Odd mix of emotions

[bluelikejazz]

Went in for my follow up u/s, and one sac has stopped growing.  The second sac is showing 7w5d, with a good heartbeat/no issues.  So while I'm thrilled to be pg and have a healthy, viable pregnancy, I'm also mourning the loss of a second baby.  It's very odd.  DH is also having a pretty hard time with it.

Also, I can't do the NT scan or the baby's blood type (I'm A-, DH is B+) because of this, so we won't know if anything is wrong until the AS. 

[linz]

I'm sorry. While twins are scary at the end of the day you are still sad to see one go. Try not to let it stress you and pray that the one still stays strong. My RE said we have a 30% chance of losing one so I'm still fearful till we hit 12 weeks.

[mrssandro]

Apr 15, 2014 14:58:17 GMT -5 bluelikejazz said:

Went in for my follow up u/s, and one sac has stopped growing.  The second sac is showing 7w5d, with a good heartbeat/no issues.  So while I'm thrilled to be pg and have a healthy, viable pregnancy, I'm also mourning the loss of a second baby.  It's very odd.  DH is also having a pretty hard time with it.

Also, I can't do the NT scan or the baby's blood type (I'm A-, DH is B+) because of this, so we won't know if anything is wrong until the AS. 

I am so sorry you are dealing with a loss.  

Why can't you have a NT Scan? I was just curious. DH and are also opposite blood types. I have to get a RH negative shot because of it. 

[bluelikejazz]

Apr 15, 2014 15:03:15 GMT -5 mrssandro said:

Apr 15, 2014 14:58:17 GMT -5 bluelikejazz said:

Went in for my follow up u/s, and one sac has stopped growing.  The second sac is showing 7w5d, with a good heartbeat/no issues.  So while I'm thrilled to be pg and have a healthy, viable pregnancy, I'm also mourning the loss of a second baby.  It's very odd.  DH is also having a pretty hard time with it.

Also, I can't do the NT scan or the baby's blood type (I'm A-, DH is B+) because of this, so we won't know if anything is wrong until the AS. 

I am so sorry you are dealing with a loss.  

Why can't you have a NT Scan? I was just curious. DH and are also opposite blood types. I have to get a RH negative shot because of it. 

Apparently the second baby causes the hormone they test for to be higher, so the bloodwork will comeback artificially elevated.  They can still do the u/s portion, but the b/w won't tell us anything.  At least that was what I understood.

For the Rh Factor they can just "do it the old fashioned way" and give me the RhIg shot at 28 weeks to be safe.

[mrssandro]

Makes sense. I am sorry you are dealing with that.

[pinotgrig]

I'm so sorry - it is a strange mix of emotions. We originally had 2 sacs as well and while the thought of twins was overwhelming, the idea grew on us quickly and we got SO attached. When we found out that one was gone, it was hard. You're elated to have one healthy one, but sad to lose one. I remember almost nothing from that appt after the u/s we had done before we saw the doc because I was just trying to process the news.

I completely understand what you're feeling. I promise it does get better and it happened to me more quickly than I would have thought. Hang in there. Hugs.

[robinsbff]

i'm sorry about the bad news but happy for the good news. wishing you and DH comfort as you work through your emotions.

[D2M]

I'm sorry for your loss.

[mrspost08]

I am so sorry! My mom had this happen with me. She lost my twin.

[zarapipe]

I'm sorry for you loss

[luv2rn4fun]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[magdala]

I am so sorry for your loss. Some offices have an employee assistance program with counsellors to help you with your loss. Losing one baby, even when another baby is expected, is a real loss that needs to be mourned. Counselling helps so many, it may help you and your DH too.

[bluelikejazz]

Thanks everyone. I know it will get better, but I'm sure we'll be sad for a few days.

[Blue Moon]

I'm sorry for the loss of the twin. Hoping the other baby continues to stay healthy and grow.

[hokiegirl82]

Sorry to hear that but good vibes for a wonderful healthy baby

[mannah]

I'm so sorry to hear this. My sister had the same thing happen. She did not really fully mourn the loss of her other baby until a few years later and she said she should have dealt with those feelings sooner. I hope you are able to process your grief and simultaneous joy in a way that is healing and healthy for you. We are here for you.

[SJ]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss.

[MrsDarcy]

Sorry to you, bluelikejazz, and others who have lost twins.

[OrangeTree]

Sorry for your loss, and congrats on the one very healthy baby!

[KaraOrNot]

I am sorry for your loss.

[loira]

I am very sorry for your loss. I am sending good thoughts that you have a healthy and uneventful pregnancy with your baby.

[bowies]

I think what you're feeling is totally normal. I'm so sorry for your loss.

We weren't able to do the b/w with the NT scan either, but did the u/s portion. I'm really glad we did - though we didn't have anything definitive, having the measurements was a big reassurance to us.

[awick14]

I am so sorry for your loss. ((Hugs))

[theatre4life]

**hugs** I am sorry for your loss, but congrats on the second one being healthy!

[melsamoony]

I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers that your baby remains healthy and you have a good A/S!