I get paranoid and tense when my children are near cars. Parking lots, streets, my driveway. Aghh. This past weekend, DH was watching the younger two in the front yard and they were racing toy cars down the driveway. DD2 was running after one and I raced in front of her, yelling no and scaring the crap out of her. DH was all, "Um, we've been playing this game for half an hour. Chill woman."
Food and eating had (have?) me stressing. First I was like, omg she's going to choke. Then I was like omg, her diet isn't healthy enough. Now I'm like omg, how long can she live on pineapples and air???
I am trying very hard to remember that she controls what goes in and what comes out and that my only responsibility is to offer, offer, offer.
This is something I stress about a lot. Bas is a pretty good eater, but he utterly refuses vegetables at home (apparently the stinker eats some veg at daycare). We keep offering and are trying lots of different things, but uggggh I worry.
I can't remember the last time ds ate fruit other than a banana or a veggie that wasn't mixed in with Mac n cheese or pasta. And even then sometimes he picks them out. He just won't eat them. Sigh. He still gets a pouch or two everyday and loves them, plus likes applesauce so I just tell myself he will eat them someday. Daycare says he eats stuff for her. Who knows.
Safety: cars (inside and out), water, all sorts of things. Food: I let him eat a lot of odd things but I really don't like artificial sweeteners or other artificial type foods. Sleep: I'm pretty okay with him missing bedtime every once in a while for a special occasion but in general we are getting ready at 7 and sleeping by 8. Messages: I don't like DH even joking about sexist things. I really want to raise him with a very positive view toward women.
just L's bedtime. i mean, i care about other stuff but not enough to like, say anything. lol
girl needs to go to bed at 615 or it's fucking awful for us. we leave a lot of functions early but idgaf. come home with me and take care of my screaming child if you care so much that we left. /end rant.
can you tell i've gotten unnecessary shit for this before?
Ditto. I'm pretty hardcore about 7pm bedtime especially. And that was a "just you wait" thing. Past me thought staying out late once in awhile would be NBD. Or that she would just nap in the stroller.
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Hahaha yes. Me too. I was totally going to be that mom with the adaptable baby. Then I got a high need sleeper and I became religious about nap and bedtime.
Post by gibbinator on Jul 10, 2014 19:57:07 GMT -5
We pretty much follow ds around the park, yard, etc and don't give him more than 10 ft distance. We also follow him up play structures. We are paranoid about injuries.
Post by teatimefor2 on Jul 10, 2014 21:49:01 GMT -5
I'm not breezy about sleep and as everyone knows, food. He get homemade cookies and today we shared a scoop of ice cream, but not a lot of processed stuff or juice. I'm also crazy about vaccines and flu shots, rear facing and letting him explore/have independent play.
I am not breezy about lap infants. I just can not shake the feeling that my (squirmy) lap baby could wind up being someone else's lap baby if we hit that patch of turbulence. We are buying her a seat for her first trip at 9 months.
Also not breezy about international travel. I refuse to take DD out of the US as a tourist until she is older. I am weary of getting proper medical care elsewhere. I am going to Mexico next week for a wedding. DD is staying home with my husband. My friend and his wife are bringing their 2.5 month old baby. I admit that for a second I felt jealous that my baby isn't going but then I remembered why.
This board makes me feel like something is wrong that DD usually goes to sleep between 9 and 10 pm, without fuss. At 7 pm, we go out on a stroll somewhere, like the mall or Target.
I like to think I'm breezy about a lot of things. However, compared to the moms in our neighborhood I am one uptight gal.
First, a few of them sit outside and smoke cigarettes every afternoon. Who does that these days?? Also, I've heard these two moms in particular make fun of the fact that a kid on a different street is always wearing his helmet when he rides his bike. (None of their kids ever wear them, heck half the time they aren't even wearing shoes when they ride bikes). So maybe they are just bitches and it has nothing to do with me bring breezy or not- hmm, new point of view!
One thing I am not at all breezy about- lollipops and Popsicles. Basically, if there is a stick hanging out of your mouth and you under 6, you're sitting down until you finish that thing.
I'm also becoming non breezy about sleep. It's been a whole new experience this week establishing a bed time routine with DS. I love reading books , lullabye snuggle time, and then he falls asleep all splayed out in our bed. It's too cute!
Sleep but I'm trying to be less nervous about interpreting every little change in nap habits as BUT WHAT DOES IT MEAN FOR HIS OVERNIGHT SLEEP TONIGHT.
Lead. I mean, I have no actual data on what has lead in it, but I just presume everything made before 1980 will turn V into a psychopath
Not a psychopath (well, not on account of lead anyway), lead poisoning causes learning disabilities.
Not sure where you live but it's common here in MA. I deleaded an apartment once, that was hard work!
