Post by themoneytree on Apr 18, 2014 18:09:11 GMT -5
We regressed after 3 nights and I was convinced we had a kid it wouldn't work for. Stayed firm and we have had the most wonderful sleeper for the longest time (touching wood).
Stick with it - it's not just for you, it's for him too. He'll be so much happier once he can put himself back to sleep.
Keep strong and DO NOT GIVE IN or you will just teach him that screaming longer works to get what he wants.
I realize this might be a fluke, but this is what this looked like.
6:47 - Down 6:50 - Check for 2 minutes 6:58 - Check for 2 minutes 7:06 - Asleep? (!!!)
We didn't even have to do the 10 minutes check.
Well now! : )
Just remember regression could happen and stick with it! There's nothing more demoralizing than thinking you've cracked it and then have it not work again, but it will!
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
UWR, did you read the book first? I want to do this with DD, but only just started the book. Is it necessary?
She goes to sleep pretty well on her own, but when she wakes in the MOTN, can't put herself back to sleep.
How old? Once ours was night weaned (early because she was huge and could go longer without nursing), I would go in and pat her belly or hold her hand. No eye contact and leave while baby is still awake. She would yell harder as I left, but she got it really fast.
UWR, did you read the book first? I want to do this with DD, but only just started the book. Is it necessary?
She goes to sleep pretty well on her own, but when she wakes in the MOTN, can't put herself back to sleep.
Yes, I have so many books on Kindle, including Ferber's. I think I read like 5 of them ranging from "let them sleep in your bed until they are 13" to "no checks, no nothing, just let them CIO."
To me, Ferber sounded like the most well-researched and quickest option, but obviously we waited a long time to implement it.
I think the book is important because the REM stuff is really interesting and, I think, useful to have as background, but right now I'm using a guide I found online with regard to checks. I don't know that it's necessary, but I'm glad I read it first.
UWR, did you read the book first? I want to do this with DD, but only just started the book. Is it necessary?
She goes to sleep pretty well on her own, but when she wakes in the MOTN, can't put herself back to sleep.
How old? Once ours was night weaned (early because she was huge and could go longer without nursing), I would go in and pat her belly or hold her hand. No eye contact and leave while baby is still awake. She would yell harder as I left, but she got it really fast.
6 months. She still nurses once at night usually (though last night she STTN). What's been happening recently is that she'll wake up 2-3 hours after falling asleep. It takes my H 15 mins to get her to go back to sleep. If I go in, she won't calm down until I nurse her.
Also, she is only taking 20-30 min naps. I know she's still sleepy, but she won't go back to sleep.
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
How old? Once ours was night weaned (early because she was huge and could go longer without nursing), I would go in and pat her belly or hold her hand. No eye contact and leave while baby is still awake. She would yell harder as I left, but she got it really fast.
6 months. She still nurses once at night usually (though last night she STTN). What's been happening recently is that she'll wake up 2-3 hours after falling asleep. It takes my H 15 mins to get her to go back to sleep. If I go in, she won't calm down until I nurse her.
Also, she is only taking 20-30 min naps. I know she's still sleepy, but she won't go back to sleep.
Sorry to thread jack.
NO WORRIES. There is room for more than one sleep training parent in here.
How old? Once ours was night weaned (early because she was huge and could go longer without nursing), I would go in and pat her belly or hold her hand. No eye contact and leave while baby is still awake. She would yell harder as I left, but she got it really fast.
6 months. She still nurses once at night usually (though last night she STTN). What's been happening recently is that she'll wake up 2-3 hours after falling asleep. It takes my H 15 mins to get her to go back to sleep. If I go in, she won't calm down until I nurse her.
Also, she is only taking 20-30 min naps. I know she's still sleepy, but she won't go back to sleep.
Sorry to thread jack.
Is she ready to night wean? If so I would start offering her a bottle with an ounce or two in it and then start watering it down. Our kiddo eventually decided water wasn't worth waking up for.
I can't remember when we got tough on sleep but I think it was about that age. Maybe a little later. When you decide to do it I would not spend any time trying to get her back to sleep. She's in charge of getting herself to sleep. You make sure she is ok, no poop, not sick, etc. Then you leave while she is still awake. I was in with her for less than a minute unless there was a problem. Of course all bets are off if kiddo is sick.
I realize this sounds a bit hard ass, but seriously my kid is the most amazing sleeper. At least so far!
ETA: I can't advise on naps - I was so afraid of messing up the nighttime work we had done that I didn't get her to nap in her crib until 11 months. Then she started to refuse to nap on me and I got desperate and put her in the crib and left. 3 minutes of crying then 2 hour nap. I so wish I had got serious about it WAY earlier.
I should add that blacking out the windows was key to her late wake ups and great naps (now 2.5 - 3 hours).
6 months. She still nurses once at night usually (though last night she STTN). What's been happening recently is that she'll wake up 2-3 hours after falling asleep. It takes my H 15 mins to get her to go back to sleep. If I go in, she won't calm down until I nurse her.
Also, she is only taking 20-30 min naps. I know she's still sleepy, but she won't go back to sleep.
Sorry to thread jack.
Is she ready to night wean? If so I would start offering her a bottle with an ounce or two in it and then start watering it down. Our kiddo eventually decided water wasn't worth waking up for.
I can't remember when we got tough on sleep but I think it was about that age. Maybe a little later. When you decide to do it I would not spend any time trying to get her back to sleep. She's in charge of getting herself to sleep. You make sure she is ok, no poop, not sick, etc. Then you leave while she is still awake. I was in with her for less than a minute unless there was a problem. Of course all bets are off if kiddo is sick.
I realize this sounds a bit hard ass, but seriously my kid is the most amazing sleeper. At least so far!
She's still pretty small, so if she needs/wants to nurse MOTN, that's ok with me. What sucks (and is new) is the waking up after 2-3 hours. She was sleeping 8, waking up, nursing, then sleeping another 3. And no issues going down after the MOTN nursing session.
And the naps suck. Today she woke up and was sitting up in her crib crying when I came in. She's a much happier baby when she is napping at least an hour.
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
We did CIO at 17 months because bedtime was getting so stressful it was making my H and I fight each other. We had to finally join forces and do it. But we were still stressed out the whole time, so we literally sat in opposite rooms and texted each other support through it. That way we had time to backspace before we snapped at each other. It was hard and awful for a few nights and then walla, bedtime is pleasant and good. Hang in there.
Post by karmasabiotch on Apr 18, 2014 19:12:47 GMT -5
I'm sure it's awful but you're doing a great thing. I screwed it all up and am having to try it with an almost 6 year old. You're doing what's best for your child.
Hm, maybe it's a good thing my kid refuses to say mama
This is a very recent thing. H looked at me all shocked the first time and was like "manipulative at 12 months! We are screwed!" Lol it really does break my heart
I ask A to say mommy and she smirks and says daddy. Lol