I love my husband, but I want my own bed

[ajj]

Apr 17, 2014 14:07:06 GMT -5 lasagnasshole said:

OMG. One of my money goals for 2015 is to buy a king sized bed. We do great when we share one in a hotel. Our queen is just too small.

There are RULES for sharing a bed.

1) DO NOT TOUCH ME! Don't even THINK about it once we've transitioned from cuddle to sleepy time.

2) DO NOT BREATHE ON ME. It is best if you face away from me al all times.

3) if possible, do not breathe at all. I cannot sleep if I can hear breathing.

4) All the covers are mine.

5) In fact, the entire bed is mine.

6) DO NOT TOUCH ME!!!

1. Especially feet!!!

3. I don't want to feel the bed moving from breathing either. Am I crazy, or do other people notice this too?

[ajj]

Apr 17, 2014 14:04:36 GMT -5 msmerymac said:

Apr 17, 2014 12:55:27 GMT -5 ajj said:

Lol, my BFF was like this growing up. She would like to be close, too. It's cute when I think back on it.  But, I was an only child and may parents never let me sleep with them, so I really prefer sleeping alone. Well, I do like to snuggle with my cat or dogs.

Not only did I never bed share with my parents, but I had a full size bed at the age of 4 (the bed is a family heirloom, but too small for my parents, so I got it). I was quite used to stretching out. The twin bed at college really sucked.

I have done this to my son. He has been in a full size since he was 4, but he was actually a co-sleeper before that.

[Black Lavender]

DH and I discovered the glory of separate beds by accident when we were on vaca in Cali. The hotel gave us two queens instead of one king...BEST THING EVER!!!!!!! Would I want to do it on a daily basis, probably not, but every time we travel, we are always sure to request two beds

[lasagnasshole]

Apr 17, 2014 14:09:50 GMT -5 ajj said:

Apr 17, 2014 14:07:06 GMT -5 lasagnasshole said:

OMG. One of my money goals for 2015 is to buy a king sized bed. We do great when we share one in a hotel. Our queen is just too small.

There are RULES for sharing a bed.

1) DO NOT TOUCH ME! Don't even THINK about it once we've transitioned from cuddle to sleepy time.

2) DO NOT BREATHE ON ME. It is best if you face away from me al all times.

3) if possible, do not breathe at all. I cannot sleep if I can hear breathing.

4) All the covers are mine.

5) In fact, the entire bed is mine.

6) DO NOT TOUCH ME!!!

1. Especially feet!!!

3. I don't want to feel the bed moving from breathing either. Am I crazy, or do other people notice this too?

UGH. H does that, too! I have been harassing him about getting tested for sleep apnea but you get one guess as to whether he's done it.

[StrawberryBlondie]

Apr 17, 2014 12:21:36 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

We sleep in a king bed, each with our own set of covers to avoid the tug of war. Neither of us sleep very well when we sleep in separate beds.

We tried separate covers once. I stole his, too.

[origami]

Apr 17, 2014 14:09:50 GMT -5 ajj said:

Apr 17, 2014 14:07:06 GMT -5 lasagnasshole said:

OMG. One of my money goals for 2015 is to buy a king sized bed. We do great when we share one in a hotel. Our queen is just too small.

There are RULES for sharing a bed.

1) DO NOT TOUCH ME! Don't even THINK about it once we've transitioned from cuddle to sleepy time.

2) DO NOT BREATHE ON ME. It is best if you face away from me al all times.

3) if possible, do not breathe at all. I cannot sleep if I can hear breathing.

4) All the covers are mine.

5) In fact, the entire bed is mine.

6) DO NOT TOUCH ME!!!

1. Especially feet!!!

3. I don't want to feel the bed moving from breathing either. Am I crazy, or do other people notice this too?

We got a queen tempurpedic mattress solely because it was the only mattress we tried that did not have "motion transference" (as the mattress salesguy called it). I loved it so much. When we moved we got a non-tempurpedic king. I miss memory foam BUT lasagnasshole you definitely need a king. It's so much better than a queen. There is no touching. no breathing on each other.  I want a memory foam mattress again but the space. Oh God the space. I can never go back to a queen unless we got 2 queens and reenacted this King of Queens episode

[ajj]

origami - We wanted the Tempurpedic and ended up with an off brand to save money. It was not the same, at all!

