Sometimes I hate social media

[ohgillian]

Yep. I'm in a "limiting social media" phase and I've really tried to stay off today so I don't have to see all the Easter perfectness.

[melindafelinda]

My life looks pretty lame. And it's still more perfect than it really is.

[sherlock]

It's all fake booking. No one says what a shitty day they had unless it's for some specific purpose. It's the Facebook filter... Put the fb filter on and everything is sunshine and unicorn farts.

[Deleted]

Aw. Remember for every perfect picture there is one like this. Lol.


Really. More like 20 of those.

[PeonyParty]

I totally get it. I just think about what I personally share and for the most part it IS sunshine and rainbows. But that's because I don't air my dirty laundry and I want to share all the good stuff. But people that share just to rub it in are awful too.

[sake]

We didn't even spend Easter as a family (me, H and G) I put up cute pics of g hunting eggs, and the 2 of us, but H was at his parents... He even missed him opening his Easter basket.

No perfect holiday for us!

[elleblue]

I'm certain my life is really boring to anyone on the outside looking in. But it's perfect for me and that's all that matters. 

[sake]

Apr 20, 2014 21:16:47 GMT -5 tators said:

Apr 20, 2014 21:14:50 GMT -5 sake said:

We didn't even spend Easter as a family (me, H and G) I put up cute pics of g hunting eggs, and the 2 of us, but H was at his parents... He even missed him opening his Easter basket.

No perfect holiday for us!

ugh. I think this is part of my annoyance. H is usually working or sleeping. Bahhhhfuckinghumbug

I spent basically the last 2 weeks seething about the fact that H's mom was being demanding and making him come up there... But a couple of days ago, I just decided that I would make the best of it, and enjoy the day with G and my family... So we drove 4 hours round trip to spend 5 hours there, and it was totally worth it. I still wish h would have been with us, but oh well... I'm KOKO

[katfco]

My siggy is as close to perfect as our Easter pictures got. Couldn't get the two of them to sit in the same frame.

But in 20 years, the "perfect" looking kids will look at their pictures and say, "Nice." The imperfect ones will havae fun laughing and talking about it.

[gullterre15]

I totally get it. I took a break from FB from Thanksgiving to Christmas bc of the same feelings.

[Deleted]

No really. This is real life.

Look at all of the jellybeans on the ground after dd ripping the egg apart. Lol.


I love that quote @smace

[marylennox]

So what are you supposed to post? lol. I hate reading negative posts, I think I would rather see the highlight reel.

[marylennox]

Apr 20, 2014 21:15:10 GMT -5 elleblue said:

I'm certain my life is really boring to anyone on the outside looking in. But it's perfect for me and that's all that matters. 

Yep. This is pretty much how I feel about everything I post. lol

[Deleted]

Lol, totally. I was actually thinking about it earlier today. Everything might look really perfect when I post a picture, but people don't see that I cropped this shit out of the background to hide the 800 toast crumbs that Theodore trailed around the house. And then I felt like a fraud. LOL.

[azurely]

Yep. I'm constantly reminding myself that I'm looking at other people's highlight reels, and no one's life is that perfect.

[Deleted]

Apr 20, 2014 22:30:27 GMT -5 @ygmg said:

Lol, totally. I was actually thinking about it earlier today. Everything might look really perfect when I post a picture, but people don't see that I cropped this shit out of the background to hide the 800 toast crumbs that Theodore trailed around the house. And then I felt like a fraud. LOL.

I am always trying to crop stuff out in the background. Or I try to angle the camera where you cannot see the pile of laundry and stacks of dishes in the background.

[gpw]

Apr 20, 2014 21:19:16 GMT -5 @smace said:

I dont know if this is an accurate quote but it's very true in this instance. Facebook is most certainly everyone's highlight reel of life



Like, you'd think my Easter was perfect from my pictures but what I didn't say was that I screamed at Xavier while dying easter eggs because he kept throwing the colored water at wesley, who then tried to drink the remainder. 

I love that pic so much.  So, so much.  

I'm with you tators.  I am on the verge of a FB break myself. 

[ginandjucie24]

Someone told me just the other day. " You have the happiest baby ever". I said well yes that is all you see in the pictures I put up. I don't normally post the ones where he is throwing a fit or having a meltdown or when he is being whiney. I think I will start posting those ones. Lol

I also crop the messy parts of the pictures out.

And you would of thought my Easter was perfect according to Facebook, I didn't add the part where my DS cried for 20 minutes because we took away the plastic eggs that he was throwing or when my H was snippy at me because we had a miss communication over cooking or when my in laws out of no where up and left 10 minutes before we ate.

[Mrs.Rad888]

Of course it's the highlight reel. I don't think I'd want all the highs and lows, because then you'd end up with The Life and Times of Boring Mc Windbag.

[Deleted]

Apr 20, 2014 21:57:32 GMT -5 farmvillelover said:

i've blocked and removed so many people from fb.
i don't generally care anymore what people post but what does get to me sometimes is seeing the same thing/photo on 3 forms of social media - ig, fb and twitter.
but i'm guilty of it sometimes too lol.

