My cousin is getting married at the end of October. We had planned her bacherlorette already, but the MOH just contacted me saying that she and some of the girls wanted to plan a night in Atlantic City instead. This is probably a 4 hour drive for us. At that time, I will be 35 weeks. She wanted to know if it was okay with me, since she wasn't sure if I would be able to make it, and let me know that they will be doing a night out at home for everyone who couldn't make it to the weekend trip.
To be honest, I am not sure that I really want to be going to Atlantic City and I know I won't be able to keep up with them if I do. I feel obligated to go because I am matron of honor (she has a maid and a matron) but it's more money than I want to spend, and the thought of doing TWO bachelorette parties already sounds exhausting to me. Would it be terrible of me to play the pregnancy card and just attend the night out at home? Maybe if I chip in some money for the bride's room, drinks, food, etc?
After 36w is when my OB's office says you need to stay within a 2 hour radius of the hospital.
I honestly felt pretty good late in third tri and didn't deliver until 41w2d. But, crazy bachelorette parties aren't really my thing anyway so I'd totally pull the pregnancy card if I didn't want to go.
I would not go. I dread 2 hour car rides to family stuff as it is so I wouldnt want to sit that long. If she has a local one just attend that. Bride will understand.
If you don't want to go, definitely use the pregnancy card. I'll be 35 weeks tomorrow and I would feel up to going but I doubt I would want to drive 4 hours though.
The drive would be the breaking point for me. I was uncomfortable during a 2 hour drive last weekend, and I'm general feeling really good at 33 weeks. Strange coincidence, I'm invited to a friend's 30 birthday celebration when I'll be almost 35 weeks also in Atlantic City. It's basically like a bachelorette party with dinner, drinks, night out. I'm pulling the pregnancy card for all the reasons you mentioned....exhausted, not being able to keep up, too much money. I'll take my friend out to lunch another time instead. She understands
I can't imagine a 4h drive and a big whoop it up night that far along. I took a nap yesterday and was still yawning during a concert (a really awesome concert, so it's not that i was bored, lol) by 9:30.
I'm 32 weeks, and there's absolutely no way that I could handle a night out on the town like that. It makes my body hurt just thinking about it. Hell, I avoid walking upstairs to my bedroom whenever I can avoid it.
I'd probably go to anything local, that involves a lot of sitting, though.
Post by melsamoony on Jul 16, 2014 18:40:19 GMT -5
I wouldn't go. Sleep gets harder as pregnancy goes on. I already don't sleep well in hotels so I would avoid any out of town trips possible. Plus you will be up and going most of the day and can't even enjoy your share of mixed drinks. Go to the in town get together.
Pregnancy card. The thought of the bachelorette party I went to still exhausts me. It took me like a week to recover. I'm also going to pull out a NICU nurse card and say I see plenty of people deliver at 35 weeks so there's no way I would want to make that trip.
I'm also pulling the pregnancy card this weekend. My BFF, who I already did a 14 hour bachelorette party day with, is having her bridal shower in Fort Worth and wanting to go out to the bars that night. Fort Worth allows smoking in their bars and I've still been pretty tired lately. I feel like its okay for me to sit one out. I've done my fair share of pub crawls with the bride over the years
Post by nonsenseabound on Jul 17, 2014 10:19:46 GMT -5
I would not be comfortable with travelling 4 hours away at 35 weeks. It sounds like they have already given you an out and you will attend the other one.
If you have some guilty feelings, give the maid of honor $50 and say buy a round of drinks on me.
Post by MadamePresident on Jul 19, 2014 0:36:41 GMT -5
If it were local and you could easily go home early if you were tired, I spittle probably go. But I have easy pregnancies and generally feel pretty good. Still the 4v hour drive is a bit much.