Halp! Sharing on Facebook

[alicia45]

So, I'm a pretty private person IRL (I know that seems like a contradiction because I post things here, but humor me for a minute) and I posted A's chalkboard to my newsfeed and dh's uncle, who has many many many friends, "shared" my photo. Who can see it and potentially share it?

This is what Facebook says, but I'm apparently dumb at the moment and it makes no sense.

"When someone clicks Share under your post, they aren’t able to share your photos, videos or status updates through Facebook with people who weren’t in the audience you originally selected to share with. Only the people who could see those posts when you first made them are able to see them when someone clicks Share. Use the audience selector to adjust who you share posts with."

What does this mean???

Also, if I change the privacy of that photo on my feed, will it change it to his feed?


Ugh. I hate when people "steal" things on the internet without asking! I've unfriended people for this very reason.

[Deleted]

Well I was under the impression that anything shared could be seen by that person's friends. But what you posted makes it sound like that is not the case, so maybe things changed?
Sorry that wasn't very helpful

[alicia45]

Jul 23, 2014 23:44:21 GMT -5 ladybug said:

Well I was under the impression that anything shared could be seen by that person's friends. But what you posted makes it sound like that is not the case, so maybe things changed?
Sorry that wasn't very helpful

That's why I'm confused. If he "shared" my photo and only my friends can see it then what's the point of sharing. He is much older and I'm sure he knows nothing about this.

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My mom shares things I post ::insert grumpy face:: and her friends that I'm not friends with like and comment on it. So unless it just changed, I think all their friends can see it.


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[alicia45]

Jul 23, 2014 23:52:07 GMT -5 @huahualove said:

My mom shares things I post ::insert grumpy face:: and her friends that I'm not friends with like and comment on it. So unless it just changed, I think all their friends can see it.


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I'm waiting for one of his friends or even relatives that I'm not "friends" with to like or comment and then I'll know for sure I guess. At least he didn't share a picture. I don't like that he shared it but now he's on the acquaintances list and will never see my posts and pictures again. Too bad because I really like him.

[alicia45]

So, I just researched more and Facebook says that if you delete it and it's a direct link, that it will delete from that person's timeline too. I just deleted my picture, reposted it and excluded him. Now I feel better. Fingers crossed that I'm understanding this right. Why can't they just spell it out clearly?

[browndog]

Jul 24, 2014 0:04:36 GMT -5 alicia45 said:

Jul 23, 2014 23:52:07 GMT -5 @huahualove said:

My mom shares things I post ::insert grumpy face:: and her friends that I'm not friends with like and comment on it. So unless it just changed, I think all their friends can see it.


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I'm waiting for one of his friends or even relatives that I'm not "friends" with to like or comment and then I'll know for sure I guess. At least he didn't share a picture. I don't like that he shared it but now he's on the acquaintances list and will never see my posts and pictures again. Too bad because I really like him.

Could you just ask him not to share again? My mom did this and I just asked her not to, no big deal.

[Deleted]

I honestly just think older people don't get fb. I talked to my mom a couple of time about how she shares my pictures and videos on fb made me feel uncomfortable. She just brushes it off and says that she knows all her friends etc. I know she's a proud grandma, but it even more frustrating to me because she is never around so she doesn't take her own pics so she shares mine, like they are hers.


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[alicia45]

Jul 24, 2014 0:19:04 GMT -5 @huahualove said:

I honestly just think older people don't get fb. I talked to my mom a couple of time about how she shares my pictures and videos on fb made me feel uncomfortable. She just brushes it off and says that she knows all her friends etc. I know she's a proud grandma, but it even more frustrating to me because she is never around so she doesn't take her own pics so she shares mine, like they are hers.


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I also don't think they understand the idea that the world online isn't safe. Just because you know your friends, I don't know them. I feel like until I've met all of the people on your friends list and I know for a fact that they aren't some weirdo, don't share my photos. I rarely post to Facebook anymore due to this exact reason. We have a family blog that I've written the code to be so that no one can save photos, right click and save photos, nothing because my MIL would and then post them all over the place.

Dh's uncle's son is a big to do Congressman around here and who knows of all the people on his list. I literally have 80 people on my list and only about 15 are actually on my list to receive things. The rest, are just on my acquaintance list because I knew them in high school and college. 

[ruby412]

Out of curiosity, what is the private part about her board? Do you not want people knowing her name? It's not like it included her address or social security number. Is it a secret that she loves bubbles? Really not trying to be snarky! I just don't get, so please explain.

