When DH picked DS up from daycare on Monday, he had on a pair of shoes that weren't his. They said that DS had lost a shoe and that these were just an extra pair that they put on him (these were sz 9 and he's about a 6) So I brought the extra pair back on Tuesday. They just said they still couldn't find the lost shoe. I mean, he is in a relatively confined area at daycare, so there are only so many places it could be. Today, still no luck on finding the shoe.
Would you ask daycare to buy a new pair of shoes for him? Or do I just need to accept that some things are going to get lost along the way with a toddler?
FWIW - he does have a few other pairs of shoes he can wear and the particular pair that was lost was a hand-me-down, so I didn't actually pay for them...
Emerson Kate, born 38w5d on 4/6/12 at 6:02 p.m., 5 lbs 13 oz and 18 3/4 inches. Lucas Matthew, born 39w5d on 4/11/14 at 8:20 a.m., 7 lbs 4 oz and 20 inches.
When I worked in a twos room a few years ago one of the boys lost a shoe. We noticed when we came in in the afternoon from our play area. This mom had always been very difficult since the infant room we ended up buying him a new pair. We seriously digged up the whole sand box, looked on the other side of the fence in the trash everywhere and could not find it anywhere. We felt awful bc like you said there's only a few places it could of been.
If they were hand me downs I probably wouldn't have them pay if they were new or my favorite shoes I would see if they would split the cost
Post by kemangel124 on Apr 23, 2014 10:26:01 GMT -5
I think you have to let it go...unfortunately. I would be pissed, but things get lost and ruined at DC quite often so it is just one of those things. I would not ask them to pay for them, no. Sorry it happened though.
I just think it's weird that when they noticed that he only had one shoe, go look in the are where he just was for the shoe.... or how long did he run around with just one shoe on?
Post by melmon0417 on Apr 23, 2014 10:52:41 GMT -5
I would just buy him another pair (or not). I wouldn't ask daycare to pay for it, unless this is a habitual thing.
A loses thing in our own house, and I know what a crazy ass kid she is, so I wouldn't really fault daycare. Like PP said, I also wouldn't expect daycare to ask me to pay for a broken or misplaced toy. Shit happens at daycare.
We lost a pediped shoe last year. No clue what happened to it, it may have ended up in the trash for all we know. It never crossed my mind to ask them to pay for it, shit happens. Speaking of shit happens, she decided to paint the toddler room with poo yesterday. Oh her clothes were disgusting yesterday and I almost threw them out (along with her SKR that were brand new). Luckily, all stains, smells came out of everything.
I am of the mindset not to piss off the people taking care of children.
Post by rubber pants on Apr 23, 2014 11:58:57 GMT -5
I'd let it go. Stuff always gets lost at daycare. If they somehow manage to lose ANOTHER shoe in the near future, then I'd re-asses and talk to the director.
J has lost all kind of things at daycare but one in particular was perplexing because it was a swimsuit. We thought someone must have taken it home and then it surfaced a year later behind the daycare's washing machine. Apparently someone had picked it up (with her name in it and all) and taken it to wash and it fell back there. They gave it back a year later stained from sitting back there and mildewing...thanks but no thanks.
I guess I'll be different! In your specific case, my reaction would depend on how much the shoes costs (were they brand-new from Stride Rite or similar?) and how good daycare generally is about this stuff. In our case, daycare lost (aka threw out) four of DD's cloth diapers (a couple China brands, 2 BumGenius) and I absolutely asked what they were planning to do about the situation. I didn't get all mad about it but it was $60 worth of diapers and a wet bag and I asked them what they planned to do about it. I would've accepted them paying half but they insisted on full reimbursement. I couldn't replace the China dipes very easily (and those were actually fairly old) so I just submitted the recipt for the other two. The most important thing was that then they modified their internal procedures to minimize the risk of a repeat incident.
Note: I was very clear with the center director that I did not want reimbursement if it had to come out of the teacher's pocket. I was assured this was part of their corporate "slush fund" for these things - we use a large center with 100+ children.