Thanks! I already have a lot of friends/ adult interaction so that's not a problem. We do regular Moms nights in/ out without the kids and meet very regularly with the kids. We're also members of the Y and while I am not working out, do take advantage of the kid's room so we can hang out and have tea without the kiddos.
My need for a little time alone may be playing into this more than I want to admit, but really I'm trying to work out what is best for her first and me, second.
Don't hesitate to admit you need some time off from the kid. Kids are hard. and if you're with that kid from wake up to bedtime, having two/three hours off a day is really crucial; you're talking about a 16 hour day of non stop mommy mommmy mom mom mom mama mama mama mama mom mom mom. And it does not get easier. No one in the outside world you know works that kind of schedule 24/7/365; get some time off so you're a better mom.Â
Thanks for this. It would literally only be around 6 hours a week, but as a SAHM this feels like an unecessary expense. Plus my friend who is also considering it keeps talking about this being the last year she has with her daughter full time and how she doesn't want to miss a second. It makes me feel like a crap parent. I know this is dumb.
I'm a pretty girlie girl and I have a few people that are really bummed for me that I'm not having a girl. But really, DS1 is so freaking awesome, that I can't imagine trading him in for a hundred girls. I'm actually really excited to get another son.
I love, and I mean love, having two boys. I'm selfishly glad they are both gay; I seriously wanted more boys, and now we'll have their SO's around to love too. I like a houseful of men.
Chiming in-- I was disappointed for about 2.2 seconds when we found out we were having a second boy, but seriously, I LOVE it. They are already so cute together and I'm realizing that it was just meant to be. I can't explain it, but I get it-- I was supposed to have boys.
My DH and I have been a bit snippy with each other lately. He was out of town for three months working and we each got used to doing everything on our own and now we both feel like the other is trying "be the boss" if that makes sense. How to we get back in sync with each other after being apart?
I'd just have it out, in a friendly sort of way. I like to say how I see things, rather than try to get the other person to 'see' things that way too. "Don't you think that each of us is trying to be the boss in the relationship since we spent so much time apart? t' is not how I'd approach this. I'd announce it. "We were apart so long, now that we're together each of us is trying to 'be the boss', and we've got to get back to our regular groove" and then go from there. Never ask, always tell. It also helps if you're close in your bedroom; has this created some distance there?
Ok. Announcing is how I am going to start the conversation. We are going to talk about it tonight. We are still close in the bedroom, no distance there. . I want to be back in "our regular groove" I miss it. Thank you
Post by Bree Van de Kamp on Apr 18, 2014 12:21:07 GMT -5
Sue Sue...how do you make a 2 year old STTN? Mines been waking up 3-5 times a night for the last few months and when I try and put her to bed, she uses every excuse in the world to try and get me to take her out of bed. I can ignore most of them and write them off as a ploy, but when she says she has to poop 10 thousand times, I feel like I have to put her on the toilet. Putting her to bed/nap can sometimes take over an hour, and on really bad days, even two. I'm also in the midst of weaning, which is just adding fuel to her psycho, insomnia fire. I'm losing my mind over here.
Post by MixedBerryJam on Apr 18, 2014 12:28:18 GMT -5
Are you still taking questions, @cse1960. Mom-of-college-bound-kid to mom-of-college-bound-kid, does the college usually bill you for the whole year, or do they bill one semester at a time? Yes, I am aware I could probably find it on the school's website, but I thought you might know.
General advice/hair pats is always appreciated from @cse1960
((hugs)) you doing ok? need some snickerdoodles? seems like you're in the middle of some misery but it's going to come to a close, soon. Hang in there.
Hugs to you too. You are always so sweet. I think I am doing okay, all things considered. I am still having ups and downs daily, but my mood is mellowing out a bit. And yes, I'd love some snickerdoodles but unfortunately I'm back on Whole30. Perhaps I'll celebrate with some when I'm finished with this round.