I think it's understandable that a party guest would drink alcohol in your fridge. I suppose it depends on the vibe among friends, but any time I have people over they drink whatever beer and wine is in the fridge or out in the open. If you don't want people to go for it, keep it somewhere out of the way.
Post by kellbell191 on Jul 18, 2012 9:13:07 GMT -5
I think it depends on circumstances and your group of friends. What did she say when she gave it to you? Who opened it? Was it chilled? Would you have cared if people ate or drank anything else in the fridge? If the friend brought it chilled I would assume it was to serve at the party and that it was for sharing. Unless she specified it was a gift I think its actually bad etiquette not to serve it at the party. Normally if we bring wine to a party and don't specify its a gift its something nice we want to share with you and I would feel weird if you didn't put it out. At our house, if its in our fridge, you can drink it. If it's in the wine fridge, you need to ask.
I've never seen a bottle of moscato over about $8 (it's possible, but I don't look b/c I think it's nasty), so I'd both side eye the cheapass who brought it and the cheapass who didn't want a guest to drink it
Muscat from France can actually be pretty nice and expensive. I generally get irritable if I'm looking forward to eating or drinking something in my house and someone else got it first. regardless if it is a 50 cent hershey kiss or a $200 bottle of wine, it puts me in a funk.
There is no way I'd be rooting in someone else's fridge, that's just odd.
But I have this weird thing where I don't eat/drink the last of someone's stuff nor will I be the first to open it. So even if I told to go ahead and serve myself, I wouldn't open someone else's wine.
Plus, they didn't just dig around in your fridge, they must have gone looking for the cork thingie, right?
I would not go into someone's fridge especially if all the other drinks were someplace else in a cooler, etc.
However, we have often brought our own beer to parties (as have other party-goers) and we will drink the beer we brought. BUT we put it in the community cooler so if someone else wants some they can help themselves to it.
Post by karinothing on Jul 18, 2012 9:37:09 GMT -5
It would never occur to me to go into someones fridge to get alcohol unless that is where all the alcohol was being stored. Since you mention that you had coolers of beer and wine was out there is no reason for people to go in the fridge.
When I bring a bottle of wine to a party, I give it as a gift to the host. I don't except to drink it that night.
Sorry, cookie-didn't mean to quote you earlier. Not sure why I did that!
The bottle wasn't chilled when she bought it. It was one of those huge coolers, filled w/ ice, so it would have been sufficient to chill wine in. Habs made a good point as well-there was not, to my knowledge, a wine opener next to the fridge saying "hey! use me to open whatever you want!"
It also doesn't help that I do have food agression and am somewhat territorial. Which is also why I try not take anything at some else's party unless I'm sure it's OK. DH suggested maybe someone was just drunk and took it, but unfortunately, no one got really drunk! haha My friends are whinos, but they are also like us in that they can appreciate a good bottle and I would think they would be mindful of whether or not you were keeping something special, if that makes sense.
At any rate, I was reminded of the bottle b/c DH said we were going to be stopping in an area that is known for their muscat when we're in France in a couple weeks. So I'll just make up for that missing bottle by drinking a few while I'm there .
I would assume the person who brought it took it out to share with everyone. I think you're being unreasonable. Bringing wine to me means contributing to the party at large, not the hostess's personal liquor stash for later.
Except that it wasn't chilled, and I was w/ her a lot of the time. She wasn't drinking it. I'll ask her about and see what she expected me to do w/ it. We're cool like that. I'll report that back.
The ones in here saying that Shadow is over-reacting would be the ones at the party getting the side-eye from the rest of the thread for rifling through the refrigerator.
The ones in here saying that Shadow is over-reacting would be the ones at the party getting the side-eye from the rest of the thread for rifling through the refrigerator.
Don't forget ransacking the kitchen drawers for the corkscrew.
Bringing wine to me means contributing to the party at large, not the hostess's personal liquor stash for later.
