What is worse?

[pugz]

at church this morning he challenged us to stop talking crap about other people and I was like...umm, I'd need to leave the internet.

[Birdie]

But people watching is one of my favorite past times!

[Deleted]

Grr it's good we're talking about this though. Thank Atheist Jesus for MMM because if I hadn't met you ladies I think I'd judge a lot of crap that other people do that hasn't been my experience of parenthood. I remember reading posts pre-Benjamin and rolling my eyes or doubting the sincerity and now I'm just "sing it sister, you do you" in regards to most things.

[Deleted]

If huge Easter baskets and ridiculous Christmas gift are wrong, I don't want to be right. For reals.

[bunch]

Judging people for judging judging, obvs.

[Deleted]

Apr 20, 2014 20:23:49 GMT -5 @starry said:

MMM has made me paranoid about some things IRL. Biggest one is her pacifier usage. Through here I know every time she uses a pacifier outside the house someone is probably side eyeing me. I am working on the NGAF aspect.

Actually yes, it works both ways too. Sometimes I'm freaked someone is judging me FFing and then a coworker is like "you're not still nursing, are you?" implying how old B is.

[pugz]

I get judged different ways in different groups. Hard to keep up.

[Redpoppy]

My brother feed his almost 9 month old ice cream today. I judged, but then thought "meh, the kid really likes it". At least he gave the baby the vanilla instead of my SIL's coffee ice cream?

[redheadk]

Apr 20, 2014 20:52:57 GMT -5 pugz said:

I get judged different ways in different groups. Hard to keep up.

I judge the judgers.

I mean, really, I do it the best way (otherwise known as my way). What's up with everyone else choosing to be wrong?

[babyrn]

Apr 20, 2014 20:52:56 GMT -5 @starry said:

I thought you guys would like this IRL judgment I faced Friday. Co worker was APPALLED I was still rearfacing J (he has a 13 month old he immediately flipped at one year old). He would not be appeased until I told him she didn't meet the weight limit in our car to flip (which is true).

It was like opposite world vs MMM

This is one good thing about having a peanut! People always try to give me a hard time about her still being RF but luckily she is way under the weight limit (our carseat is 22 pounds to FF and she is just over 17.10) so that usually makes them back off.

[winecheery]

This is not a confessions thread, but in the spirit of judging/not judging, I was thinking the other day as DH and I BBQd a pizza on our grill how incredibly sad I will be if DD doesn't like pizza for some reason. Because BBQd pizza is awesome.

And I thought of you all lol

[Deleted]

I've never ever claimed not to judge. Ever. And I hate stuff.

[Deleted]

Here's my question. Totally regardless of what is safest, why the hell would anyone care if a kid is rear-facing or forward-facing? If someone flipped a kid at 1 year, why would they ever even question someone still RFing? IT MAKES NO SENSE!

[Redpoppy]

Apr 20, 2014 22:20:38 GMT -5 @this said:

Apr 20, 2014 21:56:00 GMT -5 Redpoppy said:

My brother feed his almost 9 month old ice cream today. I judged, but then thought "meh, the kid really likes it". At least he gave the baby the vanilla instead of my SIL's coffee ice cream?

Why is this even judgeworthy in the first place?? AND WHO CARES ABOUT FLAVOR?!!

I'm not trying to be breezier than thou and I know this is the opposite of the point of this thread, but seriously how is this even worth a side eye? This is as bad as the sleepers. JFC.

What I was trying to say was I judged in my head and I was glad I didn't say anything. I just keep out of it, but SIL has been annoyed with all the food he has given the baby.  My main thought on the coffee ice cream was a diaper explosion later on their long train ride home.

My kid's ice cream ended up being his lunch.  The baby going for the ice cream was hilarious.  Makes me wish I'd given DS some when he was that age, but DH judged me and I didn't.  

