This stuff makes me so sad. As an adult I would be upset if someone told me I couldn't eat and had to watch my co-workers. A little kid? Dude, no. Just no. Fuck that teacher!
Moms of older kids, tell me, how do you stay "mature" when this shit happens? My baby is only 1 but the thought of someone withholding food from him AS PUNISHMENT sends me into a fucking rage and I seriously think you'd find me jail for punching people in the face.
My husband calls it the look. You talk with your eyes.
Moms of older kids, tell me, how do you stay "mature" when this shit happens? My baby is only 1 but the thought of someone withholding food from him AS PUNISHMENT sends me into a fucking rage and I seriously think you'd find me jail for punching people in the face.
Honestly, because I have to remain calm to have my voice heard.
If I went in there all "BURN IT DOWN MOTHAFUCKERS" I would not be taken seriously.
I want to chase the guy out of the building with a pitchfork. But I am my childs strongest advocate. If I let my emotions get the best of me - my voice is weaker.
Moms of older kids, tell me, how do you stay "mature" when this shit happens? My baby is only 1 but the thought of someone withholding food from him AS PUNISHMENT sends me into a fucking rage and I seriously think you'd find me jail for punching people in the face.
Just channel all the rage through your eyeballs. It's deeply unsettling when someone is speaking very calmly, but clearly wants to murder you.
Just channel all the rage through your eyeballs. It's deeply unsettling when someone is speaking very calmly, but clearly wants to murder you.
This too. LOL.
This would have been me. The LOOK says "I will murder you where you stand", but the WORDS say "I am very upset right now, and you are SO fired" <--- all calm like, with a hint of Hannibal Lecter.
Moms of older kids, tell me, how do you stay "mature" when this shit happens? My baby is only 1 but the thought of someone withholding food from him AS PUNISHMENT sends me into a fucking rage and I seriously think you'd find me jail for punching people in the face.
Honestly, because I have to remain calm to have my voice heard.
If I went in there all "BURN IT DOWN MOTHAFUCKERS" I would not be taken seriously.
I want to chase the guy out of the building with a pitchfork. But I am my childs strongest advocate. If I let my emotions get the best of me - my voice is weaker.
Does that make sense?
It does. And I'm going to practice the "murder you" with my eyes thing. I've already got the bitch face down.
Before I had a kid I never understood that momma bear feeling but just reading this shit makes me want to smash faces. But, you're right. You can't do that if you want to accomplish anything.
Teacher claims DS spilled his juice on his snack so he had to throw it away and sit in time out.
He said he gave DS another snack. The director went as asked DS again if he got another snack. DS said no. Then she asked the other child involved if he got another snack. She said no. I told the director that clearly someone is lying here and I don't think the 5 year olds have a reason to lie. She agreed.
Moms of older kids, tell me, how do you stay "mature" when this shit happens? My baby is only 1 but the thought of someone withholding food from him AS PUNISHMENT sends me into a fucking rage and I seriously think you'd find me jail for punching people in the face.
Teacher claims DS spilled his juice on his snack so he had to throw it away and sit in time out.
He said he gave DS another snack. The director went as asked DS again if he got another snack. DS said no. Then she asked the other child involved if he got another snack. She said no. I told the director that clearly someone is lying here and I don't think the 5 year olds have a reason to lie. She agreed.
UGH. I'm so sorry I'm pissed for you. When something similar happened with DD's first daycare last year, it almost sent me over the edge (they didn't withhold as punishment, they just forgot to feed her for 6 straight hours - nbd!).
Teacher claims DS spilled his juice on his snack so he had to throw it away and sit in time out.
He said he gave DS another snack. The director went as asked DS again if he got another snack. DS said no. Then she asked the other child involved if he got another snack. She said no. I told the director that clearly someone is lying here and I don't think the 5 year olds have a reason to lie. She agreed.
Nice try fucker. Enjoy your vacation.
I WILL BE WAITING FOR YOU ON MONDAY.
Fucking LOL that this teacher thought punishing a child for spilling was somehow acceptable either. Kid spills = kid wipes up the mess. That's it.
Teacher claims DS spilled his juice on his snack so he had to throw it away and sit in time out.
He said he gave DS another snack. The director went as asked DS again if he got another snack. DS said no. Then she asked the other child involved if he got another snack. She said no. I told the director that clearly someone is lying here and I don't think the 5 year olds have a reason to lie. She agreed.
