I would like to start by simply stating that, yes, I am a man. I’ve been reading this board sense a friend of mine mentioned it, she pointed me this way for something completely unrelated for my sister and well I just kind of stuck around.
I am not sure if my posting is appropriate or not (being a guy and all), but being part of another very closed and tightknit online community for 12+ years has taught me one thing; be open and don’t lurk. So here I am coming out of the closet, so to speak. I’ve been drawn to this particular sub-board simply for the fact that I feel a connection with much of what’s been posted here. I am about 4.5 years out of a divorce, struggling with being a single father and I feel like hearing a woman’s perspective has really opened my eyes. I’ve always been a very open (emotionally and communicatively) in fact my friends often times claim I am more in touch then many women they know; this has been a running joke for much of my life.
While I don’t know you ladies at all, I feel like maybe by me participating in this forum I could learn and better myself while maybe offering a male perspective on some issues. Again I don’t want to intrude, and I certainly don’t wish to impart my opinion where it may be undesirable to do so…I know how the few woman are seen in my other forum. Their option is highly valued, and they are great people to know online and in real life (yes I’ve meet a great number of the people on my other forums, both men and women)… I would like to contribute here too. I know it takes time for a rapport to form, but what better time to start??
With that said if it is indeed okay with you folks, I would like to join in the conversations, and get to know you all better. I’m starting to pick up some of the “slang” and abbreviations and I will get better with time
If nothing else thank you for taking the time to read this, and I look forward to participating!
Post by udscoobychick on Apr 21, 2014 15:41:52 GMT -5
Hi! The best thing I can suggest is have a good sense of humor and a thick skin, because it will take a while for people to accept a guy posting on what's a 99.99% female board. Perhaps jm5855 can give you some better advice on fitting in with the board and/or commiserate. Welcome, though.
Welcome I s'pose. While there's another man around here, generally speaking, it is seen as a little bit creepy for the men to hang around on a women's message board.
I'm sure that doesn't come as a surprise though if you've lurked a bit.
Anyway. Hello.
I understand totally, thus the reason I decided to either come out or get out, I thought I’d take a chance… if there is an overwhelming feeling of creepiness I understand and will back out. My whole view on life is, and always has been, take a chance you never know! However things work out I wanted to at least say hello, and thank you for the opinions I’ve had the pleasure of reading.
It’s funny though, how my other forum is a “man” kind of place but often times having another POV is helpful and often appreciated in the end…
Welcome I s'pose. While there's another man around here, generally speaking, it is seen as a little bit creepy for the men to hang around on a women's message board.
I'm sure that doesn't come as a surprise though if you've lurked a bit.
Anyway. Hello.
I understand totally, thus the reason I decided to either come out or get out, I thought I’d take a chance… if there is an overwhelming feeling of creepiness I understand and will back out. My whole view on life is, and always has been, take a chance you never know! However things work out I wanted to at least say hello, and thank you for the opinions I’ve had the pleasure of reading.
It’s funny though, how my other forum is a “man” kind of place but often times having another POV is helpful and often appreciated in the end…
Thank you for the welcome regardless!
and this is where you start setting off red flags as an imposter! You say you don't 'know' us in one post but then say you've read some of our opinions.
am I having deja vu or did this not just happen a few weeks ago ("my 'friend' pointed me here and I stayed") and then they deactivated but ended up being someone that one of our posters knew?
Sorry for the skepticism if you ARE real... we just seem to get a lot of catfish here. I don't suppose you know your friends user name/want to share?
Oh I assure you I am quite real, in fact if you’d like take a look at my facebook page, Douglas Kalis is my name, just make sure you pick the younger looking guy (my dad is on there too LOL).
So my “friend” is actually the wife of one of the guys I know on my other forum, she mentioned this place to me so I could direct my sister here. I don’t know if my sister followed up with the suggestion, she is trying to get pregnant and going through some stuff in relation to that. I know a very weak connection, but a connection none-the-less, I don’t know my friends wife’s username but I’ll surly ask so I can at least provide that.
I have a very thick skin, a sarcastic sense of humor, in fact it’s kind of like a second language for me; it’s required learning in the Kalis family! As for fitting in, I am quite comfortable with hazing and skepticism that often times accompanies it, only time will tell.