I loved that episode!

[jade]

H and I have been sleeping apart since I got PG a few years ago and apparently started snoring like a freight train. I am so used to it now that it is weird when one of us chooses to sleep in the other's room.

[lasagnasshole]

origami, I would run out today and buy a king tempurpedic if we didn't owe our souls to the IRS and DC Dept of Revenue.

Guess who has two thumbs and significantly underwithheld last year? THIS GAL!

[origami]

Apr 17, 2014 14:41:05 GMT -5 lasagnasshole said:

origami, I would run out today and buy a king tempurpedic if we didn't owe our souls to the IRS and DC Dept of Revenue.

Guess who has two thumbs and significantly underwithheld last year? THIS GAL!

I'm so sorry. That's the worst. Are you able to get one in 2015 or will you just get a regular king? Either way a king is amazing.

[lasagnasshole]

Apr 17, 2014 14:50:08 GMT -5 origami said:

Apr 17, 2014 14:41:05 GMT -5 lasagnasshole said:

origami, I would run out today and buy a king tempurpedic if we didn't owe our souls to the IRS and DC Dept of Revenue.

Guess who has two thumbs and significantly underwithheld last year? THIS GAL!

I'm so sorry. That's the worst. Are you able to get one in 2015 or will you just get a regular king? Either way a king is amazing.

I think we can get a king memory foam bed from Costco in 2015 but not a Tempurpedic brand.

That and an all inclusive lazy vacation that is JUST THE TWO OF US before H starts his new job are my two main 2015 goals.

[origami]

Apr 17, 2014 14:57:37 GMT -5 lasagnasshole said:

Apr 17, 2014 14:50:08 GMT -5 origami said:

I'm so sorry. That's the worst. Are you able to get one in 2015 or will you just get a regular king? Either way a king is amazing.

I think we can get a king memory foam bed from Costco in 2015 but not a Tempurpedic brand.

That and an all inclusive lazy vacation that is JUST THE TWO OF US before H starts his new job are my two main 2015 goals.

Those are excellent goals.

[lasagnasshole]

Apr 17, 2014 15:05:14 GMT -5 origami said:

Apr 17, 2014 14:57:37 GMT -5 lasagnasshole said:

I think we can get a king memory foam bed from Costco in 2015 but not a Tempurpedic brand.

That and an all inclusive lazy vacation that is JUST THE TWO OF US before H starts his new job are my two main 2015 goals.

Those are excellent goals.

We have been married over 6 years and have taken ONE vacation that was just the two of us: our honeymoon. Every other trip has been for weddings, to visit family, or music festivals with lots of friends. Lots of fun, but still...

[mrsukyankee]

I love both. Most of the time (especially winter), sleeping with my DH is very comfy as he's a radiator and I'm super cold. Plus I love pre-sleep cuddles. But tonight he's going out drinking with a friend and I know he'll stink of beer and snore...so he'll get the extra bedroom...and I'll love that too. We currently have a queen bed but I think a king might be the way to go with our next bed.

[origami]

Apr 17, 2014 15:12:40 GMT -5 lasagnasshole said:

Apr 17, 2014 15:05:14 GMT -5 origami said:

Those are excellent goals.

We have been married over 6 years and have taken ONE vacation that was just the two of us: our honeymoon. Every other trip has been for weddings, to visit family, or music festivals with lots of friends. Lots of fun, but still...

NOT OKAY. You NEED a vacation. a real one.

[lasagnasshole]

Apr 17, 2014 15:32:41 GMT -5 origami said:

Apr 17, 2014 15:12:40 GMT -5 lasagnasshole said:

We have been married over 6 years and have taken ONE vacation that was just the two of us: our honeymoon. Every other trip has been for weddings, to visit family, or music festivals with lots of friends. Lots of fun, but still...

NOT OKAY. You NEED a vacation. a real one.

TELL THE IRS!!!

We should have our CCs paid off this year and then next year we will pay cash for a REAL vacation.