[gibbinator]

Ds hates dessert (and all delicious things). I always feel like dh's family is judging thinking I won't let ds have treats so then I actively try to force him to try whipped cream or whatever. Then I wonder if they're judging me for forcing it on him when he refuses. Then I realize I'm a crazy person because no one has ever said anything to me or dh either way.

[Deleted]

I am a judgey person by nature so I think judging the judging is worse ;-). But I also don't judge the things people here seem to get up in arms over, so sometimes I feel like I am super breezy. Then someone says something IRL and I think "man I am a judgey bitch." It's all relative I guess.

[winemaker06]

Apr 21, 2014 6:50:07 GMT -5 @vicmo said:

Apr 20, 2014 22:57:26 GMT -5 @fivedogs said:

This literally made me LOL.  

I don't think my kids got ice cream before they were a year old but only because I would give them Greek yogurt and tell them it was ice cream.  Because I didn't want to share my ice cream.  I think I managed to convince DD1 until she was about 18 months, and she's been stealing my ice cream ever since.    She only wants mine (not DH's) because she is obsessed with the M&Ms I get on mine.  

When my H was a kid, if he asked for candy, my MIL would give him melba toast. (Do you have that in the states? Little hard crackers?) He still loves melba toast to this day.

That is hilarious. Yes, we have this! I should try that tactic.

[littlemisschatty]

Apr 20, 2014 22:36:09 GMT -5 winecheery said:

This is not a confessions thread, but in the spirit of judging/not judging, I was thinking the other day as DH and I BBQd a pizza on our grill how incredibly sad I will be if DD doesn't like pizza for some reason. Because BBQd pizza is awesome.

And I thought of you all lol

OMG yes. Grilledpizza is a gift from God.

[ssmjlm]

Well I know I posted a judgey thread, but honestly, if the child is safe, fed, happy, etc I really don't care.

My child won't watch tv (even Nemo was met w/indifference) and spit out the vanilla fro-yo I gave her Friday night. So obviously I am failing as a parent.

[leonard131]

Apr 21, 2014 6:29:56 GMT -5 @mrsbecky07 said:

I am a judgey person by nature so I think judging the judging is worse ;-). But I also don't judge the things people here seem to get up in arms over, so sometimes I feel like I am super breezy. Then someone says something IRL and I think "man I am a judgey bitch." It's all relative I guess.

Ditto- I know I am pretty judgey but then I see some stuff that people get worked up over or even worry about and I think I am just the coolest laid back person there is. 

On a side note my take away from this thread is that I have been depriving M of ice cream.  He hasn't had any yet.  Not sure why.... neeed to fix that ASAP.

[jr009j]

Apr 21, 2014 6:50:07 GMT -5 @vicmo said:

Apr 20, 2014 22:57:26 GMT -5 @fivedogs said:

This literally made me LOL.

I don't think my kids got ice cream before they were a year old but only because I would give them Greek yogurt and tell them it was ice cream. Because I didn't want to share my ice cream. I think I managed to convince DD1 until she was about 18 months, and she's been stealing my ice cream ever since. She only wants mine (not DH's) because she is obsessed with the M&Ms I get on mine.

When my H was a kid, if he asked for candy, my MIL would give him melba toast. (Do you have that in the states? Little hard crackers?) He still loves melba toast to this day.

I'm pretty sure DD thinks individually wrapped prunes are candy. She begs for them and gets really upset when she can't see them on the counter.

[Jalapeñomel]

My DH's family judged me this weekend for not losing the baby weight already. So I'm judging them for judging me.

[AmyRI]

Non-judgemental summary of our Easter:
"Our house is already overflowing with toys, so the kids' Easter baskets were small and consumable-centric. Then my family went and bought more books and stuffed toys for the kids! It's time to weed out the old toys to send to goodwill again so someone else can enjoy them and we don't have to move to a bigger house."

Judgemental summary of our Easter:
"My family thinks it's Christmas with all the gifts they gave the kids yesterday! It's only Easter! Why are they so materialistic?!"