I understand totally, thus the reason I decided to either come out or get out, I thought I’d take a chance… if there is an overwhelming feeling of creepiness I understand and will back out. My whole view on life is, and always has been, take a chance you never know! However things work out I wanted to at least say hello, and thank you for the opinions I’ve had the pleasure of reading.
It’s funny though, how my other forum is a “man” kind of place but often times having another POV is helpful and often appreciated in the end…
Thank you for the welcome regardless!
and this is where you start setting off red flags as an imposter! You say you don't 'know' us in one post but then say you've read some of our opinions.
As I have, yes I’ve read some opinions, and threads here…
I fail to see the correlation between my statement of not knowing you gals (because I don’t) and then saying I’ve read some posts? They are not a one-to-one relation, you can indeed share an opinion with someone (or a forum in this case) you don’t “know”, can you not?
A better way to state it may have been, getting to understand (“Know”) the reasons behind the opinions would be a nice opportunity, and if it’s okay with you folks I would like to stick around.
I am the other creepy male mp is referring to, I haven't been around much the past few months but I can assure not everyone shares her view on this so don't let that deter you from participating. Speaking of that...I have been participating on this board almost four years, been lucky to make some friends, and have greatly benefited from the advice and flamings I have taken from this board. I am currently in a relationship going on 15 months and can 100% confidently say my relationship with her is better because of this place.
I am the other creepy male mp is referring to, I haven't been around much the past few months but I can assure not everyone shares her view on this so don't let that deter you from participating. Speaking of that...I have been participating on this board almost four years, been lucky to make some friends, and have greatly benefited from the advice and flamings I have taken from this board. I am currently in a relationship going on 15 months and can 100% confidently say my relationship with her is better because of this place.
Welcome
Thank you very much for the shot of confidence!
I’ll be honest, I am looking at this as a great way to learn, I know I am not a perfect man, not even close. But what I am is open and honest, and willing to learn, I look forward to the flames and all the fun that often comes along with them
Congratulations on your relationship, I am looking for that too, without much success on match and eHarmony. In fact I’ve found the best threads here so far revolve around hearing a woman’s POV in regard to online dating.
I look forward to the challenges of joining a new group and making new friends, thank you again for the welcome!
I am the other creepy male mp is referring to, I haven't been around much the past few months but I can assure not everyone shares her view on this so don't let that deter you from participating. Speaking of that...I have been participating on this board almost four years, been lucky to make some friends, and have greatly benefited from the advice and flamings I have taken from this board. I am currently in a relationship going on 15 months and can 100% confidently say my relationship with her is better because of this place.
I am the other creepy male mp is referring to, I haven't been around much the past few months but I can assure not everyone shares her view on this so don't let that deter you from participating. Speaking of that...I have been participating on this board almost four years, been lucky to make some friends, and have greatly benefited from the advice and flamings I have taken from this board. I am currently in a relationship going on 15 months and can 100% confidently say my relationship with her is better because of this place.
Welcome
who are your friends? Name names!!!
Well it's no secret my two closest friends on here are jojo and liu. They are, of course, the co-presidents of the JM5855 Fan Club.
Meh, I'll give you a chance. Just don't think your opinion matters just because you have a penis.
Soooo, what do you do? Are you single? Divorced? Widowed? How do you feel about starbursts?
okay the quick and dirty...
I am divorced, married for 10 years, I have 4 kids, yes FOUR!!! I have 50/50 custody of my little ones, two boys and two girls ages 12, 10, 8, and 6 (the girls are my oldest). I've been legally divorced sense Jan 1st 2011, we separated for an extended period because my ex had some medical things going on and I didn't want to leave her without insurance. So toward the end of 2009 we sold the house, split everything up, set the custody arrangement and went our separate ways. Once she was in the clear in late 2010 we set Jan 1st as the date and boom finished it all up.
We are still very cordial to one another and it wasn't a "bad" divorce for as much as one can be not bad LOL
I am an engineer, a CE to be exact, however like many people I am not using my degree. I manage an IT department for a medium sized Biotech company, and I also do hardware design for our main product line.
As for starbursts! I love them, but only lemon, strawberry, and cherry, I've been known to pop one of each flavor into my mouth at once just because!
Post by marigoldgirl on Apr 21, 2014 16:58:13 GMT -5
Welcome. I feel sorry for anyone who wants to join us now, whether they are male or female after all the cat-fishing that has been going on. You seem to be a good sport. That will help around here.