What should we chat about today?

[dakotadangerdog]

Jul 17, 2012 15:29:27 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

Jul 17, 2012 15:27:53 GMT -5 dakotadangerdog said:

I know right! I get the feeling this guy is not used to a girl who likes to bone a lot. One time we got home and got in bed and he kinda made like he was gonna make a move and then made some comment about how I probably didn't want to, I was like WTF?? He's said that at least twice. I'm leaving early Saturday morning to go out of town until Tuesday. We usually only see each other on Friday nights. I'm thinking of texting him and seeing if we can get together one week night to get in some extra sex before I leave, and then try for Friday also haha.

How long have you been having sex with him and why do you only see him on Fridays?

Like, almost two months I think. 7ish weeks? 3 weekdays are taken up by CrossFit, and sometimes the 4th weekday I'll have plans with another friend, so he gets Fridays. I'm an important busy lady. I'm thinking of proposing that I come over for a quickie after work/before crossfit though to fit in more sex.

[blackkitty]

Jul 17, 2012 15:32:17 GMT -5 dakotadangerdog said:

Jul 17, 2012 15:29:27 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

How long have you been having sex with him and why do you only see him on Fridays?

Like, almost two months I think. 7ish weeks? 3 weekdays are taken up by CrossFit, and sometimes the 4th weekday I'll have plans with another friend, so he gets Fridays. I'm an important busy lady. I'm thinking of proposing that I come over for a quickie after work/before crossfit though to fit in more sex.

What time is CrossFit? Why can't he come over after? I don't care how busy you are, there is ALWAYS time for sex

ETA: and if he sleeps over then you can have it again in the morning!!!

[dakotadangerdog]

Jul 17, 2012 15:33:23 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

Jul 17, 2012 15:32:17 GMT -5 dakotadangerdog said:

Like, almost two months I think. 7ish weeks? 3 weekdays are taken up by CrossFit, and sometimes the 4th weekday I'll have plans with another friend, so he gets Fridays. I'm an important busy lady. I'm thinking of proposing that I come over for a quickie after work/before crossfit though to fit in more sex.

What time is CrossFit? Why can't he come over after? I don't care how busy you are, there is ALWAYS time for sex

CrossFit is from 7-8, I have to shower and eat and by the time I'm done I usually have to go to bed. We both work the same schedule and start pretty early so we are usually in bed by 9. But on days that he gets home around 3:30 I could just run up there for a couple hours after work.

The only issue THERE is that sober sex has not yet happened with us. We tried once, someone was a little nervous...

[blackkitty]

Jul 17, 2012 15:35:32 GMT -5 dakotadangerdog said:

Jul 17, 2012 15:33:23 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

What time is CrossFit? Why can't he come over after? I don't care how busy you are, there is ALWAYS time for sex

CrossFit is from 7-8, I have to shower and eat and by the time I'm done I usually have to go to bed. We both work the same schedule and start pretty early so we are usually in bed by 9. But on days that he gets home around 3:30 I could just run up there for a couple hours after work.

The only issue THERE is that sober sex has not yet happened with us. We tried once, someone was a little nervous...

That's a tough schedule... what time do you get up in the morning? Can you stay up late one night?

[dakotadangerdog]

Jul 17, 2012 15:42:12 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

Jul 17, 2012 15:35:32 GMT -5 dakotadangerdog said:

CrossFit is from 7-8, I have to shower and eat and by the time I'm done I usually have to go to bed. We both work the same schedule and start pretty early so we are usually in bed by 9. But on days that he gets home around 3:30 I could just run up there for a couple hours after work.

The only issue THERE is that sober sex has not yet happened with us. We tried once, someone was a little nervous...

That's a tough schedule... what time do you get up in the morning? Can you stay up late one night?

Lately Ive been slacking, I get up at 5:45-6. Normally I get up at 5.

I could stay up later one night, I spent the night at his house on a week night a few weeks ago. I dunno, things are still really new and I really don't know what he sees this as being or how he feels about me or anything so for some reason I feel weird about asking him to hang out more. Like, maybe he just isn't interested in seeing me more, but I think he probably doesn't think I'm interested either, he used to ask about my week nights more but since I'm always busy I think he gave up a little lol.

[blackkitty]

Jul 17, 2012 15:45:50 GMT -5 dakotadangerdog said:

Jul 17, 2012 15:42:12 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

That's a tough schedule... what time do you get up in the morning? Can you stay up late one night?

Lately Ive been slacking, I get up at 5:45-6. Normally I get up at 5.

I could stay up later one night, I spent the night at his house on a week night a few weeks ago. I dunno, things are still really new and I really don't know what he sees this as being or how he feels about me or anything so for some reason I feel weird about asking him to hang out more. Like, maybe he just isn't interested in seeing me more, but I think he probably doesn't think I'm interested either, he used to ask about my week nights more but since I'm always busy I think he gave up a little lol.