I do this. TOO BAD FOR YOU.

But you love my baby.

[Deleted]

Apr 20, 2014 22:02:44 GMT -5 tators said:

Apr 20, 2014 21:47:00 GMT -5 marylennox said:

So what are you supposed to post? lol. I hate reading negative posts, I think I would rather see the highlight reel.

no I agree. I hate negative. I basically live in fucking stepford. I am not kidding. Many large Mormon perfect from the outside families

Are you non-Mormon?

If so, rejoice with coffee and R-rated movies. A life without these things is far from perfect. Lolz.

[textbookcase]

Apr 20, 2014 21:41:15 GMT -5 tators said:

Apr 20, 2014 21:19:16 GMT -5 @smace said:

I dont know if this is an accurate quote but it's very true in this instance. Facebook is most certainly everyone's highlight reel of life



Like, you'd think my Easter was perfect from my pictures but what I didn't say was that I screamed at Xavier while dying easter eggs because he kept throwing the colored water at wesley, who then tried to drink the remainder. 

lol. See I love hearing about the crazy that happens. It makes me laugh.

Crazy? What crazy?!?

(deleted nakie baby butt )

This is why you can never leave social media.

[sara76]

I annoy myself on Facebook. I blast my cute kid pics all.day. But I stay home now and it's still new and it's boring and lonely and Facebook provides my adult interaction during the week besides begging the grocery cashier to chat me up. I need it to be positive so my thin string doesn't break. And then I'm pretty sure I complain too much by night about how many freaking times this baby wakes up.

[jena]

Eh. Facebook is just the stuff people used to put in Christmas letters, of course it's the highlights! Why would you tell anyone about all the tears and fits the 4yo threw??? Do you really want to hear how he didn't want to wear the shoes I picked out and (mistakenly) thought his sister stole his candy and how he didn't want to eat lunch? No because that shit is boring. You want to see some cute pics with a basket and move on. The shit is something you live through and deal with but no one has time to take a picture and post it when they are busy cooking dinner and threatening timeout at the same time.

[eb777888]

Apr 20, 2014 21:11:36 GMT -5 @lazerus24 said:

Aw. Remember for every perfect picture there is one like this. Lol.


Really. More like 20 of those.

LOL!!!
I have tons more, but it's not my family so I can't share!

[eb777888]

Apr 20, 2014 20:54:57 GMT -5 Queen Dick, Hibernating Bear said:

Perfect never is. Most people are full of shit.

times 100

[furby]

A friend of mine constantly posts about how much she loves her DH, what a wonderful relationship they have etc with technicolour photos in support, but the reality is they're on the verge of divorce.

I think sometimes they're trying to convince themselves, not their FB friends.

I'm guilty of baby photo posts though, although I try to limit to one a week.

[mrsukyankee]

I'm so lucky (and happy) that a lot of my friends put their real lives on Facebook. One wrote about how her daughter's bike attachment (to her bike) came unstuck and so she was being dragged sideways for a bit before she heard her screaming. And another posts pictures of herself getting chemo. It equalises the rainbow people.

[RoxMonster]

I think it's just an extension of real life. If I look at the family photos I've chosen to put up in my home or on my desk at work, it's the best ones. The ones where the lighting is just right and everyone looks good and my face doesn't look too fat, etc. People have been showing the highlight reel always in that regard but I think it's more apparent on social media because it's day in and day out. Very few people get to see our "behind the scenes" in real life.

It can get annoying at times, and I do think some funny "blooper" photos are amazing and wish people posted them more. But I also don't want to hear about how your child went poop on the potty or your dog vomited all over your bed at 3 AM, so I guess I am also guilty of only wanting the highlight reel sometimes too. Not everything needs to be aired to everyone.

[sherlock]

I read an article once where the writer said, it's really important to have couple friends that you trust. He gave the example:
Couple A gets into a fight while getting ready. They fight in the car then they walk into the restaurant.
Couple B gets into a fight while getting ready. They fight in the car then walk into the restaurant. (I'm totally shortening here.)
They all sit down together for dinner.
A:"how are you guys?"
B: "oh we are just wonderful! And you guys?"
A: "we are so great."

Then they get back into the car and chastise each other. Why can't we be more like them?

The reality, he said, is if you trust the other couple and are close enough, you can say:
A: "how are you guys?"
B: "alright. We just had a little fight over x, actually."
A: "thats crazy! so did we."

And then you aren't comparing yourself to a false impression. I think it's the same with fb. We all know some of our friends well enough to know that what people are posting is the "highlight reel" but we need to not be too hard on ourselves because other peoples highlights seem better than ours. If we were all brave enough to post the rough stuff then it would be a glimpse inside our real lives. But as a couple people said, who wants that? Who wants to see all the flaws?

Anyway, this article really stuck with me and as I was reading this thread it made me think of it.