Not the time, but my own non ml dramz

[bonquiqui]

Im a loser.

Hey guys. I know today is not a good time for this, but I'm posting anyway. My job is fantastic, and thankfully i have some sort of outlet right now. I am however, not doing well.

I found out my ex is getting married a few days ago to the whore he cheated with. The date is august 30, presumably because she is "pregnant" Great two dirty whore peas in a pod. The problem comes in when i found out that one of my bff's is going to the wedding, and god only knows how many other friends are going. Her h is in the wedding. I can't cause drama and tell people to pick sides, but damn. She stole my life, husband, and now friends. God it stings. They are all flying to this stupid wedding. How many of my friends, i have no idea.

It shouldn't anymore, but it does. I don't want to see anyone, or do anything. I have totally isolated myself aside from work.

I shouldn't say anything to my friends right? I don't want to put them in the middle. I really don't know how much more i can take. I miss my dad, and i know he would know what to say to make me feel better.

I know people have noticed that i have disappeared in real life, because they have commented about my radio silence on there.

I sound crazy, but i had to get this out. Sitting here crying isn't helping, but kals did bring me her duck. She is trying cheer me up.

I have never felt so alone in my life. I am completely alone.

Slap some sense into me

[ErinExpat]

You're not alone! You have us!

I think it's totally normal to have an intense reaction to him getting married.

But you're so much better off! He will always be a sad, pathetic person. You have gone through hell and cone out better for it. Nothing will change that.

[underwaterrhymes]

I'm so sorry, bon.

The only thing I can offer is the assurance that you will be far happier than he is in the long run.

[Bernadine]

I totally get it. All of my mutual friends with xh kind of stuck with him, and it really hurt. Especially because they all commented on what a dick he was too me. And still, they chose him over me.

I wish I had some great advice, but I don't. Just wanted to let you know you're not alone. I'm sorry chica

[lucky513]

no slaps for you just hugs

[sequins]

I'm so sorry BQQ (((hugs))))

[amberlyrose]

Oh hell no. I'd be telling my friends left and right about how much it hurts! wtf. If it was an amicable split, then I wouldn't say a word but he CHEATED ON YOU. No good friend could sit in those seats and watch that marriage go down, right?

I just want to fly up there and hug you

[vicky]

You are not alone.
Fuck him, fuck him FUCK HIM.
Right now? He thinks he's in love. But it's just a sham. And it will all come tumbling down around him.

[flex]

I would be hurt too. I'd be tempted to say something to them about how much their attendance will hurt me, but I understand your dilemma. (((hugs)))

[flamingeaux]

We can start a pool on how long before he decides parenting is just too hard, and fucks her over too. I'm sorry you're hurting, and I know how unfair it seems. He's a dirty cheating asswipe, and he still gets to have some of your favorite people from your previous life, while you don't. It sucks. If I were there I would go just to spike his drinks at the reception with ex lax.

[rex]

oh, bqq. i'm sorry. they are not true friends to you.

you are not crazy, and not alone.

[emsumm]

That seems serious shitty of your friends :-(

[Deleted]

Fuck me right in the ear bon! All of them!

[justcallmekhaleesi]

If this were me, I'd seriously contemplate ditching these friends. It would be too hard for me not to get upset that they still socialize with this asshole and are supportive of his marriage to the woman he cheated with. I know you can't tell them to pick sides, but I just couldn't even be involved with that noise.

Ugh. I'm sorry you're dealing with that.

[Champagne Supernova]

I don't think you're crazy at all! This sounds like a normal reaction to me.

I'm so sorry and you're not alone. We got your back, lady!

*bearhugs*

[Kristinmo]

That fucking sucks and they fucking suck. Time to find new friends (and I know that's easier said than done).

[sergey]

So sorry. That's a tough position to be in and I hope your friends realize how hurtful they're being.

[mskitkat]

Should you perhaps, you know, just accidentally drop the time and location for this wedding, I know some people who would have no problem causing all the drama you are too good to cause.

[pantsparty]

Oh bon, I'm so sorry. Don't beat up yourself for a SECOND over your reaction - anyone would feel the same way.

Fuck them. FUCK THEM RIGHT IN THE EAR!

(((bon)))

[bonquiqui]

Thanks guys. I seriously appreciate all of your kind messages. I cannot believe i let this get to me again.

99% of our friends are mutual, but i just don't know after this, how it can remain as such.

ML friends forever.

[urbancowgirl]

I'm sorry. ((BQQ))

[McGavin]

Of course that would bother you, you're not crazy! (((hugs)))

[orangeblossom]

I'm so sorry. Hugs.

[Deleted]

I would feel so hurt.

[wannabe]

That's fucked up. I'm really sorry

[Ruby Gloom]

First, you're not a loser, the furthest thing from it!

Of course it hurts that they're getting married! And having friends support that hotmess hurts, too. I can't think of a single friend I had during my first marriage that I'm still close with today, sadly.

Sometimes if it weren't for my kids, I'd think my first marriage never really happened, or that it happened to someone else. I guess it kind of did, since I'm such a different person than I was then, and I was married to that man for 16 years.

Eventually, you will heal and he will be a distant memory. You will be so very happy with yourself, your new life, your new love, that you will just not think about him anymore.

You're a good and beautiful person. It's okay to feel hurt by all of them, but apparently they don't have good taste anymore ( ).

Hugs & hairpets to you

[verycontrary247]

Jul 9, 2014 18:33:26 GMT -5 mp said:

Bon, big hugs. It's ok to be sad. It's ok to cry. Don't tell yourself you *shouldn't* be feeling any of these feelings, because it's ok to feel them.

I'd have a hard time not saying anything to my friends that were going. Especially that the dude is standing up in the wedding of a cheater? I'd be pissed.

You don't sound crazy. You sound like you need to visit So Cal and hang with polka & I.

Preferably in November while I'm also in SoCal

[blanca]

I'm so sorry. I agree these people are not friends. No fucking way would I go watch my friends ex marry the woman he cheated with. Just keep taking it one day at a time- you will get through this

[winecat]

Jul 9, 2014 18:47:03 GMT -5 bonquiqui said:

Thanks guys. I seriously appreciate all of your kind messages. I cannot believe i let this get to me again.

99% of our friends are mutual, but i just don't know after this, how it can remain as such.

ML friends forever.

I don't blame you at all.  It's super shitty, especially for people like your BFF to attend.  Big hugs...

[TrickyBob]

You know how I feel since I bother you 24/7, but just in case you forgot in the .02 seconds I haven't messaged you; YOU ARE AWESOME! And I <3 you!