Nice try fucker. Enjoy your vacation.
I WILL BE WAITING FOR YOU ON MONDAY.
Fucking LOL that this teacher thought punishing a child for spilling was somehow acceptable either. Kid spills = kid wipes up the mess. That's it.
And even if he did magically now "spill his juice" on his food - he should have gotten more food. Not sent to time out.
Hell, I don't care about time out - he could have been sent to time out WITH HIS FOOD. You just can't take a kids food away and make him sit there while other kids eat.
All he said for 5 minutes until I fished out a granola bar for him was how hungry he was.
Honestly, because I have to remain calm to have my voice heard.
If I went in there all "BURN IT DOWN MOTHAFUCKERS" I would not be taken seriously.
I want to chase the guy out of the building with a pitchfork. But I am my childs strongest advocate. If I let my emotions get the best of me - my voice is weaker.
Does that make sense?
It does. And I'm going to practice the "murder you" with my eyes thing. I've already got the bitch face down.
Before I had a kid I never understood that momma bear feeling but just reading this shit makes me want to smash faces. But, you're right. You can't do that if you want to accomplish anything.
You would be surprised too at how your personal momma bear comes out too. It was another situation entirely, but it had to do w/ my DSs health. I FELT my momma bear, but what came out of me was literally tears. And I spoke more directly and eloquently than I ever thought myself possible of doing off the cuff. I am not a good "in the moment" person, but that day - it all came together and the message I conveyed had a hell of a lot more impact than getting angry and screaming would have. And this wasn't anything I thought abuot - it just happened.
Yeah, I don't know why he sent your kid to TO for spilling juice.
Good for you! I have a 2 year old and I really am scared that I won't be able to control my mama bear. I wanted to throw a kid through a window (not really) for trying to hit DD with his shoe one day.
Let's just PRETEND the teacher is telling the truth - Why does spilling your juice warrant a timeout? It's an accident.
And I will say that 5 year olds do lie for no other reason than to test the waters. BUT 2 of them lying AND keeping their stories straight? Um, no.
Yeah - but he was hungry as soon as I picked him up. He didn't lie about being hungry. That just does not make sense.
NO! Don't get me wrong. I 100% believe your son and his friend. I was only saying that in a general "5 year olds lie" - it's not about having reason to, or what not.
But I don't question that in this situation AT ALL!!! Trust.
Yeah - but he was hungry as soon as I picked him up. He didn't lie about being hungry. That just does not make sense.
NO! Don't get me wrong. I 100% believe your son and his friend. I was only saying that in a general "5 year olds lie" - it's not about having reason to, or what not.
But I don't question that in this situation AT ALL!!! Trust.
I totally get what you were saying.
Ds likes to lie about stupid stuff. I know 5 year olds lie in general. This was not the case here - but I know what you were saying!
Fucking LOL that this teacher thought punishing a child for spilling was somehow acceptable either. Kid spills = kid wipes up the mess. That's it.
And even if he did magically now "spill his juice" on his food - he should have gotten more food. Not sent to time out.
Hell, I don't care about time out - he could have been sent to time out WITH HIS FOOD. You just can't take a kids food away and make him sit there while other kids eat.
All he said for 5 minutes until I fished out a granola bar for him was how hungry he was.
He wasn't lying. But his teacher is.
Yes. He absolutely should have gotten more food. And there should be zero punishment and very little commentary at all if a child spills. It is to be expected. (FTR, I totally don't believe the teachers "oh, he spilled" story, but I find it incredible that the teachers excuse for a truly inappropriate action is another, only slightly less, inappropriate action.)
So what happens now? The teacher is on vacation, but director got him on the phone. He lied to her, which you know and the director agrees with (that he lied).
Wtf, no. I dont even have kids and I'm pissed for you. Good for you for staying calm and being the best advocate for your kid. You have to be a real asshole to punish a kid by exerting your power to withhold food. Fucking gross.
So what happens now? The teacher is on vacation, but director got him on the phone. He lied to her, which you know and the director agrees with (that he lied).
Shouldn't he just be fired? What else is there?
Well, she said they will continue to look into it and sit down with him when he returns on Monday. I do pick up at 4:30pm, so I am sure there will be more for me at pick up.
I know that I would not fire anyone over the phone while they are on vacation (I am a manager too) so I think they would fire him before they would tell me that they are going to fire him. Does that make sense?