Why is having a son amazing?

[zarapipe]

We will find out in 11 days what we are having!! We were going to wait and be team green, but after posting here and thinking about it we decided to find out. I have a wee bit of gender preference for a girl going on and if it is a boy I need a few months to wrap my head around that. I have a girl, I know girls, I love my girl to death, I love girl things, and boys scare the shit out of it. I know ultimately I will be so thrilled to have a healthy baby in my arms that I don't care what sex it is, but I really don't want to have a gut reaction of disappointment at the u/s if it is a boy and I think that is what is going to happen  and that scares me too.

I have a brother and he doesn't have a close relationship with my mom. I think that is most of it. It's not strained or hateful or anything, they just aren't close. He doesn't need her and has always been independent and not really "into" family. We also aren't close. I know none of this is sex specific, but I think the chances are higher that girls are closer to their moms and siblings? Crazy, probably.  Plus, I would love DD to have a sister because I never did. I'm afraid that her relationship with a future brother is going to turn out like my relationship with my brother.

Sooo, why is having a boy so incredible awesome that I will be completely at ease and excited to have one.

[havarti]

Because he is your child. That you and the man you love made. And he is perfect.

[Deleted]

With the obvious disclaimer that kids don't necessarily follow gender norms and you'll love a son no matter what:
Boy stuff is more fun on the character end: monsters, dinosaurs, superheros. I love these things.
My boy adores me.
You get to buy a new wardrobe for him, and decide if you prefer the "little old man" look or the "surfing monkeys" look.

I do think that men as adults generally are less "into" family relationships, but my DH is pretty good about taking care of his parents. My brothers, less so, but that may be because we have sisters to compensate. I'm not super-duper close to any of my siblings, but we all get along.

[runblondie26]

I'll admit to some disappointment when I found out we were having a brother instead of a sister for DD. Girls were all I knew.

Of course the moment I laid eyes on him it was overpowering love. He is the snuggliest, happiest little baby ever. I can't imagine our family any other way now. Aside from diaper changes, I've yet to really experience differences in raising a girl vs. boy, since DS is still so young. I do think it'll be fun getting to experience having one of each.

[Deleted]

Boys are totally awesome, fun and sweet. I would be absolutely thrilled to have one of each, they can learn so much from each other.

A note: My mother cried when she found out her 3rd was a boy. She had two girls, and had kind of mentally assumed this one would be a girl as well. My mom explained to me that she cried because she felt "prepared" as a girl mom, she already had those! No sweat! But this was new and scary and unknown and she thought she had conquered those fears since it wasn't her first rodeo. It was also my parents decidedly last pregnancy after a string of miscarriages, so she thinks she would have cried if it was a girl knowing that she would no longer have the option of having a son. Pregnancy is a complicated bundle of emotions. And my brother was smitten with my mom as a kid, it was adorable. They're still super close now. He's definitely the better, more involved kid out of the three of us.

[katandkevin]

I have a brother and a sister and I am equally close to both of them. I also have a son and a daughter and they are the best thing that has ever happened to me. My son is a total mama's boy. His smile absolutely melts my heart. I am the one he wants when he is hurt or scared. I can say all the same things for my daughter too. My kids are twins and I would have been thrilled with 2 boys, 2 girls or one of each. They are my kids that are a part of both me and my husband.

[Brie]

Honestly, it's all what you make of it. Especially these days, I don't think gender constructions are as strict as they once were, so I feel really uncomfortable saying "boys are the BEST!" because basically...boys and girls are both equally awesome. And really? They're not all that different, IME, unless you push them to be that way.

Also: tiny bowties.

[arch01]

I'm just not a girl mom. I'm not. I don't do the makeup, frilly clothes, pink, etc. A boy is awesome for me. Trucks and dirt? Yes, please. Not saying that girls don't get into these things too, but the association is there.

A boy loves his mama. Even though DH is by far the preferred parent at this point, a little boy adores his mama. Just like daddy's little girl... mama's boy is an awesome thing (until they're old enough to be picked on for that).

One of the things I LOVE about having a boy is watching DH teach him how to treat women. It is really great to watch DH teach him about doing nice things to show me they love me... and DH tells me that he looks forward to teaching DS how to treat a lady down the road when he's dating, engaged, and married.

[charlotteandwilbur]

I too had a slight preference for having a girl. I mean, I am a girl, and I like being a girl, and I like the idea of being a mom to a girl.

But oh I love my little boy to pieces. He is sooooo sweet and silly and rambunctious all wrapped up into one. He frequently stops playing to come over and bury his head in my chest and give me a hug. He loves to snuggle but he also loves to dance and sing and wrestle and play with cars and sticks and rocks. Of course, your little guy will be a different person entirely, but you will fall in love with who that person is!

For hypo baby #2, I truly have no preference, because I think having another little boy would be so awesome, and of course it would be great to experience parenting a girl, too.

