My husband's work does this, and sadly it's not illegal, like I'd hoped so he could put a stop to it -- it's just not good for morale. He did it for one trip before putting his foot down and playing the "Damn it! I'm a director!I'm NOT sharing a room" card.
My husband's work does this, and sadly it's not illegal, like I'd hoped so he could put a stop to it -- it's just not good for morale. He did it for one trip before putting his foot down and playing the, "Damn it! I'm a director!I'm NOT sharing a room."
Sending you lots of awkward-free vibes.
My H's new company does this too. He was shocked the first time it came up. I'm fine with him paying extra for his own room. Since he's a sleepwalking/sleeptalker* he has the potential to really annoy a roommate.
I hate sharing rooms. Sometimes for work trips we have to (military, so there's no getting around it). Fortunately being a woman in a male-dominated field, I'm usually either the only female, and get my own room, or I manage to get my own room because of my rank. Which saw good because I HATE sharing rooms. But in a civilian job....can they seriously "make" you share a room? That's ridiculous.
I hate sharing rooms. Sometimes for work trips we have to (military, so there's no getting around it). Fortunately being a woman in a male-dominated field, I'm usually either the only female, and get my own room, or I manage to get my own room because of my rank. Which saw good because I HATE sharing rooms. But in a civilian job....can they seriously "make" you share a room? That's ridiculous.
I was going to say something similar. When I was in the Navy, it wasn't unusual to share a living space with 30+ other women, but that was when I was stationed on a ship. Think of the sailors!
I'd consider going to get a doctor's note (do you have a sleep disorder? social anxiety?) so they'd go along with my request to pay for my own room.
I have occasional insomnia, but I'm not under dr treatment for it. And I don't really have social anxiety, I just don't like sharing with coworkers. Bah
I would think insomnia would be enough for a Dr's note. I know at least for me having to share with a room with a coworker would be enough to trigger an episode, which would impact sleep for both of us. I would feel weird/rude reading with a light on late into the night, etc.
My husband's work does this, and sadly it's not illegal, like I'd hoped so he could put a stop to it -- it's just not good for morale. He did it for one trip before putting his foot down and playing the "Damn it! I'm a director!I'm NOT sharing a room" card.
Sending you lots of awkward-free vibes.
I think it would be even worse for morale if none of the directors had to share a room but the assistants and coordinators did.
OP, I would bring it up to your boss again, but I would suggest to him or her that a single supplement be available to the entire staff so it doesn't look like just you .
This sounds awful, I'm sorry I went on a work trip a couple weeks after starting my new job and had all these people in my section in different parts of the state I had never met emailing to ask about sharing rooms. No!
I hope you're able to find a way to get around sharing!
Post by pantaloons55 on Apr 23, 2014 6:09:30 GMT -5
Wow. This is completely inappropriate imo. I am so grateful my employer doesn't do this. I couldn't do it. Privacy is paramount for me and I would pull the medical reasons for sure.
My district has us do this for OOT conferences. In fact, in the past they have been known to book a room with one king bed if the hotel was getting booked up, and co-workers would have to share a bed too
Luckily, the one OOT conference I went to with a co-worker, they meant to have us share a room, but the place was out of double beds, so we each got our own king Score.
I would be totally fine with paying extra for a private room. I really like having my own space. Sharing a room with a best friend is one thing; a co-worker I may not be close to is another.
I am amazed (appalled?) that companies do this... I work for the government and even we're not that cheap, and believe me, the cost of travel gets a ton of scrutiny right now.
My company does this for every trip and while I wouldn't want to be paired with someone in the company I don't know, I'm ok with sharing with the other woman on my sales team. We're friends and it turns into a slumber party where we stay up late making fun of the whole conference and laughing our asses off. It is hard for two women to get ready in the same space in the morning, though.
If we stayed in less expensive hotels and I could afford the single room supplement I would do it because it's just great to walk around naked while drying your hair
Post by irishbride2 on Apr 23, 2014 7:23:03 GMT -5
I work for a non profit so we do this to save costs. It doesn't bother me. In fact I kind of like it because of the bonding (which is funny because I'm an extreme introvert). But if you don't, then I don't see why you can't just pay for your own room. I would push for it.
My old job did this. Not sure if it matters but it was a non profit. Everyone was basically friends though so it wasn't really a big deal. Even the founder and CEO shared.
Post by chickadee77 on Apr 23, 2014 7:44:35 GMT -5
Hell no.
My H's job does this, though, and he was the first to buck the system and get his own room. They weren't pleased initially, but when he paid his own way and explained why he felt that way, they eventually accepted it and several others have started to slowly do the same.
Post by thatgirl2478 on Apr 23, 2014 7:47:34 GMT -5
WTF? One room is bad enough, but one BED?! Who the hell thinks this is a GOOD idea?!! I've never been so happy that my office just coordinated ridiculous after work 'parties' for a few hours...
Post by fuckyourcouch on Apr 23, 2014 7:49:16 GMT -5
Okay sharing a bed is horrifying. I would throw a fit I'd be tempted to make up something and go to hr. I have horrible night terrors and wake up screaming! And chronic diarrhea!
Post by birdistheword on Apr 23, 2014 8:02:30 GMT -5
Maybe I'm just used to it since I work for a school district, but I didn't realize it was THAT weird to have to share with a coworker. We always have to when we go to conferences. Obviously if I'm the only girl going, I get my own room. I don't like sharing a room, but it's not as horrifying to me as it is to some of the people in this thread, lol.
My husband's work does this, and sadly it's not illegal, like I'd hoped so he could put a stop to it -- it's just not good for morale. He did it for one trip before putting his foot down and playing the, "Damn it! I'm a director!I'm NOT sharing a room."
Sending you lots of awkward-free vibes.
My H's new company does this too. He was shocked the first time it came up. I'm fine with him paying extra for his own room. Since he's a sleepwalking/sleeptalker* he has the potential to really annoy a roommate.
I even hate the thought of sharing rooms. I would absolutely book your own room. They are ignoring you because they don't want to admit how it is absolutely ridiculous to assign roommates.
My district has us do this for OOT conferences. In fact, in the past they have been known to book a room with one king bed if the hotel was getting booked up, and co-workers would have to share a bed too
Luckily, the one OOT conference I went to with a co-worker, they meant to have us share a room, but the place was out of double beds, so we each got our own king Score.
I would be totally fine with paying extra for a private room. I really like having my own space. Sharing a room with a best friend is one thing; a co-worker I may not be close to is another.
My district does the same thing. A group of 6 of my co-workers and I presented at a conference in Sacramento in November and they only booked 2 rooms. I had to share a bed with my boss. :/