H got me a watch....for his anniversary...

[BunnyMacDougal]

of falling and needing so much extra help all the time.

[Deleted]

That is so sweet and sad!

How is he doing?

[BunnyMacDougal]

Apr 23, 2014 18:41:17 GMT -5 nursecramer said:

I have been coveting that watch for a long time, but I don't know the backstory... are congratulations or condolences more appropriate here? Some of each? <)

I think congratulations!  lol.

A year ago today, H tripped and broke his leg and tore his MCL.  He has limb girdle muscular dystrophy and was weak in the hips and shoulders before that, but after being in a wheelchair for several months they dystrophy got way worse.  His knee is healed (per MRI imaging) but he still can't balance on it well enough to walk.  We're not sure he's going to get muscle tone back in the areas where it was degenerating slowly before and just wasted away with no use while his knee healed.

We've got all the mobility equipment including a recently purchased accessible van.     We got a cheapy wheelchair at a garage sale for this, but are starting to shop for upgrades because its clear this is going to be long term....maybe permanent.

The anniversary is of the last time he walked any distance or was self sufficient.    I still think its a congratulations that we survived and haven't killed each other.  One person relying so heavily on the other is hard on relationships, man.  

Anyway, I do everything from tying his shoes to washing him in the shower....so he bought me a watch on the anniversary of the fall 

[lightyears]

this is seriously so sweet.

you are so very loved.

[Saint Monica]

You are an amazing person

(heart)

[snickers]

aw!

[BunnyMacDougal]

Apr 23, 2014 18:49:19 GMT -5 @stellasmom said:

That is so sweet and sad!

How is he doing?

He's fine morale-wise.  Muscle strength in the hips and shoulders is not great, not worse.  ??  He can stand up and walk around our bedroom for 16 minutes now before he feels off-balance and gets scared he's going to fall (read fuck up more bones, etc).  

We've really got the hang of this lifestyle with a fully handicapped person down though.  I think its good.  Last year at this time, we were pretty pessimistic about the future.

[WOT?*]

What a beautiful (but sad) story. It's a lovely watch from a sweet guy who loves you very much.

[FastHands]

That must be so rough on you both. I'm sure the token of appreciation is, well, appreciated, and clearly well-deserved! And pretty! Congrats on your commitment and dedication and patience!

[bonquiqui]

Nice! Very thoughtful

[rosiedozie]

What a beautiful gift! I'm glad to see that you both have a positive outlook after such a trying year.

[sewpinkgal]

That is such a beautiful gift, but the backstory is making me cry.

[fezzik]

Very sweet! I'm sorry you had such a rough year, though.

[ProfessorArtNerd]

Awww he LIKES you!

[So_Fetch]

What a thoughtful husband. Love the watch.

[Deleted]

How sweet, seriously. And kudos to you for having such a good outlook on things.

Feel free to ignore this, but will he maybe be moving to a cane or a walker in the future? I know you said that the muscle tone has degenerated, but is his other leg strong enough that he could be a bit more independent? I know this is nosy, tell me to mmob if you like.

[sergey]

How sweet. Love the watch too!

[mrsukyankee]

A thoughtful present for a wonderful wife. That's really sweet.

[woodiedog]

I (heart) that he recognizes your help and support.  I am sorry for the health challenges you've faced in the past year. 

[sassycat]

A very beautiful gift. Also honouring the "in sickness and in health" vow of your wedding. Kudos to him for working so hard! Kudos to your for being a very supportive and helpful partner. <3 this

[Saint Monica]

the watch says DW (dear wife)!

[BunnyMacDougal]

Apr 24, 2014 6:26:44 GMT -5 Saint Monica said:

the watch says DW (dear wife)!

:Y: (idea)

[cinnamoncox]

Oh Bunny, that's so beautiful! I'm very sorry you are both dealing with this. I can't imagine the strain , what a testimony to your marriage, that you're so strong still. Best wishes going forward, Bunny

[Captain Serious]

I don't usually just respond with gifs/pics, but that heart several have posted really sums it up.