If your DH had a vasectomy

[tripleshot]

DH has a vasectomy scheduled for 8/15. The doctor we saw yesterday said that at 12 weeks, he'll get checked to make sure all the sperm is vacated and then we're in the clear. He said that if he's clear at 12 weeks, there's no chance of the sperm coming back. I thought I had heard that you have to get checked at 1 year. What did your doctor do?

Oh and he's been awesome about this the entire time but I think he's getting nervous now because he has to shave his balls. Lol. And he said I need to pamper him that weekend ::giant eye rolls from me:: I told him I'd get a variety of frozen veggies so he can change it up a bit.

ETA: is this your only form of BC? The dr said only 1/250 get pg. so that's a 99.6% effectiveness rating. I'm thinking of staying on the patch just for extra protection. A pregnancy would probably literally kill me.

[indianchica]

We didn't have to go back a year later. DH sais it was surprisingly not a big deal, pain or hassle-wise.

[eddy]

H's doctor was very cautious. He did a check at 10 weeks and then 12 weeks. The 10 weeks was clear, but they require one more before they declare him sterile.

[eddy]

I also pampered him that weekend, but after that he had to get on up and function lol.

He was always very good to me when I had babies so I was fine with returning the favor.

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Jul 22, 2014 8:48:35 GMT -5 eddy said:

I also pampered him that weekend, but after that he had to get on up and function lol.

He was always very good to me when I had babies so I was fine with returning the favor.

That's a good perspective.

[cuddlyevil]

stbx went back at 12 weeks and again at 6 months I think. I can't remember exactly, he went back twice.

[my4girls]

DH had one earlier this year, he was checked at 6 and 8 weeks and then declared "all good"

it is our only form- I was planning on staying on my mirena as well but it was making me hang on to my weight and not drop anything so I had it pulled

[schitzengiggles]

DH's doc said his was one of the most difficult he had done. He (doc) didn't feel comfortable with it the first time around, so that same visit he went back on each side and did it again.

12 weeks later, he went in to get checked...NOT CLEAR. So they did it AGAIN.
12 more weeks later, and finally clear. No check at one year.

Maybe don't tell your DH that story.

[jlt19]

I think DH was supposed to go back at 8 and maybe 12 weeks? he didn't really go back, just dropped off a specimen at the local lab. However, he didn't do it until 16 weeks or something, so they didn't ask him to do it again. (He waited so long b/c I had a tubal done, so this was just extra precaution, no real sense of urgency).

[casarosada]

DH didn't get checked again after the 12 week check. I don't use any other birth control. I considered it but then decided to just trust the vasectomy. So far so good for the past 6 years.

[ssmjlm]

DH only got checked once a little past 30 days and was clear. I think he would have to go back if it wasn't clear.

DH was definitely sore over the weekend and we rotated frozen peas for him.

[julygal]

DH's dr also required two clear samples before giving us the all clear. I forget the timing of when DH was checked, but it was less than a year. We used back up until the two clear samples, but we don't now. DH was in a fair amount of pain for the weekend, and I let him take it easy.

[karmasabiotch]

I have no knowledge of this but I always see on tv that frozen peas are the way to go.

[Deleted]

Yeah, he had to go back a few times to get the all clear. But once he did we've never looked back.

I drove him to and from and let him rest for the weekend. A bag of peas is best, seems to form to the area and he said that was the best thing. They did give him pain meds too. I was so happy he did it.

I did laugh because he said he felt so vulnerable having someone between his legs during the procedure. I'm like duuuuuuude, try pregnancy and birthing a baby when everyone in the hospital has seen your vag. He shut his mouth pretty quickly!!

[bella427]

DH's doctor made him go back twice, even though he was all clear the first time. I think he went at a month and 3 months. We don't use any other kind of BC. DH had some discomfort for about a month but we both agree it was one of the best decisions we've ever made.

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Jul 22, 2014 9:01:03 GMT -5 schitzengiggles said:

DH's doc said his was one of the most difficult he had done. He (doc) didn't feel comfortable with it the first time around, so that same visit he went back on each side and did it again.

12 weeks later, he went in to get checked...NOT CLEAR. So they did it AGAIN.
12 more weeks later, and finally clear. No check at one year.

Maybe don't tell your DH that story.

Eek! I won't tell him!

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Jul 22, 2014 9:30:44 GMT -5 Catlawdy said:

One check at 3 months, that was it.