FTR, every time I've brought wine it was for a hostess gift, and not to be used for mass consumption. It was up to the host to figure out what they wanted to do with it.
The ones in here saying that Shadow is over-reacting would be the ones at the party getting the side-eye from the rest of the thread for rifling through the refrigerator.
i wouldn't bother going into someone's fridge at a party because i'm just not that picky, but i wouldn't be bothered if someone helped themselves to something in my fridge. they're guests in my house, after all, no matter what the occasion.
The ones in here saying that Shadow is over-reacting would be the ones at the party getting the side-eye from the rest of the thread for rifling through the refrigerator.
Don't forget ransacking the kitchen drawers for the corkscrew.
Oh my lord, this. Even if you and I know each other well, this gets a wtf from me. It reminds me of how Mr. Kuus's uncle helped himself to a bottle of champagne from my Easter basket from my parents at some point in the Easter celebration. Who DOES that?!
(Answer to rhetorical question: probably the same sort of person who would eat someone else's leftover fish sandwich out of the work fridge.)
Post by kellbell191 on Jul 18, 2012 12:42:19 GMT -5
Especially since you all are wine people, I wouldn't give a shit. When we hang out with wine friends everyone brings things to share, it's all fair game, we keep it in the fridge and people are welcome to crack open whatever they want. I would never go through someone's fridge for food, etc. but when we get together with this group yeah I'll go into the fridge for wine. It's not like you bought it for a special occasion, or its a super special wine, I'd be annoyed for about two seconds if I was looking forward to it then crack open something else.
I have definitely gone into a fridge and opened a new bottle of wine at someone else's house when its our wine drinking friends. Like I said, anything we want to save, goes in the wine fridge, anything in the regular fridge is fine. Wine is supposed to be fun and is way more fun when you share.
We had a bastille day party on Saturday and a friend of mine brought me a bottle of Muscat, which I was really looking forward to having. Turns out our guests drank it. We had a full cooler of drinks & the wine we were serving was out (we were making Kir royales). DH thinks if it's in the fridge, it's fair game. But there wasn't anything else in there that we were serving. Generally, I ask before going into someone's fridge, and even if it's obvious that they are serving wine from the fridge, I'd wait and ask to make sure before opening a bottle. So my reaction is...WTF?! Who the fuck does that?! Am i being unreasonable? I know i could just go out & buy another bottle, but I was looking forward to it, thought we had it chilled & ready to go, & think it's really not cool to do that. What say you guys?
See, all that's cool Kel except it sounds like Shadow's house/group doesn't work like yours where folks are in and out of her refrig eating, drinking and getting merry at will. So all the folks who are like, no big deal! are folks it would be no big deal for whereas the rest are like, wtf are you doing all up and through my fridge and kitchen drawers?!
But yeah, just buy another bottle and move on cause that one is gone.
Sorry, to clarify DH is a somm and basically any group we hang out with that includes somms is like this. So one group in particular who we hang out with a lot, but basically anyone we know who works in the industry. People who love wine tend to be pretty generous with their wine IME.
Eh, I had someone go into my fridge and eat some stuff before. At which point another drunk friend tattled on her. Which I thought deserved at least an eye roll. It was a cocktail party. I had snacks out (cheese and crackers, chips and guac and salsa, and I think some brownies). The party started at 9pm. Said guest complained she was hungry, but hey, I'm not feeding you a full dinner at 9. And I think I have more food at my parties than most.
So, based on that experience, yeah, I DO think going into someone else's fridge is rude. I get mad if I was planning on using something for dinner later in the week and my husband eats it for lunch without checking! Oh, and also we have a beverage server for beer and usually a cocktail station set up on the counter, so nothing in the fridge for guests. UNLESS it's a really casual GTG.
I have to say, regardles sof who is right or wrong or whatever, I would be irked if I went to my fridge thinking about cracking opening that nice bottle of muscat and finding GASP WHY IS THE RUM ALL GONE!!!