Well I know I am high maintenance and all but if it's after 7 weeks and you're still seeing him once a week that doesn't really sound like much

[dakotadangerdog]

So do you think I should try to hang out more then?

[blackkitty]

Jul 17, 2012 16:00:05 GMT -5 dakotadangerdog said:

So do you think I should try to hang out more then?

If you like him, then yes

[blackkitty]

Jul 17, 2012 16:03:11 GMT -5 @akuzreve said:

I have a vegas suggestion. Go to the Bellagio to the Jean-Phillippe place. It has amazing crepes that are to die for. You will thank me later. Lol.

Your sister is insane.

Mmmm I love crepes

[starryfish]

Jul 17, 2012 16:00:05 GMT -5 dakotadangerdog said:

So do you think I should try to hang out more then?

Butting in here, but yes, I think you should! :-)

[dakotadangerdog]

Jul 17, 2012 16:13:47 GMT -5 starryfish said:

Jul 17, 2012 16:00:05 GMT -5 dakotadangerdog said:

So do you think I should try to hang out more then?

Butting in here, but yes, I think you should! :-)

Hehehe I'm texting him right now!

[blackkitty]

Jul 17, 2012 16:17:36 GMT -5 dakotadangerdog said:

Jul 17, 2012 16:13:47 GMT -5 starryfish said:

Butting in here, but yes, I think you should! :-)

Hehehe I'm texting him right now!

Get you some girl... you'll thank me later. You can sleep when you're dead

[dakotadangerdog]

Haha I feel like such an old person, but seriously, I love sleep. I need sleep. Sleep is the best. I hate being tired.

[blackkitty]

Sex > Sleep

[dakotadangerdog]

lol it's not like I have a bustling social life and my friday nights could be better spent elsewhere.

It's all very casual, he's a cool guy, I like him, I like hanging out with him, but we both have lives and other stuff to do. I'm fine seeing him once or twice a week for now. I think we are exclusive? I haven't asked. I wouldn't be bothered if he was seeing someone else, I'm not seeing anyone else though.

[dakotadangerdog]

Hahahahah nooo not at all. I love hanging out with him on Fridays, sometimes we go over to his friends house on the lake and that's always a ton of fun. Sex with him is always awesome, no matter how drunk we are. We have tried to transition to sober sex but had some hiccups haha. We haven't hung out on a weeknight since then so no chance to try again since.

I definitely do want to have sex more often, like 3x a week minimum. But that'd be like all of my free time outside of CrossFit and Hiking, and since we aren't like dating for real I think that's kind of a lot of time to spend together? So I don't know.

[dakotadangerdog]

I start work at 7am, that's just how early I have to get up to get ready for work and everything.

I could go to a 6PM class, but that's not much better. Plus I love my class to death I wouldn't switch out unless I really had to.

[dakotadangerdog]

Haha I am JEALOUS of your schedule! 8am is sleeping way in to me, unless I stay out late I am usually up at 6:30 or 7 even on the weekends. I work in the construction industry, so 7 is standard.

I texted him about hanging out this week buuuut he hasn't answered.

[dakotadangerdog]

Yeah, he didn't answer.

[jade28]

Jul 17, 2012 16:00:05 GMT -5 dakotadangerdog said:

So do you think I should try to hang out more then?

DDD, my BF and I have bad schedules too. But if you want to make it work and get more physical, it will require some creative planning. My BF works nights, I work days. So every once in awhile he will wake up super early for a breakfast date or I will stay up and come over for a late dinner.

It's not ideal but doing that really helped bring us closer because it's showing both of us are willing to make it work and put in an effort and that the other person is worth it.

Definitely don't sacrifice your hobbies or friends and definitely still maintain a healthy sleep schedule, etc. But maybe there is still some room to budge a bit if you really do want to see him more. BF and I see each other about 3x a week now but it usually requires someone doing something less than ideal.

[dakotadangerdog]

Jul 18, 2012 12:25:24 GMT -5 @redvelvet29 said:

Jul 18, 2012 9:18:22 GMT -5 dakotadangerdog said:

Yeah, he didn't answer.

well that's a bummer

Knowing myself I would be a bit dissappointed that he didn't reply even if it was just a casual thing but perhaps you are better at keeping yourself emotionally unattached than I am.

Yeah it bummed me out a bit, but oh well. I'm too busy this week to dwell on it too much

[Bernadine]

WTF sister- we agreed we weren't bringing the new guys to the ballgame. Now you want me to invite my guy so you can invite yours, and I'm not sure I'm ready to introduce him to family yet.

I'm not even sure where to start on the BK sitch. I'm somehow missing a lot of background on this guy.