*Right now we are running in the red every month. Two houses are killing us. We will be fine once we sell one, but until then this is just how it is. Flameful: We still haven't cut cable.
Post by estrellita on Jul 23, 2014 22:07:33 GMT -5
Lol! Umm... only things I can really think of at the moment are college stories about all the dumb things I did. Some definite flameful things in there. Trying to think of something more relevant now..
ETA: Lol that I made you think of starting this, not that you are having money issues And I don't blame you for not cutting cable, I'm hanging onto it until I can't justify it anymore! Haha.
Haha. Come on, just own it! No worries estrellita. We worked really hard to get in a good situation before this and we will get back to it. Shit happens, ya know?
Here, I'll add another one. MIL booked a vacation for the four of us (FIL, MIL, DH and me) at the beginning of October. This will be the 4th vacation in 2.5 years they have paid to take us on. MIL decided she likes it better when we go because there is always someone willing to do whatever she wants to do with her.
Oh I'll get it started...you may want to grab your earmuffs.
I want to call my dad's mistress a basic bitch and a whore to her face.
Along the same lines, I am not calling my dad or extending an olive branch. He needs to man up and apologize to his kids. I have no plans to be the bigger person here. He's the parent.
Oh I'll get it started...you may want to grab your earmuffs.
I want to call my dad's mistress a basic bitch and a whore to her face.
Along the same lines, I am not calling my dad or extending an olive branch. He needs to man up and apologize to his kids. I have no plans to be the bigger person here. He's the parent.
I always get myself in trouble in flamefuls lol. I imagine this one will be a little more tame than the ML ones. If I bring up any opinions from work, and therefore related to reproducing, I usually get a good flaming in addition to those that agree. I'll stay away from those tonight lol.
My current flameful is that I've been constantly toying with the idea of drinking some alcohol. I know many people are totally fine with a small glass of wine here and there while pregnant. While a glass of champagne or a peach Bellini has been on my mind, I also really miss my Long Island iced teas. Granted, the way I make them is not like at a bar. I put the same amount of liquor that I would in a mixed drink, plus a full can of diet coke, and a splash of sweet n sour (for a big one). I've thought about making a small drink because I'm not huge into wine but I'm also thinking mixed drinks are a no-no. Damnit!
Post by estrellita on Jul 23, 2014 23:32:05 GMT -5
bk1 My parents paid for our Disney trip in Jan. We literally only paid for some souvenirs and whatever we bought with our own cards/cash. Granted, our plane tickets were cheap (dad works for the airline) and they got an AWESOME discount on the rooms and I think park tickets from a friend of my cousin's. It was a part Christmas/birthday gift (though they still got us other Christmas gifts). But still.. that couldn't have been cheap!
Along those lines, I suppose it's probably flameful that I have had a lot of help from my parents over the years (with bills and stuff, within the last couple years it was only borrowing some money that we paid back and a few minor things). They are the reason I have such good credit and that I'm not in a ton of debt. They still pay for my car insurance because it's actually their car. They had said in the past that they would have me either buy the car from them or give it back and get my own, but neither has happened. I love my car and plan to drive it forever. It's an 05 and doesn't even have 70k miles on it! I'd definitely be willing to buy it from them, but I admit I'm holding out on saying anything until they do. And knowing them, they won't.
Post by estrellita on Jul 23, 2014 23:34:49 GMT -5
MrsAggie I have only heard that wine in small amounts is ok I totally feel you on that one though. I could totally go for an Angry Orchard! I plan on having some sips of wine here and there in the 2nd tri but I'll definitely be discussing it with my doctor first about the specific risks of doing so.
I probably sound like an alcoholic but going another 7 months without a single sip of alcohol makes me sad!
Oh, y'all reminded me. A few weeks ago my mom called me up on Friday, said she wanted a new Lexus, and could she come take mine to trade it in? (Side note: I got an '09 Lexus in '10 when I graduated from A&M- my mom have me her almost new car and bought a '10 Lexus) She wanted to trade in my '09 Lexus and pass me the '10 one she's been driving which is the year they did all of the awesome upgrades. It's a big difference in the two. I now have the 2010 RX350 for free. But...I love it!!
Post by trixiedicksnatch on Jul 24, 2014 0:52:16 GMT -5
The last two nights in a row I have taken naps after dinner. My fi is home for the next week and I feel like a dick pushing all the parenting on him but on the other hand I go it alone for weeks at a time.
Also I have no idea why I'm so tired but I do know I've been on antibiotics because I accidentally tried to stab my ear out so my birthcontrol is basically void. We've been doing pull and pray but legit I will be less than thrilled if Im pregnant again already. Totally my own fault obvs, but man I'm not into 2 under 2
So lets just hope it's the raging ear infection and painkillers making me sleepy.
estrellita I think it helps that when we vacation we stay in a cabin with the in-laws. And they would get the same cabin whether we were there or not. For them the extra cost is really feeding us. We pay for gas to drive and part of the food. Still blows my mind that they have invited us so many times. Without them we have only done one overnight trip since our honeymoon.
They have been extremely generous in helping us with the house. We have never asked for their help, but we did end up over our heads with all of the problems we found. They were fortunate to come into some money not long after that and have been helping us. They helped BIL for YEARS bailing him out of things and had never helped DH because he never needed it. We would be in a world of hurt without them right now. We are so lucky that they are willing/wanted to help and understand that we are embarrassed but oh so grateful for it.
jjwritergirl No flames...only hugs. Also in response to your work situation, I've seen way too many employers screw their employees....I say go for it.