No wonder it's upward of $20k+ professionally. I've seriously considered becoming certified. It's great $.
There also may be programs offered through your city/county that will do the work. Our city, if you meet certain criteria, will do it at no cost to the resident. niq
I think I'm pretty breezy about quite a few things, but not car seat safety, holding hands in parking lots, who watches him (daycare and babysitters), and sun protection - if he's outside, he has to wear a hat and preferably sunglasses. Sunscreen if he'll be out more than 10 min at a time.
Sleep but I'm trying to be less nervous about interpreting every little change in nap habits as BUT WHAT DOES IT MEAN FOR HIS OVERNIGHT SLEEP TONIGHT.
Lead. I mean, I have no actual data on what has lead in it, but I just presume everything made before 1980 will turn V into a psychopath
Not a psychopath (well, not on account of lead anyway), lead poisoning causes learning disabilities.
Not sure where you live but it's common here in MA. I deleaded an apartment once, that was hard work!
No wonder it's upward of $20k+ professionally. I've seriously considered becoming certified. It's great $.
Okay, maybe not "psychopath", but there's a strong link between environmental lead and violent behavior later in life.
There's not that much lead in paint where we live, but I'm still very non-breezy about it. Mom brings home all sorts of antiques and I have no idea what to do with them.
Post by nonsenseabound on Jul 11, 2014 9:31:28 GMT -5
gun safety. One of the first questions I ask of any parent who has my kid in their home, do you have guns and are they locked up? This is Wisconsin and a lot people have guns or rifles. I will not leave my child in a home where guns are not safely secured. That is my most nonbreezy issue.
Otherwise, it's car seats and monitoring kids. We never let our kids out without an adult but they are 5 and 2.
I am non-breezy about sleep, food, and car seats. I am also non-breezy about water safety, but in a different way. I will not allow them to use floaties/puddle jumpers/whathaveyou. I start teaching them to swim as infants and by 2 they are mostly self- sufficient in the water, though they are not outside my reach in the water ever (yet).
I am totally breezy about germs and mostly breezy about who watches them. Our family are across the country. I'd never go to the doctor, get a haircut, or go out with MH if I didn't trust my neighbors and our awesome high-school aged babysitters.
Food. DS is the only kid in his daycare class now who isn't allowed to have the whole menu. I send extra food every day to supplement. But even saying this, when we took him overseas last month we let him have tons of stuff he isn't normally allowed just to make sure he was eating something. Now he's back to a life with no goldfish lol.
That's it. I'm pretty breezy about most other things.
Water (bath/pool) I visited around 20 daycares and none would I have left my <2yr old at...so I'm definitely not breezy about childcare Crib bumpers/SIDS Schools (had my kid on a wait list for preschool 2yrs in advance for example) Bad behavior Sibling fighting
Post by DarcyLongfellow on Jul 11, 2014 11:54:00 GMT -5
There's really not much I'm breezy about. I'm a pretty anxious person, and I'm a worrier.
I'm laid back about the kids getting minor bumps and bruises from playing. I'm laid back about TV time (but not what they watch). And sugar -- DD1 eats far too many desserts, but I have a huge sweet tooth too, and she gets it from me. But that might be it LOL.
I'm non breezy about: - Carseat safety - Water safety - Gun safety - Food (DD1 eats like crap (no veggies), but I'm strict in general -- juice is a special treat, no sodas, no fake sugar, she has to eat healthy stuff even if she sometimes eats cereal for 3 meals a day) - Who watches my kids. I've never hired a babysitter. Grandparents are the only babysitters we've ever used, except for the church nursery that I didn't use until DD1 was old enough to talk. - Appropriate kid stuff. I'm a crotchety old lady in terms of what I think is appropriate for my kids to wear, watch on TV, and be exposed to (ie language). DD1 can't say (or hear from me or DH): butt, fart, or even "Oh my gosh" -- I make her say "Oh my goodness" instead. I also make her use "Yes/no ma'am/sir"
Post by scribellesam on Jul 11, 2014 12:18:00 GMT -5
I was reminded today why I am so not breezy about DS's protein intake. He only ate a banana and a few bites of toast with peanut butter for breakfast. Usually I wait around to leave the house until I can get him to eat some Greek yogurt or eggs but today I was in a hurry to get him to gym daycare before it filled up. I came back from my workout to a hangry toddler having a total meltdown in the middle of the playroom. Oops. Lesson learned. We skipped the park to come home and eat yogurt instead.
The only thing I am breezy about is letting DD CIO for a bit for naps and bedtime. At 18 months old I can tell when her cry is just a cry and when she needs something.
Everyone gives me shit about how much of a schedule DD is on but she sleeps and eats great so they can all STFU. I also haven't let anyone watch DD except her DC lady. She's been watching her since she was 9 weeks old and DD loves her.