Post by spaghetticat on Jul 13, 2014 16:35:16 GMT -5
God that was so hard. I feel physically weak. Do you mind if I share some photos? She was my first dog, my first baby. My heart hurts. Thanks for all your kind words in the other thread. Any advice on how to tell V? We had her day goodbye and tell Daisy she loved her, but I don't know what to do when she asks about her. Tell her Daisy was sick and she's not coming home?
Emerson Kate, born 38w5d on 4/6/12 at 6:02 p.m., 5 lbs 13 oz and 18 3/4 inches. Lucas Matthew, born 39w5d on 4/11/14 at 8:20 a.m., 7 lbs 4 oz and 20 inches.
Post by orriskitten on Jul 13, 2014 16:38:15 GMT -5
I'm so sorry. I wouldn't say anything unless she asks. Mel was very attached to our cats and only asked for them once and we told her very simply that he was gone. She didn't ask again.
Post by miniroller on Jul 13, 2014 16:39:52 GMT -5
Oh, OP, even though you don't know me, I'm sending you good thoughts & vibes tonight Your love is obvious in the photos, & I hope you know how much it was obviously reciprocated too!
I am so sorry. We actually didn't have to say anything to Macy, she never asked. Which is kind of sad but I figure maybe it's for the best that it happened when she was so young.
Such a cutie! Many hugs and good luck when telling her. I'm honestly not sure what we would say either, but I hope you all find peace and comfort soon.
I am so sorry, she is one cutie pie!!! Unless she asks, I wouldn't say much. If you all talk about heaven, I would say that she is there, watching over you. Otherwise, I'm not sure. Big hugs!!!
I'm so sorry for your loss. I teared up seeing the pics. It's very obvious how much she was and still is loved. I would be honest with V. I think it's good for children to know at a young age that all things doe at some point. I'm not religious at all and I'm not sure if you are, but if the same thing happen to one of our pets that William is really connected to, I would tell him that they died/ or passed away and is no longer in any pain. I would try not to be very descriptive, but still let her know what happened somewhat. Although saying something nicer helps, I think it's good for children to learn that it is natural and it unfortunately happens to all life. Again, I'm so sorry for your loss.
Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry. What beautiful pictures. This must be so hard. I wish I had good advice but everyone else has good suggestions and food for thought. Big hugs (heart)
Post by AllieHound on Jul 13, 2014 17:22:10 GMT -5
I'm so sorry.
Like a PP mentioned, I wouldn't say se was "sick" as that might make her fearful when you or she is sick. If you're religious, go with the Heaven route. If not, I maybe simply say that she's gone and can't come home, but she loved V very much. That its okay to miss her and be sad.
My parents put down one of their dogs this post Wednesday and A loved him. I think I'm going to wait until she asks about him and then say, "He died. He isn't coming back... It's okay if you're sad." And leave it at that. I know she has no idea about death but I can't lie to her. I just want it to be a fact of life. He died. I've read that she should just accept it and move on. If she asks more about it then I'll have to decide then what to say. When we lost our older dog last September, A didn't really even notice. Now's a little more difficult.
I'm sorry for your loss. Losing a pet is so tough.