My house and car are always trashed. The sheets are clean, dishes usually aren't in the sink, laundry is clean in baskets and I vacuum once a week, but I have a 3 and 4 year old and a cat and dog. I changed my sheets this morning and vaccumed my room, took a load of laundry downstairs, and came back to find my son eating cheddar bunnies in my bed and my daughter dumping out a basekt of toys on the floor. While they're at their dad's I keep it a bit cleaner but I'm a student and work part time so there's not much time to clean.
Have you ever had a guy get judgemental about the messiness? I'm guessing it won't be a big thing since I'm not a casual sex kind of person and that weeds out a lot of people who might mind.
Never had someone say a word. I do try to do a 5-minute clean-up before I leave for that kind of a date. Make the bed, put dishes in the sink, arrange mess into piles, put laundry into hamper, etc. But if a man complained about my house I'd escort him right out!
My place is clean, but not always organized or tidy. If someone doesn't like it they can leave.
That being said I did not bring anyone back to my place that wasn't a super serious and they have never spent the night. Then again I always have my kid, so I do not have much opportunity for overnights.