[badgergrl]

I could have written this post 9 months ago. We really wanted another gril, and my dd really wanted a sister.. Even after my us I thought maybe the tech was wrong.

Fast forward to ds being 6 weeks old. He is the smileiest, charmer of a baby. My dh and I laugh now about our "gender disappointment". Plus it's been fun to buy new clothes

[zarapipe]

@mrswindycity I do think about my Dh with a little clone of him and it already melts my heart.

The weird thing- I totally wanted a DD to be a boy before we found out. Then the minute we found out it was a girl I was overjoyed. I hope it's the same this time, but my preference is a bit stronger this time like someone (sorry forgot the pp) said, I know girls and I'm prepared for one.

[osulori]

I admit to having a flash of disappointment when I found out I was having a boy, but it was really just a flash. I think it was more of a "aw man, no glitter and tutus and ruffles" feeling.

Then I realized that I'm not a huge glitter and tutus person. I really am more of a monsters and superheros person. And I hate ruffles. And baby headbands. But more than that-he is awesome and snuggly and laid back and absolutely perfect in every was I could imagine...because he's my son. And yours will be all those things and then some whether it's a boy or a girl

[Deleted]

I have this on DS's bedroom door. The opportunity to raise a good man is definitely pretty cool.

[scribellesam]

I have a very typical (stereotypical) boy and I just love him to bits. He's a force of nature; we refer to him as Hurricane DS. He's always moving and running and climbing and yelling. If he sits still long enough to color or do a puzzle for ten minutes we're shocked. But he is so affectionate and so cuddly. DH and I get running hug tackles daily and one of his favorite things is to cuddle up under my arm and watch Curious George, looking over and giving me kisses or hugs every five minutes. He's the opposite of sensitive and loves for me to play "monster" and chase him around the house roaring and jumping out from behind corners to startle him.

All of this energy is of course very challenging when it comes to discipline and he's pretty much the terror of the toddler room at Sunday School but he's amazing and I wouldn't change a thing.

[mellymel]

I was terrified to have a boy. I cried a little during the ultrasound when we found out DS was a boy because I was hoping for a girl.

Now, DS is turning 3 next month. I love having a little boy SO MUCH. He is awesome.

Dressing little boys is almost as fun, if not more fun, than dressing little girls. Adorable button-down shirts, bowties (!!!!!), hats, etc. There is some adorable, handsome stuff out there.

I love watching a mini-DH run around our house.

I love watching DH have a little boy to teach how to do stuff, watch sports together, play outside and work on projects together.

I love watching him be an adventurous little daredevil.

He's just the sweetest thing. He loves his mama.

I have a little girl now, too. And you know what? I do not even care about their genders at all anymore. They are their own little individuals, and so awesome in their own ways.

You will love your baby because it's your baby. I promise.

[karinothing]

babies are babies. You will love the baby no matter the gender.

That being said. Diaper changes on boys WAY better than diaper changes on girls. No crevices for poo to hide.

[Deleted]

Because your son will be awesome. 


Honestly though, I dont know.  I only have a son and I think he is the greatest thing since sliced bread. He is fun, and energetic, and curious, and smart, and has the best laugh, etc.  It's fantastic.  but I imagine you feel the same about your daughter.

so basically, you're going to love having a boy, if that's what you have, bc they are awesome.  ha.

my brothers are both pretty close to my mom, as an anecdote, lol.  And I have a sister that I haven't spoken to in 4 years. So you REALLY never know. 

[mollybrown]

My son is amazing because he's mine. But I don't think he's any more special than his sister. I personally love having one of each. No matter which gender is better, I win!

[docholly]

In my family, the boys do tend to have a "different" relationship with their moms, so I had a lot of the same worries going into my ultrasounds. I worried that having a boy would mean we wouldn't have that special bond like mother and daughter. I now have two boys. They are super fun and sweet. I don't really have anything to offer as to why it's awesome to have boys because there are too many things to name. I do imagine my life may be different with them as they grow older... we probably won't go shopping together like my mom and I do, BUT, I think we will find our own special activities. Family is what you make of it, and not all girls have a really close bond with their mom's either.

I want to offer support though and tell you it is ok to mourn a little bit if you find out baby is a boy. I definitely felt a little lump in my throat at YDS' ultrasound because I was mourning the "idea" of a daughter. I can say it was very short lived, and I cannot imagine someone else is YDS' place.

If I have a third, I think I will go totally team green because at this point I can say I am totally team boy OR girl. :-)

[Brie]

Also, the fact that C is a boy is such a tiny portion of his identity. When people ask me what he's like, the first things that come to mind are that he's cuddly, and rambunctious, and talkative, and loves to read and watch Elmo and play with the dog and his play kitchen and eat bananas. The fact that he has a peen and wears a lot of blue clothes is like 4892578392th on the list.

