Post by stategirl08 on Jul 18, 2014 10:53:30 GMT -5
How do you deal with not feeling well in first tri? I am thankful for the nausea and tiredness but am over feeling totally uninterested in doing anything. I get home in the evening and try to think of something that sounds palatable for dinner, eat dinner, and then try not to fall asleep on the couch at 7.
I know it's all for a good reason, but I feel so useless! I haven't cooked dinner but twice this week, haven't cleaned in probably two weeks, and don't even start on laundry.
I'm just not sure how to adjust to this new normal
Post by estrellita on Jul 18, 2014 11:27:03 GMT -5
I'm there with you. I just want to sleep and going to work in the morning is a huge struggle. I just try to push through it when I need to and relax when I need to. It's definitely hard though!
There was a tiny part of me that loved the exhaustion, I have to admit, lol. DH was awesome and stepped up in cooking/cleaning/animal-care, so I never felt like things were crumbling if I didn't get to them. And I hadn't even started thinking about all the stuff that comes with baby preparations, so no guilt there either. And passing out on the couch and getting a couple of hours of sleep after work just felt SO DAMN GOOD. lol.
I don't miss the nausea and constipation and the rest of that BS, but the ability to just pass out and have zero guilt? Yeah, I wouldn't mind some-a that action.
So ask for help to keep on top of what absolutely HAS to get done, and try not to stress about letting some things go, and enjoy the blissful sleep whenever you can! You are absolutely not useless -- the changes happening to your little dude/dudette are HUGE at this point!
Fatigue is the biggest thing I am dealing with, yet I can NEVER sleep at night! I try to stay awake during the day so I can sleep at night, but I think I am fighting a losing battle!
It really is brutal. My 3 y/o DD doesn't nap anymore, but thankfully goes into her room for quiet play for a couple of hours every afternoon so that I can nap. The house is a wreck, dinner is a joke most days, and I am wiped. The second trimester is much better
My only advice is do what makes you feel comfortable, it does get better. As I entered 2nd tri I finally felt normal again. Luckily H never made comments to me when I'd come home and pass out. Sometimes I would wake up, eat dinner, and go back to sleep for the night. Just try to get your water in and don't worry about sleeping too much. Weekends were my catch up time to clean the house and do laundry but I would still do naps during the day. Even in my 2nd tri I sometimes still sleep after work but not nearly as often. And I found that now it helps if I stay busy - like even going to Target and walking around wakes me up.
I had to just let some of the housework/cooking/etc go. When you have some energy, do one or two things. Everything else will still be waiting for you once you get over the first tri icky-ness. Until then, just get by the best you can. I barely left the house unless I needed to during first tri because I was either eating, puking or sleeping.
Post by demandypants on Jul 18, 2014 13:44:43 GMT -5
I was so miserable my first trimester of my first pregnancy. I cried once, to my husband because I couldn't get away from myself. I was tired, and crabby, and lost interest in food but had to eat so I wasn't sick. I napped every day after work, and still fell asleep early on the couch. it was so hard being so out of my normal self. I took no joy in sharing our good news because peoples overly happy reactions annoyed me. I was awful. BUT... it all went away. And this pregnancy is different. So do what you need to in order to get through this part. Be kind to yourself. The second tri will be great!
Post by stategirl08 on Jul 18, 2014 13:49:33 GMT -5
Thanks for the encouragement ladies! I think I put too many expectations on myself. Talked with DH and he said not to worry about it, it's just how it is right now.
So going to be gracious to myself and not worry about things!
DH was doing a horrible "cleansing" diet my first few weeks of PG and I couldn't barely even sit in the house while he cooked. I'd just go home and sit in the bedroom til like 7pm and then go get a pb&j sandwich.
It will get better. Cravings sort of paved the path to motivation for me, lol - and that's what got me up to cook or atleast prepare food and be useful. Don't forget the prenatals they seem to help me a lot with energy and pg brain.
Just let things go. You and baby are more important than doing anything. It does get better, starting last week (12w or so) my energy started coming back. I feel almost normal, except that my pants are a wee tight.