I'd get a Church blessing and have an anniversary party after 50 years. Maybe after less time if one of us had a critical/fatal illness. I wouldn't do a wedding redo.
I think I'd do it around 25-30 years as I think that can generally be a time of transition for marriage and taking time out to reconnect/recommit sounds nice.
Post by underwaterrhymes on Apr 20, 2014 20:50:32 GMT -5
This is dorky, but we say our vows to each other (not exactly the same ones, but some variation of them) every year. It's just us. No big production or anything.
We would consider a vow renewal way down the line (like 25 years) but family and super close friends only. And it probably would be more like a really kick ass party than anything ceremonial.
I'd thought about it for our 25th, in two years, but it seems very AW ish. I'd like to have the rabbi bless our marriage, but that's all.
You are the least "AWish" person ever. I don't see a vow renewal as attention grabby at all... You, of anyone, deserves it. As long as you aren't sending out a BBB registry and begging for fine china, I'm sure anyone who knows you would LOVE to celebrate 25 years with you.
I've told you a bunch, but you're my role model as a wife and (especially) as a mother.
Post by birdistheword on Apr 20, 2014 20:53:14 GMT -5
I don't know. Maybe? If we ever did that, I would want to just go on vacation and have it be just us. I wouldn't really need an audience. I don't know that it would be in a specific year of marriage - maybe if we went through a rough patch and came out the other side or some other situation where we felt like it would be a good idea. I don't know if I'm explaining myself well, lol.
This is dorky, but we say our vows to each other (not exactly the same ones, but some variation of them) every year. It's just us. No big production or anything.
We would consider a vow renewal way down the line (like 25 years) but family and super close friends only. And it probably would be more like a really kick ass party than anything ceremonial.
That's adorable!!! We wrote our vows. I need to find them. No one video taped, and I was a hot crying mess.
This is dorky, but we say our vows to each other (not exactly the same ones, but some variation of them) every year. It's just us. No big production or anything. .
God. You guys are just so damn cute.
I would like to do a vow renewal with DH at some point, but I think it would just be us. I don't like the idea of there being other people there. Like Sue said, it seems kind of AWish.
I see doing this in our honeymoon location, just as a way to celebrate our relationship and the future to come. I'm sure the vows would be a little different than our marriage vows.
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby
Post by poopedydoop on Apr 20, 2014 20:59:53 GMT -5
I think we are going to a Vegas Elvis renewal in a few years. Just for fun and just the two of us, because we couldn't have the tacky elopement that we really wanted. lol
No. I feel like it is the kiss of death for the marriage. I think because for a while the reality show/celebrity couples had a run of vow renewals followed by divorce shortly after.
I did say I wanted to host a big party where we got married at 10 years though. Simply because it is a cool place to have a party.
Maybe a small ceremony, family only (kids and grands); more of a celebration/anniversary party than a vow renewal. Though it would be a great way to upgrade my ring. I'd probably do a private party for the tenth and a full-on celebration for the 25th.
You are the least "AWish" person ever. I don't see a vow renewal as attention grabby at all... You, of anyone, deserves it. As long as you aren't sending out a BBB registry and begging for fine china, I'm sure anyone who knows you would LOVE to celebrate 25 years with you.
I've told you a bunch, but you're my role model as a wife and (especially) as a mother.
you are TOO kind. lol My issue is I'd WANT to register, lol. And have a good wedding dress. and flowers. And force ds1 and 2 to wear tuxes and bring their boyfriends, also in tuxes. And dh would be an ass, and my sisters would roll their eyes.
What I'd really like to do is buy a great, great wedding dress, and wear it around the house when no one is home.
And damnit, you deserve it! Just post your wish list here. We've got you.
Post by RoxMonster on Apr 20, 2014 21:37:14 GMT -5
I would consider taking a kick ass trip somewhere on, like, our 25th or 30th anniversary and renewing our vows just the two of us on a beach in Bora Bora or something. That sounds awesome.