How often do you feel depressed? What do you do about it?

[winterjen]

Do you ever fall into a depressed funk?  Today I just feel so down in the dumps.  It's tied to another dating disaster (I seriously attract the truly insane), and I just feel like I will never meet someone nice and normal.  It's not like I'm looking for a husband.  I just want someone nice and fun to go out and have a good time with.  I don't mourn my failed marriage at all, but I do feel lonely and crave fun and companionship.

Do you ever feel this way?  What do you do to get yourself out of a funk?  Also, do you think it's possible for someone who craves companionship to get to the point of being truly happy being single? 

[mcc]

When I'm in a funk I do things for myself--mani, pedi, clean the house, go to yoga, join a sport. Sometimes self care helps, other times I like to get out of my comfort zone. Sorry you're feeling down (hugs)

[hungrycaterpillar]

Valium.

Xanax.

Lattes.

Lather. Rinse. Repeat.

[Deleted]

There were times I found it really lonely to be single.  I, too, craved companionship.  For me, the weekends were especially hard because pretty much all of my friends are married, many moved out of the area and no one goes out like back in the day.
i would just do my own thing if I was in a funk, get a mani/pedi, take a bath, watch a movie, come here and vent.
It becomes more natural as time goes on.  It's an adjustment, but it gets better.  You will find someone, so don't lose hope.  The nicer weather is coming so there will be more activities to do.

[Deleted]

Apr 22, 2014 18:38:42 GMT -5 hungrycaterpillar said:

Valium.

Xanax.

Lattes.

Lather. Rinse. Repeat.

Reminds me of this 

[winterjen]

Apr 22, 2014 18:47:11 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

There were times I found it really lonely to be single.  I, too, craved companionship.  For me, the weekends were especially hard because pretty much all of my friends are married, many moved out of the area and no one goes out like back in the day.

This is where I'm at.  I just want someone to go out with on weekends.  It's really f-ing lonely on weekends when the kid is with his dad.

[hungrycaterpillar]

Apr 22, 2014 18:49:03 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

Apr 22, 2014 18:38:42 GMT -5 hungrycaterpillar said:

Valium.

Xanax.

Lattes.

Lather. Rinse. Repeat.

Reminds me of this 

Almost - it should say "All the mornings..."

[Deleted]

Apr 22, 2014 18:50:07 GMT -5 winterjen said:

Apr 22, 2014 18:47:11 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

There were times I found it really lonely to be single.  I, too, craved companionship.  For me, the weekends were especially hard because pretty much all of my friends are married, many moved out of the area and no one goes out like back in the day.

This is where I'm at.  I just want someone to go out with on weekends.  It's really f-ing lonely on weekends when the kid is with his dad.

I understand. Make your own routine.  Get up and go grab breakfast to take home.  Hit some local stores, workout.  I know it's rough.   ((Hugs)).

[gozf]

Apr 22, 2014 18:50:07 GMT -5 winterjen said:

Apr 22, 2014 18:47:11 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

There were times I found it really lonely to be single.  I, too, craved companionship.  For me, the weekends were especially hard because pretty much all of my friends are married, many moved out of the area and no one goes out like back in the day.

This is where I'm at.  I just want someone to go out with on weekends.  It's really f-ing lonely on weekends when the kid is with his dad.

Can you make plans with friends or schedule things on your own so you're not tied to dating to get out of the house and have adult contact? I think that would be helpful.

You say you're not looking for anything serious, but I get the sense you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself, any maybe even your dates.

[winterjen]

Apr 22, 2014 18:57:39 GMT -5 gozf said:

Apr 22, 2014 18:50:07 GMT -5 winterjen said:

This is where I'm at.  I just want someone to go out with on weekends.  It's really f-ing lonely on weekends when the kid is with his dad.

Can you make plans with friends or schedule things on your own so you're not tied to dating to get out of the house and have adult contact? I think that would be helpful.

You say you're not looking for anything serious, but I get the sense you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself, any maybe even your dates.

Yeah, I think this is good advice.  I do pretty much rely on having a date to have something to do on the weekends.  I really need to meet some single girlfriends, because getting together with my married friends is hard.

[winterjen]

I think I'll browse meetup.com tonight. Has anyone used this site and had luck making friends?

[mcc]

I've used meetup and it was good for the time. I prefer social sports leagues because I like being outdoors and active. I've met a ton of friends through volleyball and kickball

[onedayatatime]

Apr 22, 2014 19:03:22 GMT -5 winterjen said:

I think I'll browse meetup.com tonight. Has anyone used this site and had luck making friends?

I have gone to a couple meetup.com events with a few different groups - some better than others. The groups around an activity ( painting, sports game, movie...) are better than just meeting over brunch. It gives you something to talk about. Since I have only being doing this for a couple weeks I haven't really made friends yet, but I have still found the activities fun, had conversation and filled my weekends. A success!


Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk

[Deleted]

Maybe try some volunteer opportunities that interest you to keep you busy on the weekends.