facebook is the fucking devil, man

[wannabe]

I really need to do some FB spring cleaning, but I'm dragging my feet for some reason. And a warning: this is probably stupid as hell, but I just need to vent about it and get it out of my system.

so the woman my father is married to (who is perfectly nice from the two times I met her, just kind of stupid) posted a picture the other day. They actually dated before he came to the US and met and married my mom, and the picture was from back then. She captioned it "our first picture together in 1967." Cue the flood of "oh, what a beautiful love story!" and "you two are the perfect couple!" and my personal favorite, "you are soulmates who should always have been together."

I guess I'm just irritated at how he's so easily brushed off 15 years of his life, essentially erasing me completely from it and fronting like his first marriage and first kid never happened. Although I guess his life looks and sounds nicer this way for him. I bet all of those commenters have no idea I even exist.

If you remember my last post, I never did call him back. I just can't bring myself to do it and I really just don't want to.

So yeah, this whole little story is super lame and I should hide her shit from my timeline, but we all know I won't. My ass is too nosy to do that, heh.

[8675309]

I'm sorry Wan.

[papie]

I am sorry, that is hard. how is your relationship with him?

Not the same at all, but it reminds me of how my mom says her only regret in life is moving to Canada. She met my dad here!! I point out that then we wouldn't exist and she says she would have had other kids. Ouch!

[luvvy]

That sucks. I'm sorry

[lauren170]

Oh man that sucks. I remember your post when he called. Good for you for making a decision that felt right to you. Don't let Facebook derail that.

[rex]

i'm sorry.

this is one of those reasons fb sucks.

i deleted all my parents and my fb is much better and less emotional for me.

[lime]

I'm glad you didn't call him back.

Sorry, I know exactly how hard this is.

[madringal]

I'm sorry, I know how hard that must be.

My dad's wife did something similar. Except the time stamp on the picture is from when he was still married to my mom :/

It stinks to feel second fiddle and you have every right to feel the way you do. I bet a good FB purge will make you feel better. ((hugs))

[usuallylurking]

This would really bother me, too. ((Hugs))

[kirra]

I'm sorry

[zeewifeandmama]

I'm sorry I totally get it. Totally.

[madringal]

Apr 18, 2014 13:26:13 GMT -5 papie said:

I am sorry, that is hard. how is your relationship with him?

Not the same at all, but it reminds me of how my mom says her only regret in life is moving to Canada. She met my dad here!! I point out that then we wouldn't exist and she says she would have had other kids. Ouch!

Man alive, that's brutal.  Sorry she said that to you

[iamali]

I'm sorry wan.

[shostakovich]

Ugh, that last comment would definitely sting.  I'm sorry, wan

I am NOT trying to minimize the situation, but here is maybe something to make you feel better?

[Kit]

I don't think it is lame at all, and I'd be super hurt too. I'm really sorry. (hugs)

[vampsterdam]

I'm sorry

That would be infuriating/heartbreaking to see. I wish I could think of something witty/snotty to say back, but I think most people would say to be the bigger person. Heh.

I also think most people would say to delete/block her, but I, too, am very nosey and would continue to read her posts with annoyance.

[lissaholly]

That would make me sad too.

Doesn't the Catholic Church still require a sort of religious annulment for second marriages within the church? I always that this was demeaning to the kids of the first marriage for this exact reason.

[bania]

I'm so sorry. That would be so upsetting.

[wannabe]

Apr 18, 2014 13:26:13 GMT -5 papie said:

I am sorry, that is hard. how is your relationship with him?

Not the same at all, but it reminds me of how my mom says her only regret in life is moving to Canada. She met my dad here!! I point out that then we wouldn't exist and she says she would have had other kids. Ouch!

we don't have a relationship at all.  he RSVP'd "no" to my first wedding and i can count the number of times he's seen the teen on one hand - and they were all before she turned 1.  he's basically been absent from my life since i was about 12.

and, that sucks  sometimes they just don't think!

[wannabe]

thanks, everybody. i feel better knowing my reaction isn't as lame as i thought

shostakovich, you just made my day! i. love. him.

[shostakovich]

Apr 18, 2014 14:06:40 GMT -5 wannabe said:

thanks, everybody. i feel better knowing my reaction isn't as lame as i thought

shostakovich, you just made my day! i. love. him.

What's not to love, seriously? 

[spitforspat]

I'm sorry. This would bother me, too.

[thatgirl2478]

that sucks.  I'm sorry.  If it were me, I would unfollow her - not as obvious as unfriending but the same effect.

[shell24]

I'm sorry . Sometimes it still just hurts even though you can be logical about it. Vent away.

[Deleted]

How you feel is not stupid at all, feelings can be so messy. I'm sorry, careless remarks like that sting sometimes. Ugh.

[Deleted]

They are...STUPID.

[Deleted]

Sorry, Wan. She is a wench to invite that sort of info knowing you can see it.

[noodleskooze]

I'm sorry. That must be really tough. I would feel the same way you do.

[themoneytree]

Apr 18, 2014 14:06:40 GMT -5 wannabe said:

thanks, everybody. i feel better knowing my reaction isn't as lame as i thought

shostakovich, you just made my day! i. love. him.

Your reaction isn't lame at all. They suck. I'm so sorry.

[Deleted]

I'm sorry, wan. That just sucks.