Mine is that I KNOW there is a social stigma with admitting you've read the "50 Shades" trilogy and even more shame admitting you're going to see the movie. I don't care. I don't. I will be in line to see the movie and everyone can suck it. I understand the basic argument was "oh the writing was awful!" I don't care. No one really read it for the literary prose anyway. Everyone shouting at us can sit down and go write THEIR book...(I say all this after watching the trailer released this morning.)
jjwritergirl- No shame here on either fronts. I think anyone of us would have had the same concerns regarding more kids, etc if put in the same situation.
As for work, I'm doing the same thing, except worse. I have no intention on returning (and my boss knows this, has known since January...which is well before I got pregnant). My plan is to go out on STD about 6 wks before my EDD and take my maternity leave. I will then officially quit and SAH.
Maternity leave isn't paid for by my company so I don't feel all that bad...plus, they have zero intention on replacing my position (which is a whole other issue...they are going to screw themselves but whatever) so I really don't feel too bad about it.
MrsAggie, estrellita, melsamoony- I'm with y'all on the alcohol during pregnancy. I am so tempted to have a beer (or at least a sip or half, anything really) but unfortunately DH would totally get pissed and I have yet to take the chance. I hate that he's so against it especially since he hasn't cut back, has no problem drinking in front of me, etc and doesn't see the issue with me not having a single drink in 9 months. It seems so hypocritical IMO, or at the very least lacking empathy.
Sometimes I resent DH for being the reason we may not be able to have another baby. I've always wanted to have two kids, and I absolutely loved being pregnant. And while I love my DD and am beyond grateful to have her, the thought of not having another one makes me so sad.
To make me seem like less of a monster- I would never ever in a million years express these feelings to DH. And when we found out what our IF issues were, I was 100% supportive and there for him, because I know he would have done the same for me. And I love my DH so much, and would never ever do anything to make him feel bad about this. And when we were seeing the RE, it was always to address "our" issues, not "his" because we are a team.
I very much feel the same way--dh and I were so excited to have kids until he found out he has a genetic condition that gives any kids we have a 50% chance of getting cancer at a young age. He lost his mom, uncle, and one of his aunts to cancer, and he's had it himself. I understand his fear and his hesitation, but I don't know if I'm completely on board with this decision. I would rather roll the dice, because there's a 50% chance they could not.
And I'm panicking because I turn 35 on my next birthday. I wish we had gotten pregnant when we first started trying to have a baby in 2011. I feel like we missed the window between TTC and having the fear set in.
I have had a sip of DH's beer probably three times already. I can't feel guilty about one sip.
MrsMB My DH does not want me to read 50 Shades. For some reason it really bothers him. I plan on reading it on my kindle eventually that way he can't see me reading it.
bk1 DH was laughing when I read it. He thought it was cute....not sure why! I think the scandal about how badly it was written bothers more people than the sexual nature of the writing itself.
Post by estrellita on Jul 24, 2014 10:47:34 GMT -5
MrsMB I read the first book and I agree that the bad writing was probably the worst part about it. I seriously had trouble getting through the book because I had to keep stopping and thinking "why would they write it like that?!" It bothered me a lot! Story line was ok. I think the bad writing mixed with the fact it's basically porn is what makes it so "scandalous" when people talk about reading it. Meh. I'm still mixed on if I want to see the movie. I'm mostly interested in how the hell they can make it into a movie they could show in theaters! (huh)
MrsMB I read the first book and I agree that the bad writing was probably the worst part about it. I seriously had trouble getting through the book because I had to keep stopping and thinking "why would they write it like that?!" It bothered me a lot! Story line was ok. I think the bad writing mixed with the fact it's basically porn is what makes it so "scandalous" when people talk about reading it. Meh. I'm still mixed on if I want to see the movie. I'm mostly interested in how the hell they can make it into a movie they could show in theaters! (huh)
I want to know this too!
I read the Twilight series because 1. Everyone was talking about it and 2. I heard the writing was so bad. Those are the same reasons I want to read 50 shades.
Post by estrellita on Jul 24, 2014 10:53:38 GMT -5
bk1 I can't bring myself to read Twilight. I got through about half of the first movie and hated it. Everyone insists that the books are so much better (no Kristin Stewart!) but I just can't get behind the story!
I'm more into the nerdy books -> movies like The Hobbit
bk1 I can't bring myself to read Twilight. I got through about half of the first movie and hated it. Everyone insists that the books are so much better (no Kristin Stewart!) but I just can't get behind the story!
I'm more into the nerdy books -> movies like The Hobbit
I understand. I was in college so eh. I had time. I borrowed them from my SIL because she LOVES them.. hehe.
My biggest problem with 50SOG is that I don't really want to know about anyone else's porn preferences and these books seem to have opened up a dialog that I want no part of. No, SIL, I do not want to know that you're obsessed with these books, I do not want to know which parts are your favorites, and I absolutely DO NOT want to go and see the movie with you. I don't consider myself a prude and I'm all for whatever floats your boat, but this inappropriate sharing stuff needs to get shut down.
Plus, the whole abusive relationship, he treats her like crap, bad emotional message, terrible writing, etc.