DH drove himself there, dropped trou, talked about football while it was being done, drove himself home, no stitches, just had a bruise for a bit.

I wish he could take himself but the dr wanted me to drive him since they want DH to take a Valium. I'm sure DH will be happy to have me for moral support.

[shell24]

My H was only checked once. So far so good lol

[shell24]

Jul 22, 2014 9:30:44 GMT -5 Catlawdy said:

One check at 3 months, that was it.

DH drove himself there, dropped trou, talked about football while it was being done, drove himself home, no stitches, just had a bruise for a bit.

My H drove himself too

[DotAndBuzz]

Our doc said it isn't just healing time, there have to be a certain number of emissions before they should be clear, to clear out any residual sperm.

My H hasn't been checked yet. 1.5 years later. My IUD comes out in another 1.5 years. There will be no sex at that point if he hasn't gotten the all clear. He thinks we're good to go, and there's no reason to check, and that I'm kidding about the no sex thing. He's wrong.

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Jul 22, 2014 10:03:02 GMT -5 DotAndBuzz said:

Our doc said it isn't just healing time, there have to be a certain number of emissions before they should be clear, to clear out any residual sperm.

Yes, they told H to "empty the chamber as much as possible"

With two young kids at home I was like "yeah, good luck with that buddy!"

[sineadorebellion]

We need to do this already. H had the initial consult already but we just haven't scheduled the actual procedure yet. Chop chop, Rebellions, time to get the ball rolling.

...That may be a poor choice of wording, but eh, I'm leaving it.

[sporky]

Definitely take him. DH had an episode right after his and ended up fainting in the office on the way out. He was in no shape to drive that day.

As far as checks, he just had one around 16 weeks. We also do not use any other forms at this point.

And peas are the best as far as the frozen veggies.

[zoomzoom]

I drove him to and from. I actually wanted an ablation but my OBGYN won't do them unless the spouse/partner is sperm free (either naturally or by V). Anyway, he had his V. He was a baby about it even though it was NBD. After his 3 month clear, I had my ablation. BEST THING EVER. No periods. Nada. Maybe one day of light cramps a month but other than that. Zero. So if your H is getting a V then I recommend getting an ablation. Insurance covered most of it. It was done in my OBGYN's office. I got some excellent drugs. And I haven't had to buy tampons in years. In fact, when we moved last year, I finally threw the giant box of Costco tampons away. Not like you can hand those down to someone, lol.

[mommytutu]

DH was asked to clear it about 10-12 times and get checked. He was clear. They did mention an off chance of it reversing itself and getting checked yearly but he hasn't and I don't think he will.

[rootbeerfloat]

H was told to have samples taken, about a month after the procedure, then another month after that. If both were clear, he was good to go. He was lazy about getting the testing done, but even so, they kept turning up with sperm. He tested 4 times and only one was clear. He ended up having the procedure redone

Until he got the all-clear, we used condoms. I was also still nursing (without AF) for part of this time, too.

Both times, he was in discomfort for a few days, but nothing too bad.

[katfco]

Dh's was a little over a year ago and he did have to get a few more checks. I think it took about 3-4 months before he got the all clear and it's been our only form since then. I still sometimes feel like I'm forgetting something when I go to bed because I'm so used to taking a pill (either BC or prenatal) but it's glorious not having to take anything.

[iamgrace]

My H is waffling on the vasectomy thing and since I am waffling on the third kid thing I am like "dude, get it DONE or there WILL be a third". We want to be freeee (of diapers and breastfeeding, anyway) by 40.

[wowhead]

Jul 22, 2014 8:59:17 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

stbx went back at 12 weeks and again at 6 months I think. I can't remember exactly, he went back twice.

This was H.  We used protection until after the 6 month check.  The purpose of his V was for me to go off hormonal BC.  We haven't used any secondary form since.  It's been 6 years now (I think.)

I majorly babied him the weekend after his surgery.  I baby him a lot anyway but that weekend he got anything he asked for.  By Tuesday he was mostly back to normal.

[firedancer10288]

DH is about 3 weeks out from his. We have to drop a sample off at a lab anytime after 12 weeks/50 ejaculates. I have a log going in the bedroom. Unfortunately for DH he has to fess up every time he masterbates.

He was put under for his procedure, so I had to drive him. He was pretty miserable for the first week or so.