Post by borinquen57 on Jul 17, 2014 20:02:30 GMT -5
I posted a couple of weeks ago after finding out that I was pregnant. I finally had my u/s and first high-risk OB appointment and so far so good. I'm 15 weeks, we went over all of my health issues, and I asked about the drinking and heart meds that I had been on before finding out. The OB was really great at helping me be at ease and just coming up with a better plan for managing my heart issues during the pregnancy.
Things with H had been just there but it they took a pretty bad turn yesterday. We were talking about finances now that 2.0 is on its way and he just snapped. Again, he's blaming how he treats me on his financial stress, but no, he's always been like this and it's just getting worse. He made some fucked up comments about money which leads me to think that once we head toward divorce, he's going to get nasty. I know I can't keep bullshitting, so I called a lawyer yesterday so I can start getting the info I need to file. I need to look out for my kids and for myself. Unfortunately, they called back while he was home, so I'll be calling back tomorrow while he's at work. All the problems that we're having are making have negative feelings toward this pregnancy and the baby, and I just can't allow this asshole to ruin yet another thing for me. I hate to sound materialistic, but once I figure out finances (from him and when I go back to work), I have ZERO fear about being a mom of two on my own, I don't need H for anything else because he doesn't do anything that I can't do by myself.
So, that's what going on. Just looking forward to getting everything together for my (our) future!!
Ugh I'm so sorry it turned to this, but you seem to have your head in a good place. Congratulations on the good doc appt though. We're here for you. ((Hugs))
I am sorry things took a turn. But I am glad you are doing what you need to.
I don't want to sound like a creeper, but I remember you posting when you were getting ready to leave you XH. You sounded so relieved to get your new life going and I can totally relate to those posts now. I'm just ready to move on!
I'm glad your OB helped out your mind at ease regarding your pregnancy. I'm sorry your STBX is being an ass, but it sounds like you're a strong woman. (((Hugs)))
Glad the OB could ease your mind. Whereas the timing isn't perfect, remember you're very strong. You are a mom and have the knowledge and confidence to take care of another child on your own. The decision to proceed with a separation/divorce is not the easiest. I'm glad you are looking out for yourself and your children. GL! It will get easier one day and you'll find yourself in a happy place