My Girls have a sister

[sunnysideup488]

I just got off the phone with our social worker. The girls have a new sister, and they want us to take her. I didn't even know their mother was pregnant.

Mom had no prenatal care, and she showed up to the hospital drunk and in labor.

The baby is named Charlotte. She is 5 pounds and 6 ounces. She is in the NICU right now. They won't give me more information right now. I need to go to the hospital.

Seriously. My brain is trying to wrap around this.

[katlizabeth]

Woah. I'm a lurker, and I don't know your story, but woah from want you said. Best wishes to you. I wouldn't be able to wrap my mind around this either.

[WOT?*]

I am so sorry. What a tough situation to be in.

[spanikopita]

Oh my goodness

[justjen]

Wow. That's a lot to process.

Something similar happened with my cousins 40 years ago. My aunt got a call out of the blue that the mom of their adopted son had another baby and wanted to keep them together. She did wind up taking him.

Hugs

[monsterz]

Oh my. That is such a difficult decision to make.

[dexteroni]

Oh my gosh, what a shock. Poor baby. I hope she's ok, whether or not you end up taking her.

[Pom]

I don't even know what to say about that other than to wish you strength. Talk about blindsided. Keeping you in my thoughts.

[CloudBee]

Oh my goodness. This is heavy. I agree that whatever decision you make, will be right for your family. There's no right/wrong road to take, here. Follow your heart.

We're here to hold your hand.

[lb2006]

same as above - do what is best for your family.

[mbcdefg]

Oh my.

Best wishes to all of you.

[womet]

Hugs to you. Thinking of you, your girls, and their sister.

[bostonmichelle]

Sending hugs and prayers to you. Whatever decision you make will be right for your family. This is a tough situation.

[ddi741]

OMG, that is a lot to take in so quickly. So many things to consider. Hopefully they give you some time to make the best decision for your family.
Good luck to you and your family.

[raangoli]

I am speechless and blind sided for you. I will echo the PPs and say that whatever decision you make is the right one.

[Deleted]

Oh my. That is a lot to process.

Ditto CloudBee's wise words. We are here as a sounding board/place tolisten/whatever you need.

[Deleted]

Wow. Good luck with your decision, and whatever decision you make is the right one.

[Deleted]

Hugs. Good luck to your family.

[galaxy8227]

That's a lot to take in. Good luck on whatever decision you make. I hope the baby is doing ok!

[sunnysideup488]

Thank you everyone. I'm headed to the hospital for 10:30 to talk to the doctors and our social worker.

Mom was discharged today. Baby is remaining in the hospital until we make our decision. But they hope she can be released tomorrow or Sunday.

They are going to give us 12 hours to decide. They need to line someone up if we say no.

I have nothing for a baby in our house.

[nessness]

Wow, that's a big decision to make in a short period of time!

If you decide to take her, are you committing to adopting her, or just to fostering her temporarily?

[jene]

Thinking of you

[konapoppy]

Hugs. Thinking of you.

[Miss Phryne Fisher]

Wow. Good luck with whatever decision you make. What a toughie.

[UnderProtest]

Wow. That's a lot to take in such a short time. Good luck and hugs making the decision.

[Deleted]

What a short timeframe to make your decision. All the best.

[whitepicketfence]

Oh wow. What a tough decision. I'll be keeping you and your family in my thoughts. We're here as a sounding board if you need us.

[crashgizmo]

WOW. I've been following your story and was so happy to hear how things were going with the girls. Best of luck to you in whatever you decide. Thinking of you.

[mrsfarmer]

Jul 25, 2014 8:50:44 GMT -5 sunnysideup488 said:

Thank you everyone. I'm headed to the hospital for 10:30 to talk to the doctors and our social worker.

Mom was discharged today. Baby is remaining in the hospital until we make our decision. But they hope she can be released tomorrow or Sunday.

They are going to give us 12 hours to decide. They need to line someone up if we say no.

I have nothing for a baby in our house.

Welcome to the surprise baby club.  This happened to us a little over a year ago; interviewing for DD1, and then they found out DD2 was born.  We had about 1/2 hour to decide to take her into protective custody at 6 weeks old.  Check with the social worker, sometimes WIC can help with cribs, etc.  It will all work out, no matter what you decide.  I wish you were closer to me, I have stuff.

[Deleted]

Wow. Hugs you as you process this and think through your decision. There truly is absolutely NO right answer here, and baby Charlotte will be much better off with whichever family she is placed with, be it yours or another parent / set ofparents eager for a baby to love.

You are an awesome woman.