[badtzmaru22]

I don't know yet, but I just wanted to say I have a daughter, and *wanted* a boy this time, and still freaked out a bit when we found out he WAS a boy. What do I do with a boy??!!! Lol. I'm really just looking forward to experiencing raising both, since two is going to be it for us. Good luck!!

[gibbinator]

That's one of the reasons I couldn't be team green. I also had a slight preference for girls both times and wanted time to get used to the idea of a boy. That said...

MY SON IS SO AWESOME AND I'M SO EXCITED WE'RE HAVING TWO! He's so fun, he's so funny, I don't have to worry about periodsor the girl-side of teen pregnancy, I probably won't deal with drama or cutting. I'll have more men in the house to open my jars and reach my pots and pans for me (this is probably the biggest positive, lol).

[Deleted]

I'm only 9 months in, but was in the same boat when I was pregnant with DS. Having a girl already. Slight preference because it was a known quantity and because logistically easier. Having met DS, I could not imagine having a different baby now. Honestly, there's not much difference at this stage, but he is such a wonderful sweet baby. I'm sure I would have felt the same way about a second girl, but I truly love having a boy now. And I'm excited for the likely different experiences we will have with him.

[shellbear09]

I am not very close to my mom, more my dad. My brother is closer to both of them than me. So I don't know if what you said is the usual but not in my family. They always say boys love their mothers.

I absolutely love having a girl and I think it would be great to give her a sister like I never had. I will admit I had a bit of a boy preference which now is crazy to me considering how much I love my daughter. Even so I would love so much for my husband to get to have a boy too. Either way win win

[212]

Apr 17, 2014 10:36:01 GMT -5 Brie said:

Also, the fact that C is a boy is such a tiny portion of his identity. When people ask me what he's like, the first things that come to mind are that he's cuddly, and rambunctious, and talkative, and loves to read and watch Elmo and play with the dog and his play kitchen and eat bananas. The fact that he has a peen and wears a lot of blue clothes is like 4892578392th on the list.

YES. Perfectly stated.

[CloudBee]

Boys can be so incredibly sweet.

-gnome kisses
-snuggles
-STRIPED clothing (can't get enough)
-seeing my husband interact with him, hug him, and teach him things
-hearing my husband talk about teaching him to do xy&z when he's older
-watching him stand next to our dog with his arm resting on the pup's back
-his fascination with anything that has wheels
-the way he makes whoosh and zoomy sounds when he plays with his toy helicopter

[Deleted]

To add, my brother is much closer to my mom than I am - I'm the independent one in the family. And so far DS is WAY more attached to me than DD was at this age (although I think that's largely BFing related).

[zarapipe]

Apr 17, 2014 10:36:01 GMT -5 Brie said:

Also, the fact that C is a boy is such a tiny portion of his identity. When people ask me what he's like, the first things that come to mind are that he's cuddly, and rambunctious, and talkative, and loves to read and watch Elmo and play with the dog and his play kitchen and eat bananas. The fact that he has a peen and wears a lot of blue clothes is like 4892578392th on the list.

I agree with this and your first post too. When I read all of these descriptions of boys they all sound like DD too!

She is rambunctious, curious, wicked smart, hysterical, so loving and sweet. She just happens to be a girl. But she also likes to work out with her daddy in her yard and wear her "workin boots"

And btw, if it is a boy I will need your clothing advice/stores. C is so freaking adorable and boys clothes can be full of ugly. I was just browsing carters and the number of shirts with the word "hunk" on them is   (puke)ing

[satsuma]

Apr 17, 2014 10:09:05 GMT -5 Brie said:

Honestly, it's all what you make of it. Especially these days, I don't think gender constructions are as strict as they once were, so I feel really uncomfortable saying "boys are the BEST!" because basically...boys and girls are both equally awesome. And really? They're not all that different, IME, unless you push them to be that way.

Also: tiny bowties.

[zarapipe]

Apr 17, 2014 10:48:02 GMT -5 @mrswindycity said:

Apr 17, 2014 10:44:44 GMT -5 zarapipe said:

I agree with this and your first post too. When I read all of these descriptions of boys they all sound like DD too!

She is rambunctious, curious, wicked smart, hysterical, so loving and sweet. She just happens to be a girl. But she also likes to work out with her daddy in her yard and wear her "workin boots"

And btw, if it is a boy I will need your clothing advice/stores. C is so freaking adorable and boys clothes can be full of ugly. I was just browsing carters and the number of shirts with the word "hunk" on them is   (puke)ing

Ugh, yes, clothing is one of the negatives. But there is probably just as much girl stuff with "princess" on it so you just load up on the solid and striped stuff and call it a day, and when people give you the "hunk" shit you send it to daycare and they can finger paint in it or something.

Very true with the tacky girl stuff. I have to admit DD has some "I am a princess/queen shirts" that I cringe at. I can not let her out of the house in them though. I'm even embarrassed to send her to school in them. Grandparents think they are cute apparently. Unfortunately she is hitting the stage where she remembers gifts and I can't smuggle them to the donate bin haha.