My random is that I am on day 3 of not washing my hair. I've not washed it because I haven't made the time. I'm getting my hair done tomorrow and I'm wondering if I can push it one more day. DS yanked on the back of my cardigan this morning and it tore at the seam at the top by my neck. So now I am walking around with 3 day hair and a hole in the back of my sweater. I'm a mess.
sparkythelawyer - Seriously? You're complaining because your MIL wants to throw you a shower and is obviously super excited about your fetus?
I think you're out of line.
Right?
If you are worried about it being too early, or don't want people to start planning or talking about it yet, then wait to tell them?
I wanted to wait. My husband blurted it to his parents. He is an only child.
FOR THE RECORD:
I have said nothing to them. And I won't say anything to them. But this is all so new still, we weren't planning on being pregnant this year, and I am still anxious and worried that this baby will be ok and that this pregnancy is viable. I don't need to feel like I am letting anyone else down if something goes wrong. If that makes me out of line then fine.
sparkythelawyer - Seriously? You're complaining because your MIL wants to throw you a shower and is obviously super excited about your fetus?
I think you're out of line.
No, I'm not complaining that she is excited and wants to do nice things for me. I am anxious that she wants to make all these plans when it is still really, really fucking early and we have not done ANY screening yet to make sure we don't have any genetic issues not compatible with life, etc. I'm not ungrateful. I love my inlaws to pieces and I am so happy that this baby is already so very loved. However, I'm also worried, anxious, and new to this.
No, I'm not complaining that she is excited and wants to do nice things for me. I am anxious that she wants to make all these plans when it is still really, really fucking early and we have not done ANY screening yet to make sure we don't have any genetic issues not compatible with life, etc. I'm not ungrateful. I love my inlaws to pieces and I am so happy that this baby is already so very loved. However, I'm also worried, anxious, and new to this.
Can you explain this to your MIL? I know you don't want to stomp all over her excitement but she will understand if you tell her this. And gallstones while pregnant is AWFUL. I'm sorry you went through that.
Thanks Gaba. And I promise I am really not trying to seem ungrateful :-)
I will come up with some nice way to ask that they not put down anything they can't get back until we've had the chance to get some prenatal testing done. I mean, I'm not due until the middle of February so time is on her side right now. And she and I get along fabulously, so I am sure all will be well in the end.
Gallstones and pancreatitis are the big fat suck. We found out we were pregnant on Monday, we were in the hospital that Saturday. Yippee! Apparently this is pretty common in pregnant ladies? But it is not common for me, ya know?
But, at least I got a few extra ultrasounds out of it, I got to see little Nugget at the doctor yesterday, and he/she was all wiggles and "jazz hands" so that was awesome. And I was able to record the heartbeat for the husband. We were all "Woah! We made a heartbeat! Holy crap!"
Damn, I am dragging today. I am so dang tired and I got 8 hours of sleep last night. I just had to stop 25 minutes into my workout and I feel like I could go to sleep right now. Wtf?? (And NOT pregnant!)
It's 100 degrees outside and I making chili tonight, lol.
Every now and then, that song Oh Shelia will just pop into my head for no reason.
Oh! Oh Shelia! Let me love you 'til the mornin' comes...
Also, until recently, I thought it was "let me love you 'til the money comes" like she was his sugar mama while he was in a tough spot. lol. I was like well, that's bold.
lol, it's not "until the money comes??" I totally thought it said that, too. Now I see how it doesn't make sense.
Happy birthday! I think that I might need a cavity or root canal. I'm taking Friday off to get that checked out and take care of some other stuff that I just don't want to do when I get home from work. In the meantime I'm going to try every holistic thing that I can to make sure that it doesn't get worse.