Thursday's randoms, vents, confessions and whatever else

[callmehales]

I am still really bothered by a conversation with 2 of my best friends earlier this week. 1 is going through some adjustments with her FI and needing some advice on getting him to a better place in a partnership. so of course I offer my advice with our other friend and let her vent and do all the things friends do.

but when I had a vent about how TTC is more stressful than I thought it would be and makes me sad sometimes, all I got was "oh you haven't been trying long! just enjoy all the practice!" and "well I'm not married/not thinking about kids so I have nothing to contribute".

THANKS FOR COMPLETELY MARGINALIZING MY FEELINGS.

[callmehales]

Apr 24, 2014 13:29:19 GMT -5 cab1217 said:

Apr 24, 2014 13:22:49 GMT -5 callmehales said:

"oh you haven't been trying long! just enjoy all the practice!" and "well I'm not married/not thinking about kids so I have nothing to contribute".

THANKS FOR COMPLETELY MARGINALIZING MY FEELINGS.

I love you.

[narockshard]

Well it's my birthday so I'm in a good mood! I've been so spoiled by my hubby and the guys I work for. They gave me a $100 GC to Buy Buy Baby, and the company credit card to treat myself to lunch.

I'm also wearing my Easter/shower dress today because it's my birthday and I can do what I want! Lol. I've gotten a lot of compliments on it and it's totally making my day on top of everything else.

Sorry to be so AWish!

[fiddles]

Apr 24, 2014 13:38:33 GMT -5 narockshard said:

Well it's my birthday so I'm in a good mood! I've been so spoiled by my hubby and the guys I work for. They gave me a $100 GC to Buy Buy Baby, and the company credit card to treat myself to lunch.

I'm also wearing my Easter/shower dress today because it's my birthday and I can do what I want! Lol. I've gotten a lot of compliments on it and it's totally making my day on top of everything else.

Sorry to be so AWish!

[fiddles]

I just got back from the eye doctor a little bit ago. I somehow scratched my cornea so no contacts for me. I HATE my glasses with a passion.

[tugsgirl]

DH and I have been trying to get together with another couple for 6 months...literally every weekend that worked for us didn't work for them and vice versa...last week we finally nailed down a date and even the babsyitter is on board.......today I just realized it's the same day as the Zac Brown Band concert and I reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeaallly wanted to see them.
What to do, what to do....

[anaps28]

OMG RAGE!! callmehales People who have never gone through it have ZERO idea. I had someone once tell me to "relax" and I won't have another mc....um SAY WHAT?
Friends need to say I'm so sorry your struggling, you can always vent to me if you have to- THATS what friends need to say.

[watermelon620]

I have been tracking every single calorie, working out and being really good and the scale is not moving! GO DOWN DAMN IT! I'm in a diet bet and it ends Saturday and I am 2.9 pound away from the goal to win my money back and maybe more. Why body must you hold on to this weight?! Just LET IT GO!

I guess on the flip side I lost 2 pounds of body fat according to the scale...no clue how accurate that is, but I will take it and resist the urge to get a Wendy's Frosty and fries.

[house]

Happy Birthday narockshard.
callmehales, that sucks. Sorry they really literally don't understand the struggle because they haven't gone through it themselves. *hugs*

[callmehales]

Apr 24, 2014 13:59:41 GMT -5 anaps28 said:

OMG RAGE!! callmehales People who have never gone through it have ZERO idea. I had someone once tell me to "relax" and I won't have another mc....um SAY WHAT?
Friends need to say I'm so sorry your struggling, you can always vent to me if you have to- THATS what friends need to say.

exactly!! even if we've only been at it since January, when EVERYONE else gets PG right away or wasn't actively trying and got PG, IT SUCKS.

[hz80408]

Apr 24, 2014 13:38:33 GMT -5 narockshard said:

Well it's my birthday so I'm in a good mood! I've been so spoiled by my hubby and the guys I work for. They gave me a $100 GC to Buy Buy Baby, and the company credit card to treat myself to lunch.

I'm also wearing my Easter/shower dress today because it's my birthday and I can do what I want! Lol. I've gotten a lot of compliments on it and it's totally making my day on top of everything else.

Sorry to be so AWish!

Happy birthday!!!

[aak0517]

Apr 24, 2014 13:29:19 GMT -5 cab1217 said:

Apr 24, 2014 13:22:49 GMT -5 callmehales said:

"oh you haven't been trying long! just enjoy all the practice!" and "well I'm not married/not thinking about kids so I have nothing to contribute".

THANKS FOR COMPLETELY MARGINALIZING MY FEELINGS.

This gif just made my entire week.

[melaniesc]

callmehales - sorry your friends are being so self centered. When DH and I decided to TTC I told 1 IRL friend who then IMMEDIATELY decided she was going to TTC then too, like it was a freaking competition. We wound up getting Prego weeks apart - I miscarried and she went to term. The WHOLE time all she did was talk about her and the baby to be, not once asking if I was ok. It was unbearable being at her shower -I cried in the bathroom while there cause it was so hard but I went because she's a friend. From that 1 experience I never again told an IRL friend anything about our TTC journey. To this day most don't know how hard it was and all we went through. I wound up just talking to online friends about TTC and found that to be much more enjoyable.
Anyway, big hugs to you and know you are not alone in how you are feeling and that your feelings are valid. and vent away whenever you need to.

