Post by Velvetshady on Apr 17, 2014 9:11:58 GMT -5
Honestly, turning 30 was the hardest birthday for me so far. Partly, I was dealing with depression issues--somewhat due to needing serious changes to my asthma/allergy meds and somewhat because I wasn't anywhere near where I thought I'd be in life and I was watching friends (even younger friends) achieving some goals I thought I wanted. I had just gotten myself out of debt but had no savings and no real assets. I wasn't happy with where my career was. I had just ended a long-term relationship I should have ended much earlier.
But, before you jump off a bridge...I spent that year rethinking my goals and my life. I got on the right combo of meds so I could actually breathe and function like a normal person. I realized that the goals I'd set in my early 20s weren't goals I actually wanted anymore. I became proud of what I had done in my 20s vs regretting what I hadn't done. Let me say that again because it's the most important thing, I became proud of what I had done in my 20s vs regretting what I hadn't done. I took on a major challenge at work, kicked butt, got my job shaped to be just what I want it to be and realized that I would not actually enjoy doing what I thought I wanted when I was younger. I have the confidence I *could* do the job; I realized I don't want to do that job. I figured out that the achievements of my friends I was jealous over, weren't achievements the 30-year-old me really wanted/needed. I became truly comfortable with who I am and what I want out of life. I learned to not care what other people expected me to do/want and to not care what they were doing differently. And I learned that I love the life I have.
My 30s were great. The greatest years so far. My 40s started with less turn than my 30s did and I'm looking forward to the rest of them.
Post by cherryvalance on Apr 17, 2014 9:12:12 GMT -5
Turning 30nwas awesome. As PP said! I feel great and much more confident than I did in my twenties.
The only part of being in my thirties that's been rough is dealing with IF; I thought I would have children by now. Other than that, the thirties are great!