Yes. A few hours at a time was NBD after the first few weeks (and all 3 were BF), and I went back to work at 8w with my first. I would have loved the offer!
Post by amandakisser on Apr 19, 2014 7:13:59 GMT -5
Geez, my husband and I went on our first date when our baby was 3-4 weeks old. I even had beer, and she's EBF. She has always taken a bottle, though, so that's probably the difference. I can understand how it would be stressful and difficult if she only took the boob.
I went back to work when she was 14 weeks, and went away overnight when she was 4.5 months. Mama needs her grownup time!!
The judgment is annoying. I get that the baby is perfectly fine being left with someone other than mom at that age, but some of us are just too anxious and not comfortable doing it. My kids also never took a bottle, but I know that was mostly laziness on my part, I just never worked at introducing it properly from early on.
Geez, my husband and I went on our first date when our baby was 3-4 weeks old. I even had beer, and she's EBF. She has always taken a bottle, though, so that's probably the difference. I can understand how it would be stressful and difficult if she only took the boob.
I went back to work when she was 14 weeks, and went away overnight when she was 4.5 months. Mama needs her grownup time!!
Post by hopecounts on Apr 19, 2014 12:30:26 GMT -5
In a heartbeat (assuming it was a family member/close friend that I trusted to babysit) At 12 weeks I'd be fine with 2-3 hours depending on the baby's feeding situation and other details.
We started our monthly date nights at 8 weeks, that one was a quick dinner and B&N after so I could get back to nurse but it did amazing things for me to just get out without the baby. At 12 weeks we were able to do a nice dinner and going to listen to a band for a little bit because DD was going 2.5-3 hrs between feeds.
Post by twodogsandababy on Apr 19, 2014 12:50:11 GMT -5
DS2 is one month today and we have left him with my parents to run to Target twice and out to dinner once, along with DS1. If it was someone like my best friend I would do it, but any other friends, probably not. I would not leave them with someone who did not have kids/a lot of experience with young children.
jenny1980 my best friend and her husband I think need a break. Lots if things have happened, everything from a one month hospital bed rest to a broken pipe that flooded the basement of their new home. I went to visit yesterday and she was in tears. The least we could do is watch the kids for a little bit so they can work on the house or just grab something to eat. I feel so bad for her.
Two year old and you and your DH were going through some hard times ( not necessarily relationship wise) etc, would you take someone's offer to babysit for a few hours so you and your spouse could either go out for dinner or catch up on some things, etc. would you do it? If so, given you have a 12 week old, how long would you feel comfortable being gone? An hour, 2 hours?
I would LOVE to watch your 12 week old and 2 year old for a few hours. I would've a wonderful sitter and I would love to do for you.
It just about kills me that anyone would call you a mooch or tell you to avoid it if the baby was a screamer. I'd keep your baby and toddler safe and sound - and be happy to do it for you. And I would KNOW how much it would help you out.
Post by statlerwaldorf on Apr 19, 2014 13:33:54 GMT -5
I probably wouldn't be ready, but I might be more relaxed with #2. I also had a lot of issues with bfing and postpartum anxiety. I would probably take you up on babysitting the 2 year old at least.
jenny1980 my best friend and her husband I think need a break. Lots if things have happened, everything from a one month hospital bed rest to a broken pipe that flooded the basement of their new home. I went to visit yesterday and she was in tears. The least we could do is watch the kids for a little bit so they can work on the house or just grab something to eat. I feel so bad for her.
Just ask them. If they're not comfortable with it, ask what else you can do to help out.
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
I probably would only take my parents or in laws up on it honestly. Not because I'm that nervous but because I would feel like a burden. I hope she does let you watch them though; it's a very nice offer
jenny1980 my best friend and her husband I think need a break. Lots if things have happened, everything from a one month hospital bed rest to a broken pipe that flooded the basement of their new home. I went to visit yesterday and she was in tears. The least we could do is watch the kids for a little bit so they can work on the house or just grab something to eat. I feel so bad for her.
Could you offer to stop by to visit and while there do the dishes, laundry, light cleaning and cook dinner so they can relax? I've done that for friends before and they appreciated it. When I did it I made sure my friend was up for company, then showed up with a drink and just started doing stuff.
I didn't have the opportunity but would have felt comfortable with someone babysitting when my baby was a just a month old let alone 3 months. I have a small freezer stash of bm going and can't wait till we get the opportunity to go out on a date.
Geez, my husband and I went on our first date when our baby was 3-4 weeks old. I even had beer, and she's EBF. She has always taken a bottle, though, so that's probably the difference. I can understand how it would be stressful and difficult if she only took the boob.
I went back to work when she was 14 weeks, and went away overnight when she was 4.5 months. Mama needs her grownup time!!
You even had a beer!?!! OMG rebellious.
I know. I live on the edge. Not many can handle this ride called life ?