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I'm going to continue to share this tip. You can place all your friends into groups. Chronic 'sharers' or others that I don't want seeing my info (especially now that I post a lot of Beach body stuff), I place into the 'acquaintance' group. Then, I set my privacy to post to all except acquaintances. Those people won't see the post, and therefore can't share. This does not keep those who can see the post from sharing it, though.
Every once in a while I will post a pic or something to all friends so people like MIL (who is in acquaintance group) can see.
With facebook, you are taking a risk. You are putting your info on the internet, and trust me, if someone wanted your image they will get it. If you don't want it shared, you shouldn't put it up. Not trying to be mean, but that's just the world we live in. If you feel strongly that you don't want images shared, you need to bluntly tell those that are sharing, remove them from seeing them, or not put the image up. FB is not a safe place.

[bubbyboo]

My MIL does this all the tie, but what she doesn't know is y settings only allow people who are mutual friends to see it. Anyone on her friends list who isn't my friend also won't see it.

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[eav2c]

I am nearly positive that if you have things marked as friends only that even if on they share your post that only mutual friends can see. I say this because my brother just shared an announcement from my SIL's Facebook I couldn't see it (not friends with her) but could see it on my dad's who is friends with her.

[eav2c]

Jul 23, 2014 23:52:07 GMT -5 @huahualove said:

My mom shares things I post ::insert grumpy face:: and her friends that I'm not friends with like and comment on it. So unless it just changed, I think all their friends can see it.


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I don't think so. I would go check your settings. There are several settings such as friends only and friends of friends. If you have it as friends only then only mutual friends can see her shares from you.

[breezy8407]

I would be annoyed, but I too think older people (our parents age and up) don't get FB and the risks involved.

My mom is super paranoid about security which is nice, so she always asks me if she can share a photo of the kids or not. She has like 25 friends and I know almost all of them, so I am okay with it.

I started putting people into groups a few years ago, but I should do that again. Thanks for the reminder @dragonmommy422

[alicia45]

Jul 24, 2014 5:43:24 GMT -5 ruby412 said:

Out of curiosity, what is the private part about her board? Do you not want people knowing her name? It's not like it included her address or social security number. Is it a secret that she loves bubbles? Really not trying to be snarky! I just don't get, so please explain.

I don't like that with matching up my Facebook page, some weirdo now knows her full name. I've used her full name once, when she was born.

Also, it's not so much the specific image that he "shared", it's the fact that he's shown that he would share my stuff. Does that make sense?

[alicia45]

Jul 24, 2014 6:13:32 GMT -5 @dragonmommy422 said:

I'm going to continue to share this tip. You can place all your friends into groups. Chronic 'sharers' or others that I don't want seeing my info (especially now that I post a lot of Beach body stuff), I place into the 'acquaintance' group. Then, I set my privacy to post to all except acquaintances. Those people won't see the post, and therefore can't share. This does not keep those who can see the post from sharing it, though.
Every once in a while I will post a pic or something to all friends so people like MIL (who is in acquaintance group) can see.
With facebook, you are taking a risk. You are putting your info on the internet, and trust me, if someone wanted your image they will get it. If you don't want it shared, you shouldn't put it up. Not trying to be mean, but that's just the world we live in. If you feel strongly that you don't want images shared, you need to bluntly tell those that are sharing, remove them from seeing them, or not put the image up. FB is not a safe place.

He was in close friends because he's family. Not anymore. Acquaintances now.

[alicia45]

Jul 24, 2014 7:37:16 GMT -5 eav2c said:

I am nearly positive that if you have things marked as friends only that even if on they share your post that only mutual friends can see. I say this because my brother just shared an announcement from my SIL's Facebook I couldn't see it (not friends with her) but could see it on my dad's who is friends with her.

I currently have it set to friends except acquaintances. So, do you think only our mutual friends can see it?

[christidee]

Jul 24, 2014 0:19:04 GMT -5 @huahualove said:

I honestly just think older people don't get fb. I talked to my mom a couple of time about how she shares my pictures and videos on fb made me feel uncomfortable. She just brushes it off and says that she knows all her friends etc. I know she's a proud grandma, but it even more frustrating to me because she is never around so she doesn't take her own pics so she shares mine, like they are hers.


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Are we Irish twins separated at birth? 

I feel feel your pain. I started watermarking my FB photos. Now all my FB friends probably think I'm the biggest douche bag wanna be photographer. That stopped the sharing. 

[christidee]

I thought only your audience could see the pictures. I guess am wrong.