I think everyone judges to some degree. It's not bad - it's just how we relate (or don't) to other people. Getting people to stop judging is impossible, but getting people to be more tolerant and understanding is.
My love language is a mix of 4, and a zero rating for gifts. So I just do not comprehend the desire to pile on the gifts for my kids. My family's love language? Gifts gifts gifts. A little of everything else. Understanding the differences and being mindful of tone of voice goes a LONG way to keeping everyone happy.

[Ashley&Scott]

Apr 20, 2014 22:36:09 GMT -5 winecheery said:

This is not a confessions thread, but in the spirit of judging/not judging, I was thinking the other day as DH and I BBQd a pizza on our grill how incredibly sad I will be if DD doesn't like pizza for some reason. Because BBQd pizza is awesome.

And I thought of you all lol

I keep telling DH it's a good thing M likes Mexican & Chinese food. 

[gibbinator]

I've never heard of BBQ'd pizza. How does one put a raw pizza on a BBQ? Or keep it from catching fire?

[redheadk]

Apr 21, 2014 6:52:27 GMT -5 winemaker06 said:

Apr 21, 2014 6:50:07 GMT -5 @vicmo said:

When my H was a kid, if he asked for candy, my MIL would give him melba toast. (Do you have that in the states? Little hard crackers?) He still loves melba toast to this day.

That is hilarious. Yes, we have this! I should try that tactic.

MIL convinced DH that raisins were candy until he was in elementary school. Lol.

[littlemisschatty]

Apr 21, 2014 11:07:14 GMT -5 gibbinator said:

I've never heard of BBQ'd pizza. How does one put a raw pizza on a BBQ? Or keep it from catching fire?

It sounds like it wouldn't work, but it does. Grease the grill w lots of olive oil. Make the dough as thin as you can without it ripping. 4 mins per side is all it really takes at high heat (400+ deg). Put toppings on cooked side and then let the cheese melt. Yumm

[jr009j]

Apr 21, 2014 19:12:20 GMT -5 @ojo said:

Apr 21, 2014 8:24:44 GMT -5 jr009j said:

I'm pretty sure DD thinks individually wrapped prunes are candy. She begs for them and gets really upset when she can't see them on the counter.

My kids are the same way about medjool dates. Sooooomebody got into the container at the kitchen table while I was making dinner one night and took a bite out of three different dates and put them back.

I'm going to try dates with her next.  Prunes get eaten in one bite.  

[bronxgirl]

Apr 21, 2014 6:50:07 GMT -5 @vicmo said:

Apr 20, 2014 22:57:26 GMT -5 @fivedogs said:

This literally made me LOL.  

I don't think my kids got ice cream before they were a year old but only because I would give them Greek yogurt and tell them it was ice cream.  Because I didn't want to share my ice cream.  I think I managed to convince DD1 until she was about 18 months, and she's been stealing my ice cream ever since.    She only wants mine (not DH's) because she is obsessed with the M&Ms I get on mine.  

When my H was a kid, if he asked for candy, my MIL would give him melba toast. (Do you have that in the states? Little hard crackers?) He still loves melba toast to this day.

I remember eating melba toast as a kid.  I think it was one of my mom's diet foods.  However, I seemed to have had the opposite reaction than your husband.

[winecheery]

Apr 21, 2014 17:33:16 GMT -5 littlemisschatty said:

Apr 21, 2014 11:07:14 GMT -5 gibbinator said:

I've never heard of BBQ'd pizza. How does one put a raw pizza on a BBQ? Or keep it from catching fire?

It sounds like it wouldn't work, but it does. Grease the grill w lots of olive oil. Make the dough as thin as you can without it ripping. 4 mins per side is all it really takes at high heat (400+ deg). Put toppings on cooked side and then let the cheese melt. Yumm

Also, I have a special pan with a long handle that I grill my pizzas on.  Got it as a wedding gift 4 years ago from Crate and Barrel.  It has holes on the bottom, and the handle folds closed for storage!