money she claims to have spent has to be in the hundreds of thousands. As a single mom who does online media marketing from home?
It’s all insane.
This got me. You don’t leave a young, scared child in the hands of unknown strangers for 3 weeks *on principle.* You pay the bribe and be done with it.
Especially if that seems to be the local custom and all other parents are doing it...? Why is that your line in the sand?
I love how she pats herself on the back for spending hours learning how to care for her daughter’s hair. It’s not about her daughter’s personal needs. It’s about how much time and effort Megan dedicated to black hair. She deserves another award!!!
Post by icedcoffee on Mar 14, 2019 12:43:56 GMT -5
If this were all really true wouldn't the media have picked it up by now?
Also---if it were really true wouldn't posting the details of an ongoing investigation/battle be incredibly stupid and dangerous? Wouldn't a lawyer know that?
I'm starting to think parts are true (she adopted the kids, she's divorced, she's a nutter), but I'm starting to doubt that the kids were adopted by her ex-H's family and then put into foster care.
If this were all really true wouldn't the media have picked it up by now?
Also---if it were really true wouldn't posting the details of an ongoing investigation/battle be incredibly stupid and dangerous? Wouldn't a lawyer know that?
I'm starting to think parts are true (she adopted the kids, she's divorced, she's a nutter), but I'm starting to doubt that the kids were adopted by her ex-H's family and then put into foster care.
I don't know. It's all crazy.
In one part she criticizes the judge in her ongoing case....
Post by phunluvin82 on Mar 14, 2019 12:47:40 GMT -5
I just hope those kids can get into a situation that is loving, stable, and permanent. And most importantly NOT involving Doctor Megan Heimer Esquire because she is delusional. I think it's VERY telling that when the court was considering giving the kids to her parents, it would have been on the condition that they would have no contact with her, not even photos of her around, etc.
If this were all really true wouldn't the media have picked it up by now?
Also---if it were really true wouldn't posting the details of an ongoing investigation/battle be incredibly stupid and dangerous? Wouldn't a lawyer know that?
I'm starting to think parts are true (she adopted the kids, she's divorced, she's a nutter), but I'm starting to doubt that the kids were adopted by her ex-H's family and then put into foster care.
I don't know. It's all crazy.
In one part she criticizes the judge in her ongoing case....
Yeah, I saw that. That's when I did a little head tilt and was like "uhh...I know people who are dealing with much less serious cases who would never put a word of anything into writing before the trial is over". LOL
If this were all really true wouldn't the media have picked it up by now?
Also---if it were really true wouldn't posting the details of an ongoing investigation/battle be incredibly stupid and dangerous? Wouldn't a lawyer know that?
I'm starting to think parts are true (she adopted the kids, she's divorced, she's a nutter), but I'm starting to doubt that the kids were adopted by her ex-H's family and then put into foster care.
I don't know. It's all crazy.
They weren't adopted by ex-h's family. From what I'm inferring is that Megan tried to rehome the kids with them. There were never any formal adoption proceedings transferring custody, etc. even though she says there were. Something happened, and instead of giving the kids back to Megan, the family who had them gave them to foster care. My own supposition is that they tried to give the kids back to Megan, who ignored them, and the family then dumped the kids. Which is so incredibly shitty of everyone involved. There is not a single person here who isn't to blame in the entire clusterfuck of a situation.
I'm no lawyer, but it looks like they are divorced. The ongoing cases are due to custody/parental issues.
ETA: I need someone to decipher the termination of parental rights statement. ETA2: Termination of parental rights in regard to the adopted kids? It's his lawyer that filed it.
Am I reading this correctly that their divorce was filed in 2015? And then those kids weren't brought home from Congo until like 2017 or 2018, right? I kind of think it's BS that her ex-H is actually a legal guardian of those Congo children.
Also--how is she remarried if her divorce isn't final?
And then there's another case where she was arrested in 2017 for being unlicensed, uninsured and operating a mobile device while driving?
Maybe I'm not reading these correctly though. LOL
ETA: My only law degree is from the Megan Heimer School of Law
ETA2: Nevermind. I guess the adoption was finalized in 2013. Ignore me!