I picked up DS and DD from school/daycare (he goes to a pre-kindergarten at the same place he has gone to daycare for three years) and immediately after getting in the car he complained about being hungry. I asked him why he was so hungry. He said he was not allowed to eat his snack.
WHAT.
He then said he was told to throw his snack away and sit in time-out whild the other kids ate their snack. He did not get to eat his snack. Apparently he had hit another kid with his chair (while moving it) and the other kid was crying. He was hungry and had watch other kids eat their snack.
There were no incident reports. Neither the other parent or I were notifed and both kids were on "green" for the day. There was no communication about this incident.
I called the other childs parent because I literally could not believe that this would happen. The other child confirmed that he did in fact have to throw his food away and sit in time out during snack time.
RAGE.
I notified the assistant director yesterday evening before the school closed. I went into work late today and had a closed door meeting with the director after drop off. I have been emailing with the owner (who I love) since last night.
The directors and owner are taking this very seriously - although the teacher who did this to my son is out of town and there is nothing they can do short of calling him and trying to get his side (they are trying to do that today).
The only reason both of my kids have not been moved out of there today was 1. the owners response and 2. DD's teacher is one of my favorite people in the world and DD loves her to death - so at least I know that the one who can't tell me what is going on - is being taken care of well.
Seriously. HEADS ARE GOING TO ROLL .
HOW FUCKING DARE YOU WITHHOLD FOOD FROM MY CHILD AS PUNISHMENT YOU MOTHERFUCKER. FUCKING PIECE OF SHIT.
That is not how I expressed my feelings to the director - but you guys get me.
Next step - if this isn't continued to be taken seriously when the teacher returns - I will report them. What he did was illegal according to the state guidelines for FL daycare providers.
Holy shit. I would be livid. I got pissed when my son's former school took his snack away because it was not an "approved healthy snack" - it was goldfish btw, not a fucking milky way. But they gave him apple slices instead so he didn't starve. And I was still ragey.
Post by cuddlyevil on Apr 17, 2014 11:42:31 GMT -5
I want to reach through my computer and throttle him. Time out is a punishment, withholding food while making the child watch his classmates eat is cruel.
I sent him to school with a lunchbox full of snacks and water and told him that he can get them out of his cubby whenever he wants.
The ONLY good thing that came from this is that it allowed DH and I to have a serious conversation about standing up for himslef and what his rights are. We told him that a teacher could never stop him from going to the bathroom, getting a drink of water or eating his food (we explained a good time and place for things of course). That if ANYONE ever told him he could not he needed to ask for me or daddy to be called. And if they didn't he just had to keep asking for us to be called.
I told the director that it was a shame that THEY MADE ME QUESTION IF THEY WERE MEETING MY SONS BASIC NEEDS.
FUCK.
ETA: we have already had the serious "your body is yours and yours only talk". We just never thought we had to tell him it was ok to demand that he was allowed to eat at snack time. But now we have had that talk.
That seems like an extremely harsh punishment for something so minor even if missing snack time is an appropriate consequence. That makes no sense at all.
I said to the teacher that I don't care what he did, you don't withhold food.
If it was that bad I should have been called - OR AT LEAST NOTIFIED AT THE END OF THE DAY.
Ugh. I'm sorry. I'd be pissed. I can't handle people being cruel to my kids. And I'm assuming that he didn't even mean to hit the kid with the chair? (Not that it matters; even if he picked the chair up and hulksmashed the other kid, withholding food is still not an appropriate punishment.)
UGH. I'm so sorry I'm pissed for you. When something similar happened with DD's first daycare last year, it almost sent me over the edge (they didn't withhold as punishment, they just forgot to feed her for 6 straight hours - nbd!).
Omg. In my state I cannot use food as a consequence or reward in ANY way. Not withholding, not as a prize, no force feeding or requiring they try it, no taking away snack if they don't eat lunch, etc. NOTHING!!
There are three basic needs you cannot fuck with when working with kids - food/water, potty, and rest. Period.
That is so unacceptable it is insane. I would freak the fuck out. I can't imagine any circumstance where that is ok.
Moms of older kids, tell me, how do you stay "mature" when this shit happens? My baby is only 1 but the thought of someone withholding food from him AS PUNISHMENT sends me into a fucking rage and I seriously think you'd find me jail for punching people in the face.
UGH. I'm so sorry I'm pissed for you. When something similar happened with DD's first daycare last year, it almost sent me over the edge (they didn't withhold as punishment, they just forgot to feed her for 6 straight hours - nbd!).
Post by copperboom on Apr 17, 2014 11:53:17 GMT -5
Wtf. OMG. I would be livid. Was hitting the other kid with the chair even intentional? I read it as though it was accidental. Regardless, withholding food is always unacceptable.
I was calm, cool and collected. But every civil word had an undertone of WHAT THE FUCK DID THIS MOTHERFUCKER THINK HE WAS DOING. I WILL FUCKING CUT HIM.
"Thank you so much for your time ladies and I look forward to hearing from you later today with more information on how we can resolve this matter. " ... Exit Laz.
Moms of older kids, tell me, how do you stay "mature" when this shit happens? My baby is only 1 but the thought of someone withholding food from him AS PUNISHMENT sends me into a fucking rage and I seriously think you'd find me jail for punching people in the face.
Just channel all the rage through your eyeballs. It's deeply unsettling when someone is speaking very calmly, but clearly wants to murder you.