wait, what.? I can't say I disagree, but I am trying to see if this is you or for the resonate part with ar.
I'm sorry, I cannot really decipher this.
Sometimes, people will pop off and be awful, and others say, "Oh, they're just having a really rough time IRL. She got a splinter. Go easy." Other times, it's, "Fuck that bitch. We hate everything she says. Oh, someone shot her mom at point blank range and her house is foreclosed? Well, she shouldn't take it out on us."
It's a shame it happens to many this way. Some people get lots of license, and others don't. No specific examples, it's just something that I've noticed. I'd like for us to try to keep this in check a little more.
This is true, but how do you think that relates to this situation?
Sometimes, people will pop off and be awful, and others say, "Oh, they're just having a really rough time IRL. She got a splinter. Go easy." Other times, it's, "Fuck that bitch. We hate everything she says. Oh, someone shot her mom at point blank range and her house is foreclosed? Well, she shouldn't take it out on us."
It's a shame it happens to many this way. Some people get lots of license, and others don't. No specific examples, it's just something that I've noticed. I'd like for us to try to keep this in check a little more.
This is true, but how do you think that relates to this situation?
This is true, but how do you think that relates to this situation?
you can't be serious with this question?
And you can't be serious asking me that?
Has D been given more license or not? He has been allowed to say crappy things for awhile, but he hasn't been punished "officially" so that could be construed as someone with a lot of license. Then again, lots of folks are calling him out now. So which does he fall under...the one given a lot of license or not? I can see it both ways.
Bunny, you're a good friend... however, I do think that the board is supportive toward people who are having a hard time. Many people were helpful and a great support system to me during the adoption fiasco, even those who did not like me. I appreciated it... then and now.
I'm inclined to agree with JulieF. I think our group can actually be quite supportive of people, both popular and unpopular, particularly if they indicate that they are having a rough time personally. However, if they are just going around lobbing bombs and acting the fool, then yeah, they tend not to get much leeway. Under those circumstances, I don't think it would be reasonable for them to expect any.
Edited to specify JulieF, since this conversation seems to be splintering.
You need to attempt to do the decent thing and take a break from the board.
Good god this is stupid. This board seems to be populated by kindergarten teachers.
Dylanite fucked up and his obligation to apologize is to arbor. He can make good on it or not, but FFS, a time out? Get over yourself.
Dylanite actually wrote what I thought was a direct and sincere apology in that thread as soon as it was brought to his attention that his comment would be very personal to arbor. And his head on a platter was still requested and the horse beat dead about whether dev should be brought into the whole thing or not.
Since he has already apologized I am not sure what people want but it seems that until everyone has had a chance to get over being offended (edit - enraged) that he would joke that way toward ANY member he should stop stirring the pot unless he wants to be kicked off for violating ToS. And I think anything he posts for a few days will be seen as pot stirring by those who want him kicked off.
I think it would be good for him to give the board a break for the weekend.
Oh, and I am not a kindergarten teacher but I AM an HR director which often feels like the same thing when dealing with employee relations
The reason why the apology was forgotten was because immediately after the apology he seemed to brush off the incident with LOLs and comments justifying his humor.
I'm inclined to agree with JulieF. I think our group can actually be quite supportive of people, both popular and unpopular, particularly if they indicate that they are having a rough time personally. However, if they are just going around lobbing bombs and acting the fool, then yeah, they tend not to get much leeway. Under those circumstances, I don't think it would be reasonable for them to expect any.
Edited to specify JulieF, since this conversation seems to be splintering.
I agree with this and I'll add that I find the board pretty tolerant and forgiving when annoying posts aren't characteristic of a person. But when they start becoming the norm (or always were the norm) that's when we really see no patience/call-outs/flamings, and rightly so.
Post by laurenpetro on Jul 14, 2012 15:15:28 GMT -5
IRT a pp asking what kind of penance would be appropriate, a general "I'm sorry for being such a class A douchebag recently" would go a long way. I don't think it's required, nor will I hold my breath to see him display some level of class, but it's what I would do if I was in that situation.