Post by CajunShrimp on Jul 21, 2014 11:15:21 GMT -5
If he doesn't want to be included, start a new iMessage without him. If I was working as a cop, or trying to sleep after working an overnight shift, I would be pissed if my phone was constantly buzzing with people chatting. And it is not fair to tell him to turn his phone off (and potentially miss important calls/texts) because you guys want to chat. TBH, I get where he is coming from here.
Post by cinnamoncox on Jul 21, 2014 11:17:25 GMT -5
Maybe he needs to keep it on for work purposes. I'd start a new group message with everyone but him, then ask him how he would like to be included. Maybe he can initiate a group text with pics when he is able to tend to the texts, and you guys can reply if it's good time for you. Then when you and everyone but him wants to do group messages, use the one without him?
Post by CajunShrimp on Jul 21, 2014 11:44:22 GMT -5
No. He has told them he does not want to be part of the group message. They need to respect that and start a new message without that. Why should he have to shut his phone down because they can't respect that he works nights?
Post by speckledfrog on Jul 21, 2014 11:56:50 GMT -5
This is a non-problem. Text him with the initial text. If he doesn't want to participate because he's working or sleeping (valid reasons!) then start a new text without him. No need to take it personally, especially since he likes to participate when he's not indisposed.
This is a non-problem. Text him with the initial text. If he doesn't want to participate because he's working or sleeping (valid reasons!) then start a new text without him. No need to take it personally, especially since he likes to participate when he's not indisposed.
This is exactly what we do. But he gets all pissy with us when he tells us to stop texting him.
It wouldn't bother me if he would just say "I'm sleeping, text amongst yourselves and I'll let you know when I'm awake" or whatever.
Or if he weren't the one sending 10000 texts when he is awake/not working.
He is sleeping. Why should he have to wake up and return your text to stop his phone from buzzing with each text? Just don't include him in group texts unless you are sure he wants to be included. Easy peasy.
And he is like everyone else. I like to text when I am awake/not working. I do not like to get multiple group texts when I am asleep. I don't think you understand how hard it is to get good sleep when you are working off-hours. You don't seem to understand that you are texting him when he is trying to sleep or is at work.
I don't think you understand that we have no idea when he is working or not working or asleep or awake. Are we never supposed to ever text or call or try to communicate with our brother because he might possibly be sleeping or otherwise busy? Trust that if we ceased all communication with him and left it entirely up to him to reach out first that he would be very, very hurt.
You should tell him that his bizarro position is giving you no choice but to do this unless he simmers down.
And also that addressing his sisters as "girls" and making it all "geez little ladies, keep it down for the grown ups" makes me want to sock him in the face.
My H often gets wrapped up in the group text thing with his siblings and he gets VERY annoyed. They have all learned to just let him text when he can since his work schedule is crazy. He is not hurt by this. In fact, he is very pleased by their new found realization. I'm sure there's a way you guys can work this out... it is... just....texting.
I don't think you understand that we have no idea when he is working or not working or asleep or awake. Are we never supposed to ever text or call or try to communicate with our brother because he might possibly be sleeping or otherwise busy? Trust that if we ceased all communication with him and left it entirely up to him to reach out first that he would be very, very hurt.
Can you all just explain this to him? And ask how he would like it to be handled? Bro, we never know when you are working/sleeping, we want you included. What do you want us to do?
I'm sure he knows he has a different schedule than the typical 9-5, so I can't imagine he won't have any ideas or solutions here.
No. He has told them he does not want to be part of the group message. They need to respect that and start a new message without that. Why should he have to shut his phone down because they can't respect that he works nights?
It annoys me because we can't just "take him off" of the group text. We have a seperate group for just the sisters, but we never have any idea when his shifts are, and when he isn't sleeping or working or whatever he wants to be included and is the most frequent texter of all of us.
I would be annoyed if I were the OP. He complains when he is included and then he complains when he's not? I agree with whoever said to use the Do Not Disturb function. He can program Favorites to come through with work numbers if they need to reach him.
I don't think the Do Not Disturb feature would always work here. I have at least 20-30 different number that someone from my work could use to get a hold of me. I'm not putting all those numbers in my favorites to keep from missing those calls. (I am an EMT who works shift work all the time.)
I would be annoyed if I were the OP. He complains when he is included and then he complains when he's not? I agree with whoever said to use the Do Not Disturb function. He can program Favorites to come through with work numbers if they need to reach him.
I don't think the Do Not Disturb feature would always work here. I have at least 20-30 different number that someone from my work could use to get a hold of me. I'm not putting all those numbers in my favorites to keep from missing those calls. (I am an EMT who works shift work all the time.)
I used to be an EMT and people don't get how hard it is to sleep when you are working shifts, especially when you go back and forth between overnight and day shifts.
I don't think you understand that we have no idea when he is working or not working or asleep or awake. Are we never supposed to ever text or call or try to communicate with our brother because he might possibly be sleeping or otherwise busy? Trust that if we ceased all communication with him and left it entirely up to him to reach out first that he would be very, very hurt.
Can you ask him if there's a specific time that is best to text him? Like maybe 3pm would be better because he's either going to be at work and probably not just trying to fall asleep. I think you're both kind of being dramatic. Him asking to be excluded from group messages on occasion isn't him saying he wants to cease all text conversations forever.
There is nothing I abhor more than a group text. I also can't put my phone on silent or do not disturb. Also, with group texts, even if the one initiating the text sends it in a reasonable window, there is nothing to stop others from responding at crazy times (or normal times that are crazy to a shift worker). Of course, the worst was when I first got my new phone number. I loved it - super easy to remember - but the person who had it before had 8 million medical appointments, bill collectors, and friends with giant group texts. Hell is being added to an enthusiastic group text by mistake.
I was like this, but you know, with an iPhone, so less slamming.
I don't think the Do Not Disturb feature would always work here. I have at least 20-30 different number that someone from my work could use to get a hold of me. I'm not putting all those numbers in my favorites to keep from missing those calls. (I am an EMT who works shift work all the time.)
It's very possibly not realistic. I agree with whoever said he needs to come up with a solution.
I agree that he needs to come up with an idea himself because he can't be pissed at OP (& sisters) for group texting and then get mad at them for leaving him out of it.