Sex-wise, everything is the same, I think. It's actually better after #2 than it was after #1 - I had more pain post-baby the first time. Scar tissue and pain was better the second time, despite her actually doing more initial damage.
My PT did actually say running isn't a great plan for me, but that had to do with ligaments stretched out from pregnancy, not birth.
Post by zeewifeandmama on Apr 18, 2014 20:47:37 GMT -5
Way better actually. Especially after my second. I've ways had way over-tight PF muscles. After having babies and learning how to properly tighten them (my OB gave me the squats tip) sex has gotten a lot more enjoyable.
Eta: for full disclosure I had a pfd problem in my early 20s that had me in pelvic floor physical Therapy for close to a year. So the squats coupled with what I learned from that has helped. It wasn't easy as I had difficult recoveries but it's all good now
Post by Stingyshark on Apr 18, 2014 21:03:40 GMT -5
I had internal tears, and i've told DH on more than one occasion I think the OB stitched it up to tight. heh. It's still pretty painful, and it just feels like I might tear right open. THAT is TMI.
I felt too tight after my c-s. I heard that your v tightens up even though you didn't stretch it out, kwim? I hope that's not bragplaint-ish. Trust me, 7 months in and sex is still... Not my favorite.
Post by londoncalling on Apr 18, 2014 21:07:31 GMT -5
Hahaha no. Feel sorry for my husband. I had pelvic floor therapy after #2 and I will be starting another round soon. Things are not good now and it used to be something that I never gave any thought to.
This! We both think its a bit tighter where the stitches are.
I just looked at your ticker and I'm SO impressed that you've actually had sex at this point.
I felt bad since we had sex maaaybe 3 times when I was pregnant, lol. We've done it four times, and it gets progressively better. The first time was a disaster, lol.
You guys, I feel better now. Physical tough used to be my love language but it's so not these days. I think I'm probably touched out from BFing. Poor DH. Once a week now is like, oh, already? Lol
It felt different after #1--like it was too tight. Sex remained somewhat painful until after DS2 was born. After DS2 and DS3, it was totally fine. It was worth having a second kid just for the pain-free sex alone.
The fact that at 3 months out you are having sex frequently is an accomplishment IMO!
She is 4mth on Tuesday.. and we've had sex 3 times.. Not all that impressive. I felt bad for DH; it's very uncomfortable, and I have zero sensation. blech.
I just looked at your ticker and I'm SO impressed that you've actually had sex at this point.
I felt bad since we had sex maaaybe 3 times when I was pregnant, lol. We've done it four times, and it gets progressively better. The first time was a disaster, lol.
GEEZ. You've only been cleared for what, 2-3 weeks? You're making us look bad ! ETA: i lookedat your ticker again.. fine.. you've been cleared 4 weeks. STILL, you're making us look bad!
You guys, I feel better now. Physical tough used to be my love language but it's so not these days. I think I'm probably touched out from BFing. Poor DH. Once a week now is like, oh, already? Lol
I'm touched out and not breastfeeding. It's hard to have someone physically dependent on you.
Do you feel less touched out now that you're not BFing? Are you going to do MDO or something similar now that you're a SAHM so you get somewhat of a break?