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I found the article to be a little obvious to be honest. As in everything, there will always be people in each category which in this case would be "dating" categories. Call me boring but I was kind of expecting a little more when I read the title of the article.

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Jul 10, 2014 13:43:41 GMT -5 stephreloaded said:

I found the article to be a little obvious to be honest. As in everything, there will always be people in each category which in this case would be "dating" categories. Call me boring but I was kind of expecting a little more when I read the title of the article.

Well I guess for me I have always felt this way, but I have found everyone around me to be of the mind that there is someone definitely out there for them no matter what and you will totally find them. So while I didn't find the concept to be any sort of lightbulb moment, I really appreciate it's being talked about because for many people it isn't obvious.

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Jul 9, 2014 18:56:44 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Jul 9, 2014 17:35:13 GMT -5 MyName said:

If anything, I'm afraid of being happy enough alone to stop putting myself out there (well, I guess I would have to start putting myself out there first, lol).

I agree with @buckybells, most people will not end up alone if they want a companion and actively seek one.  I think if you're out in the world doing things you enjoy, you're bound to meet someone you like at some point.

I agree with the bolded to a point. I mean sure there are people in my past I could end up settling down with just to not end up alone. They are fine people, but I know I'd be happier alone than with them.  I've met plenty of people I like, but the timing has to be right and they have to like you back.

Having been single for four years it's time for me to just accept the fact that it may not happen. I know several people who have been seeking a partner who are totally normal, great people but just can't seem to find the right fit. I will fully admit though that I am super duper picky. Not in a he has to be this tall or make this much money sort of way. But it is very very rare I get any sort of butterflies for anyone. So because I haven't been the there's always another man around the corner type, I've accept that there just may not be and that's okay. 

I think you have a great attitude and there is absolutely nothing wrong with being single long term if you don't find someone who gives you butterflies. I think you are smart to wait for that.

I honestly do think, though, that while 4 years seems like a long time - it's really just a blip of your whole life. I hope to live another 50-60 years, so anything that happens in the next few years or even couple of decades is relatively a small part of my life. I think that if you don't want to meet someone, that's a valid and wonderful choice. But I hope you don't give up if you DO want to meet someone, just because it hasn't happened yet. It may take another 4 years or another 20 years but you have a lot of life ahead of you where all kinds of things could happen. 

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@buckybells I totally get that. I just don't think it's in the cards for me. I wouldn't turn someone down who was awesome obviously but for now I'm over making any sort of real effort with it such as online date. Maybe I'll be 85 and find my love and we'll have an adorable old people wedding.