[blondemoment123]

I think I put my contacts in the wrong eyes. Oops.


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[mrspost08]

My DH told me today he thinks he has an ulcer. His stomach was acting up today when he had to take me to the doctor AGAIN. My second home is the doctor office. I feel bad for him because the stress that man goes through over me. I really would like to spend the next 20 weeks with no medical issues. Just a normal life and pregnancy.

[jm1211]

DH officially needs knee surgery #3, the cadaver ligament totally stretched out and the Dr. is surprised his knee doesn't totally give out when he lifts. To add insult to injury this surgery is only to buy time, DH is going to need total knee replacement. All of this because of the football glory days and a couple of motorcycle accidents neither of which he's willing to give up. Men...

[callmehales]

Apr 24, 2014 18:08:17 GMT -5 blondemoment123 said:

I think I put my contacts in the wrong eyes. Oops.


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lol, this is when i'm SO glad i have the same prescription in both eyes.  otherwise this would be me like every day.

[mrsguz]

It's time to register DD for kindergarten, but the school we're zoned for isn't very good. We've put our name in the lottery at 3 other schools with zero luck. Even looked at private schools, but even the cheapest we can't afford. It's been so stressful! It's ridiculous considering it's KINDERGARTEN! Then after all the stress we decided to just sen her to the school she's zoned for anyway. Ugh.

[gringachef]

It's Friday but I'll sneak mine in...

AW- We found a preschool for DD!!

And I just booked a food tour for the second day we're in Paris this fall with Wendy Lyn!!! She is simply amazing & getting the chance to spend a whole day eating & drinking our way around Paris with her is a complete dream come true

Vent- I'm completely dreading the private party that's booked here tonight. They have been total, complete and utter pains in the ass since booking this 6 months ago. I really hope that they arrive and quickly have a couple of drinks and chillthefuckout! 

I still haven't made any decision about what to wear to that wedding tomorrow. 

[mrspost08]

I am soooo sick of jamberry nails on FB. ugh!!!! I am sick of everyone posting about them. I have 3 friends who sell them.

[kellsbelles]

Apr 24, 2014 13:22:49 GMT -5 callmehales said:

I am still really bothered by a conversation with 2 of my best friends earlier this week. 1 is going through some adjustments with her FI and needing some advice on getting him to a better place in a partnership. so of course I offer my advice with our other friend and let her vent and do all the things friends do.

but when I had a vent about how TTC is more stressful than I thought it would be and makes me sad sometimes, all I got was "oh you haven't been trying long! just enjoy all the practice!" and "well I'm not married/not thinking about kids so I have nothing to contribute".

THANKS FOR COMPLETELY MARGINALIZING MY FEELINGS.

I get that all the time too. It's always my smug friends who got pregnant so easily that say oh just relax. Nothing about TTC is relaxing or relatively fun. And I'm not enjoying the BFNs every month for almost a year. Hang in there and just tune those people out. You and I have stubborn children already who are refusing to get here already

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The outfit on J's Everyday Fashion today made me want to

[FormerCityGirl]

The cashier at the grocery store just asked DH if he minded me grabbing the change and receipt since his hands were full. It was 30 cents. This is the liberal, progressive town. WTF?

[callmehales]

Apr 25, 2014 19:11:38 GMT -5 kellsbelles said:

Apr 24, 2014 13:22:49 GMT -5 callmehales said:

I am still really bothered by a conversation with 2 of my best friends earlier this week. 1 is going through some adjustments with her FI and needing some advice on getting him to a better place in a partnership. so of course I offer my advice with our other friend and let her vent and do all the things friends do.

but when I had a vent about how TTC is more stressful than I thought it would be and makes me sad sometimes, all I got was "oh you haven't been trying long! just enjoy all the practice!" and "well I'm not married/not thinking about kids so I have nothing to contribute".

THANKS FOR COMPLETELY MARGINALIZING MY FEELINGS.

I get that all the time too. It's always my smug friends who got pregnant so easily that say oh just relax. Nothing about TTC is relaxing or relatively fun. And I'm not enjoying the BFNs every month for almost a year. Hang in there and just tune those people out. You and I have stubborn children already who are refusing to get here already

gah, YES!  we can start weekly PM bitchfests about our unborn offspring.

[pooh8402]

Apr 24, 2014 13:22:49 GMT -5 callmehales said:

but when I had a vent about how TTC is more stressful than I thought it would be and makes me sad sometimes, all I got was "oh you haven't been trying long! just enjoy all the practice!" and "well I'm not married/not thinking about kids so I have nothing to contribute".

THANKS FOR COMPLETELY MARGINALIZING MY FEELINGS.

a fucking men

[sailorgray]

I am in a local mom's club and a few of us just started a play group bc our kds are the same age. I asked the new play group (we've met up twice) if a new member of the mom's club could to our play group and one woman said no. None of the others replied. I think they didn't want to after the one said no. I feel bad for the mom who is just looking for friends for her son. I am going to leave the play group bc I don't want to belong in something that would exclude a fellow mom and her child. FWIW, we will primarily have our play dates at parks and there is usually one mom who can't make it. What's one more going to hurt? Oh, and none of the moms really know each other, so it's not like an outsider coming in.