[meshaliuknits]

Apr 17, 2014 15:31:13 GMT -5 @bunnybean said:

Apr 17, 2014 13:46:34 GMT -5 meshaliuknits said:

I sleep terribly by myself. The last business trip I went on by myself I brought my stuffed cat (SHUT UP) and still had the WORST sleep ever. I need the cats or H to sleep well. One of the kids will do, but they are less ideal.

When my husband is not in the bed with me, I make a "husband" out of pillows and blankets. I am the big spoon, and H loves to be the little spoon. I think he'd sleep in a pile with me and the cats if he could. He is so cuddly. I am not as cuddly, but I love having him there. I like the option of hugging on him all night.

I think it's the warm that was missing from my stuffed cat (his name is Buchannon, named for a romance novel character, and squishy as heaven covered in marshmallows). Hes good for cuddling, but I think the warmth was missing. purring would have also been good.

[Scout'sHonor]

I get giddy when we end up in a hotel room with two queens. A BED ALL TO MYSELF!

[KB]

I would love separate beds but DH is not a fan. I hate being touched while I'm sleeping. Once I get hit with hot nose air on my neck, we're done.

[Deleted]

DH and I have slept in separate rooms for nearly seven years now. We are also in the process of building a home with separate rooms. We have a stronger marriage when we are better rested.

[Deleted]

DH sleeps in the guest room most of the time, and we both are happier. I don't sleep well and my eyes glow red when someone disturbs that sleep. DH stays awake 2 hours later working then needs to toss and turn to get comfy.

This way he can toss and turn, fart or snore without getting kicked. We each have a different kid we deal with overnight since the boys both wake up half the time.

It works. When I was recently pregnant (m/c) I was secretly terrified of converting the guest room to a baby room. I was contemplating bunk beds for the boys--a terrible idea--just to maintain my sleep sanctuary.

[Deleted]

My husband's last tour in Afghanistan ruined us for sleeping in the same bed. He can't sleep with the tv off, I can't sleep with it on. Now he works overnight six days a week, 10pm to 7am. He's so used to sleeping on the couch and I'm so used to falling asleep on the couch that we don't even sleep in a bed, forget the same one. We still get it on, yes. But sleep together for actual sleeping? Nope.

[Deleted]

I would love my own bed but H would be lonely lol.

Except I think he would like his own bed on nights like last night, where I had half the bed, and our 70 lb lab, 95lb golden retriever and H had the other half. LOL. He was falling off poor guy.

[jillboston]

I am blessed. I know it. I can sleep anywhere anytime. DH calls me Jill Vanwinkle. But - I'm the one who snores, so I worry that he's silently enduring sleeping together. With that said - I would be very sad if we didn't sleep in the same bed. Luv the spoons.

[emilyj]

I feel like the oddball here. I hate sleeping alone. Hate, hate, hate, hate, hate.

[aurora]

Apr 17, 2014 21:02:04 GMT -5 emilyj said:

I feel like the oddball here. I hate sleeping alone. Hate, hate, hate, hate, hate.

I'm with you. Well, maybe just one hate. I find king beds too large because I can't find H in the middle of the night. Fortunately he thinks similarly.

[pretzel]

My nana and grandpa had separate bedrooms, I think one of them snored like a freight train. Supposedly, it was the key to their successful marriage. Go nana and grandpa!

[mrsukyankee]

Apr 17, 2014 18:40:53 GMT -5 tillie said:

Apr 17, 2014 15:22:02 GMT -5 mrsukyankee said:

I love both. Most of the time (especially winter), sleeping with my DH is very comfy as he's a radiator and I'm super cold. Plus I love pre-sleep cuddles. But tonight he's going out drinking with a friend and I know he'll stink of beer and snore...so he'll get the extra bedroom...and I'll love that too. We currently have a queen bed but I think a king might be the way to go with our next bed.

DH is in the guest room if he goes out for the night, but I always end up getting up to check and make sure he got home safely, so that backfires on me, lol.

Me too.

[frlcb]

My friend wrote this actually. They still share a bed I wouldn't want to sleep alone.

[itsme]

We'd been doing the separate blanket thing for years. Easier that way. We started sleeping in separate rooms when I was PG. It lasted for two years and I really prefer it that way. DH has started to transition back to "my" bed and sleep hasn't been great. I really prefer the separate rooms.