I would meet up with anyone. I've met a few people here and they were all nice. Meeting for drinks or whatever is pretty low risk for danger IMO. If we like each other, I'll share my personal info in much the same way I would with anyone new I meet... slowly while I get to trust them by knowing them.
There is always a chance someone you know and learn to trust IRL is going to turn on you, but that's life and IMO has nothing to do with a message board.
I'm also facebook friends with a bunch of you and have my blog in my signature, so my personal information isn't held that closely to me anyway.
I'm not sure what you mean by "trust". Do you mean "trust" in the sense of feeling comfortable at a GTG? Yes, I do. Every time--so far.
Or do you mean "trust" in that I'm unconcerned about bad things said behind my back or that I'll be thrown under the bus at some point? Not so much. BUT that's the same IRL too. I try not to set myself up to get hurt. I try to keep my expectations low.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Jermys, cbwm1, sparkythelawyer and MWOS all have my address and sparkythelawyer and her sister have both been inside my house but they brought me pizza and cookies so clearly I trust them the most.
Post by underwaterrhymes on Jul 10, 2014 10:09:51 GMT -5
I've met a fairly decent amount of ML people and generally feel if I like them on here and get a good vibe, I'm not going to wind up in a hole in the ground putting lotion on my skin.
Now, usually I meet them in public places, but I stayed overnight at CheshireGrin's place with MWOS and felt completely comfortable.
There are a few others I'd feel comfortable doing this with, but not a huge amount. Definitely not with someone who has never been to a GTG before, though, no matter how much I like them.
I have a very close group of friends that came from the tri-boards on TB. There are about 11 of us, and we do trips together, chat all the time...etc. I'm actually going to Chicago to stay with some of them next month.
That said...it took a while to work up to that. We all got trolled/catfished on our original FB group and that made us all a little gun-shy.
I would meet up with some of the MD-area girls from here, but only in a public place.
I've never been big on GTGs, but if multiple people were going to be there and it is in a public place, I'd be okay with it.
Honestly I'd be more wary about adding people on Facebook or Instagram since you can get more personal info about me there than just meeting for dinner.
This gypsy thing hasn't freaked me out too much. I mean, hello, was it really a big surprise?
Yes, exactly. I would still meet people and not blink at giving others that I trusted my info. This hasn't made me feel any less safe, just more paranoid about how many people are actually reading the boards.
I have a very close group of friends that came from the tri-boards on TB. There are about 11 of us, and we do trips together, chat all the time...etc. I'm actually going to Chicago to stay with some of them next month.
That said...it took a while to work up to that. We all got trolled/catfished on our original FB group and that made us all a little gun-shy.
I would meet up with some of the MD-area girls from here, but only in a public place.
I think that happens a lot. I'm trying to figure out if **poof** ... or someone else entirely.
I spent the night in the home of someone I'd just met with like 20 other women I'd just met for my first GTG. I was not shanked, skin suited, no one smelled my hair in a creepy way (that I know of), no one even drew dicks on my face while I slept.
We were however accosted by a possum at one point.
I trust my gut. I like when people come with references.
The first internet friend I met in person was Mod. My parents and xH were certain I was about to be sold into some sort of sex ring, but we just had a few beers. No big whoop.
I rarely meet Nesties entirely alone with the exceptions of EmilieMadison at the airport, catbus for coffee and furniture browsing, and insominac for organic food. I've always been with other Nesties or my husband if traveling.
Safety in numbers.
Why do you think I always plan a huge GTG when I'm meeting new people? LOL.
I had a Nestie and her DH stay with me for a weekend. they had just moved here and were concerned about finding a hotel that took dogs. since I live close to the airport I offered to put them up at my place while they looked for a house, etc.
I had only met her and her dh once at dinner prior to their move. I had no qualms about letting them stay here. I suppose they could have murdered me in my bed, but that was over 2 years ago and I'm still here.
many people might think I was a dummy to do so. They may be right, but I cheated death. lol
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Yes, exactly. I would still meet people and not blink at giving others that I trusted my info. This hasn't made me feel any less safe, just more paranoid about how many people are actually reading the boards.
I'm more nervous about the news story that is coming out than anything.
Post by karmasabiotch on Jul 10, 2014 11:48:17 GMT -5
I trust until until I have a reason not too. In 10+ years of posting Vaba and the ML Bliss with the allegedly dead children are the only times I've been let down.
I'm more nervous about the news story that is coming out than anything.
Yes, yes.
Can somebody please explain this in full to me?
I'm sure I'll screw this up but long story short: A story is being written about a Texas story where teenage girls accused a classmate of bullying them, hacking their phones etc. The mother of one of those girls is a mommy blogger whose posse of followers threatened and harassed the girl accused of bullying. There were several interesting threads on CEP a month or two ago. The person writing the story contacted pixy, her email is listed in her profile and when you search the bulky in the CEP thread shows up. I'm not sure anyone knows what the story contains detail wise but this forum is mentioned.
I'm sure I'll screw this up but long story short: A story is being written about a Texas story where teenage girls accused a classmate of bullying them, hacking their phones etc. The mother of one of those girls is a mommy blogger whose posse of followers threatened and harassed the girl accused of bullying. There were several interesting threads on CEP a month or two ago. The person writing the story contacted pixy, her email is listed in her profile and when you search the bulky in the CEP thread shows up. I'm not sure anyone knows what the story contains detail wise but this forum is mentioned.
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby
I have a very close group of friends that came from the tri-boards on TB. There are about 11 of us, and we do trips together, chat all the time...etc. I'm actually going to Chicago to stay with some of them next month.
That said...it took a while to work up to that. We all got trolled/catfished on our original FB group and that made us all a little gun-shy.
I would meet up with some of the MD-area girls from here, but only in a public place.
I think that happens a lot. I'm trying to figure out if **poof** ... or someone else entirely.
Um, who are you?
ETA: Because dropping real names in here is a little skin-suitey for me and you're freaking me out.
Post by trixiedicksnatch on Jul 10, 2014 11:59:17 GMT -5
I would like to believe everyone is inherently honest and trust worthy. I mean you can see signs of crazy in people but even then I'm like oh hey maybe they are just off their meds right now.
I want to gtg with everyone, I like meeting people.
If there is one thing that I learned, it's that my gut does not work as evidenced by my glowing "what would you like to say to another MLer" post :-#
But I don't talk much in GTGs nor do I drink, so I doubt I'm going to stand up and announce my personal info to the world. I don't think anyone will follow me home and if they do, they would never reach because of the awesome traffic jams, lol. What else is there to be worried about?
Post by MixedBerryJam on Jul 10, 2014 13:50:06 GMT -5
I always think I have a really good gut, and 90% of the time I listen to it and don't regret it; the gypsy situation definitely falls in the remaining 10%. But I'm not exaggerating when I say that within the last 10 days I was trying to remember gypsy and her xbf's backstory because I know there was a shitton and a half of psycho stuff going on on both sides of that, and my recollections were in the context of "She's kinda cool and funny now; I'm glad things are working out for her even though I had my doubts" and now she has me wondering if my entire gut needs recalibration.