I'm feeling down and it's stupid

[verycontrary247]

I had a really hard week at work. Like the most awful people in the world with nothing better to do than scream at tech support all got to talk to me. Then potentially really bad news about my eligibility to apply for a promotion that I've really been looking forward to.

I had Wednesday off to hang out with co-worker for his birthday, which was amazing and perfect and left me feeling really sad again that his situation is deal-breaking for me in terms of an exclusive relationship.

Tonight is a friends birthday party and I can't work up the motivation to go. I know I'll have fun if I do, but at this point sitting alone wallowing just seems like an easier option.

I need some hair pats.

[pl77]

/hair pats. Just get ready andgoddddd, and tell yourself you'll leave after a half hour if you're miserable. Chances are you'll be glad you went!

[pl77]

Jul 19, 2014 15:02:07 GMT -5 pl77 said:

/hair pats. Just get ready andgoddddd, and tell yourself you'll leave after a half hour if you're miserable. Chances are you'll be glad you went!

wtf autocorrect. *and go*

[peppermint]

Hugs. I hope next week is a million times better for you!

[1confused1]

Hugs!

I agree with everyone, go tonight.

[lookingup]

Definitely go out.

Lots of hair pats though.

[MyName]

((hugs))

I hope you go out. I bet you'll have fun!

[sassycat]

Been the technical support route too, so I know exactly where you are coming from. Get ready go have fun and forget the last week. Have a shot to let go of the week, and 2 shots to get ready for the coming week. Enjoy. lol

[jigsy]

I have also had a shitty week and I feel like staying at home, but I know I am wallowing...so I am meeting my book club at a movie outdoor movie. Fake it til you make it girl!

[Deleted]

Hair pats and hugs

[mel]

Hugs! I'm sorry you had a shitty week.

[verycontrary247]

Jul 21, 2014 7:49:11 GMT -5 @stpete said:

I'm sorry, those weeks are rough. Did you go and have fun?

What about him is a dealbreaker? I never heard.

I did go out. The birthday party was a disaster that I ditched about 15 minutes in, and then walked to the closest bar and hung out with strangers.


He has a 5 month old baby from a previous relationship. When we first started hooking up last November I had no clue and he didn't tell me his ex was pregnant until she was about to pop.

Now that in itself isn't the big dealbreaker. The fact that he and his ex still live together is. He says they barely see each other since they both work FT, and it's so they can better care for the baby. No, they're not still sleeping together or sharing a room, but the whole setup just feels very....intimate to me. And makes me super uncomfortable and ragey and jealous whenever I think about it.

[verycontrary247]

Jul 21, 2014 9:26:45 GMT -5 @stpete said:

Um, yeah. I don't think I could date someone who was living with his ex still.

Yep. Suuuuucks.

[WinterIsComing]

Jul 21, 2014 22:25:47 GMT -5 verycontrary247 said:

Jul 21, 2014 9:26:45 GMT -5 @stpete said:

Um, yeah. I don't think I could date someone who was living with his ex still.

Yep. Suuuuucks.

Are they strictly platonic and okay with each other dating other people. Are they planning to live together indefinitely or is there a planned end date? Its just such a odd setup that seems like it has potential to go so wrong. I just can't imagine this is good for either of them moving on when it probably puts a huge hold on other relationships like with you.

ETA: sorry for the million questions! I was more just wondering if there are other deal breakers that would still be there if he moved out.

[verycontrary247]

Jul 21, 2014 22:32:34 GMT -5 WinterIsComing said:

Jul 21, 2014 22:25:47 GMT -5 verycontrary247 said:

Yep. Suuuuucks.

Are they strictly platonic and okay with each other dating other people. Are they planning to live together indefinitely or is there a planned end date? Its just such a odd setup that seems like it has potential to go so wrong. I just can't imagine this is good for either of them moving on when it probably puts a huge hold on other relationships like with you.

ETA: sorry for the million questions! I was more just wondering if there are other deal breakers that would still be there if he moved out.

Strictly platonic. He doesn't GAF whether she dates. She knows about me but we haven't met so I don't know how "okay" she is with the situation.

They do eventually plan on separating, but there is no forecasted date currently. Like, he makes probably no more than like 20% more than I do, which isn't a lot. I certainly can't afford to live by myself in this area. Basically as long as they're living together she isn't asking for child support since he's there paying for shit and taking care of le bebe half the time. He's concerned he'll end up fucked financially whenever he moves out between child support, rent, and commuting to see/care for his kid- which is a legitimate concern. It's just a lot for me to take in.

Aside from an occasional clingy tendency (which is typically cleared up with a "get off my balls yo" comment), he's an incredibly fantastic dude and I wish shit was different

[WinterIsComing]

Jul 21, 2014 22:48:28 GMT -5 verycontrary247 said:

Jul 21, 2014 22:32:34 GMT -5 WinterIsComing said:

Are they strictly platonic and okay with each other dating other people. Are they planning to live together indefinitely or is there a planned end date? Its just such a odd setup that seems like it has potential to go so wrong. I just can't imagine this is good for either of them moving on when it probably puts a huge hold on other relationships like with you.

ETA: sorry for the million questions! I was more just wondering if there are other deal breakers that would still be there if he moved out.

Strictly platonic. He doesn't GAF whether she dates. She knows about me but we haven't met so I don't know how "okay" she is with the situation.

They do eventually plan on separating, but there is no forecasted date currently. Like, he makes probably no more than like 20% more than I do, which isn't a lot. I certainly can't afford to live by myself in this area. Basically as long as they're living together she isn't asking for child support since he's there paying for shit and taking care of le bebe half the time. He's concerned he'll end up fucked financially whenever he moves out between child support, rent, and commuting to see/care for his kid- which is a legitimate concern. It's just a lot for me to take in.

Aside from an occasional clingy tendency (which is typically cleared up with a "get off my balls yo" comment), he's an incredibly fantastic dude and I wish shit was different

Definitely a shitty situation. Who knows though, it seems like a situation that could change quickly. It's such a weird setup that I just can't see it functioning well for very long. Hopefully he will have less deal breaking baggage in the future!