S/O dating question

[Eureka1984]

How much Older or Younger do you date? I know this has already been discussed but I can't find the original post.

[cuddlyevil]

stbx is 5 years older than me. I probably wouldn't go more than 5 years younger, but I'd be willing to consider up to 10 years older.

Really it'd just depend on the guy.

[lyssbobiss, Command, B613]

BF is 4 years younger than me and that's probably my limit. Older - maybe 5 years? I'm more flexible with dating older than younger, I think, only because I have a kid and I don't think most guys in their mid-20s are looking for that.

[LoveBug]

I'm 35. So I would likely target 35-43. But really, it would depend on the person/lifestyle/personality/etc.

[gozf]

In general, age hasn't mattered to me as far as accepting dates, provided I find that person attractive -- age hasn't been a deal breaker or a factor in whether or not I accept.

Those dates that have turned into relationships? Three of them were with men three years older than me. One was with someone about three weeks older. And my current BF is 4 years my junior.

I'm not sure what, if anything, that means. I think it means that when I was in my late teens and early 20s, I gravitated to slightly older, because they could drive, and pay for things with money they made at jobs, and that they weren't acting like kids. All of that made dating a lot easier and more fun. But now that I'm a little long in the tooth and it's pretty much a given that people act like adults, have their own transportation and can pay for the occasional meal, age doesn't matter at all.

[riverpestie]

Mr. K is a little over ten years older than me.
FI is 9 years older.
Those are not my limits, though. I would consider going older.

A lot of it would depend on maturity level, but as a rule, I would say 3 years younger.

[llh0211]

Like others, it depends a lot on the guy. The guy I'm casually seeing now, is 4 years younger. He's the youngest I've ever dated. I've dated up to 12 years older.

[1confused1]

For me it's more about the guy and what they want in life. I absolutely do not want more kids so I won't date anyone who does.

Guy I dated last summer was my age (37), ex-boyfriend was 9 years older, ex-husband was 3 years older.

[Wanderista]

I think it's ok to ask again, something to liven up the board.

Yeah, age doesn't matter much to me.  My lower limit is like 22. I had a hook up earlier this year with a guy who was probably about that age. I didn't ask but he was recently out of college. They need to be out of undergrad for me.

The oldest was 9 yrs older than me and British. Age gaps are not terribly uncommon over there. He was hot, whatever. I probably wouldn't go older than him though. The current guy is a year younger. Totally fine. Numeric age isn't that big a deal to me.

[Deleted]

I would prefer someone my age or older, but would probably date someone 2-3 years younger or MAYBE even younger than that if we met organically and I found us to be on the same wavelength. I had a big crush on a guy 4 years younger than me last year that I met on vacation, and in that circumstance the age difference made zero difference (he also stocked shelves at Costco for a living, so in real life that may have been a bigger age difference).

I probably wouldn't date someone over 10 years older than me.

My BF is 27 days older than me and my XH was 9 days older than me, so I guess I actually prefer men who are almost exactly the same age as me

[MauMau]

1-2 years younger since I'm pretty young already. 5 years over.

But that's just what I'm thinking in the moment. I'm not dating.

[sweetchix]

Well, I'll be 38 next month. I have a hard time believing that, so thinking of dating someone in their 40's seems weird to me, even though I know it's really not.

For actual dating, and not just a fuck buddy, I'd realistically date from early 30's to mid 40's.

[DirtySouth]

5 years younger and 15 years older.

[pinkdutchtulips]

I'm looking down the barrel of 40! and current dirty flirting w/ a 33 year old  

I'm not looking for anything long term OR getting married again anytime soon .... I think the youngest I'd go is 32 ... as for the other end of the spectrum, xh was 4 years old .. I'd think that 5 would be my upper limit. I've got a 5 year old ... most men above 45 probably don't want to deal w/ young kids like that !

[Deleted]

I think within 5 years is a good range.

[jojoandleo]

I can't date younger than 25. Something about early twenties just makes me feel old. If I was 35- I'd date 10 years older or younger. At thirty, I'd dated 25-40. My husband is 4 years older than me (almost exactly). My HS BF was like 4 months younger. XFI was a few months younger as well.

[kanga1]

I'm 32 and I would do 4, maybe 5 years younger but probably about 18 years older. I say 18 because there are a group of guys I am super close with and they are all 50.

[glitzyglow]

I normally don't date much older than 5 years. When it comes to younger, I'd say 2-3 years younger than me is okay.

[jellymankelly]

My BF is 8 years older. That's a good range for me.

[alleinesein]

Im 38 and I would prefer someone that is close to my age. The oldest I will consider is 43. Unfortunately there are very few guys in my age group that want to date someone my age; most of them only want women under the age of 30. The guys who do want to date me are usually older than my dad!

[verycontrary247]

8 years older. Not younger than me.

I'm still pretty young- any younger than me and the pool becomes way more obnoxious and immature.

[pinkhighheels]

I'm not dating yet but I would probably date 2-3 years younger and around 10-15 years older. Stbx is 1.5 years older than me.

[onedayatatime]

Not a lot of experience with this...but I think 2-3 yrs younger, 5-7 years older is my range. stbx was same age.


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[WinterIsComing]

Jul 26, 2014 7:09:08 GMT -5 onedayatatime said:

Not a lot of experience with this...but I think 2-3 yrs younger, 5-7 years older is my range. stbx was same age.


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I've been thinking a lot about this too and I think these might be my ranges too. I think for me, the important things will be that they are at the same stage in life. I definitely want to start a family at some point - and not way off on the future - so I will want some who wants kids reasonably soon. I think these ages are the best for that.

[onedayatatime]

Jul 26, 2014 9:36:58 GMT -5 WinterIsComing said:

Jul 26, 2014 7:09:08 GMT -5 onedayatatime said:

Not a lot of experience with this...but I think 2-3 yrs younger, 5-7 years older is my range. stbx was same age.


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I've been thinking a lot about this too and I think these might be my ranges too. I think for me, the important things will be that they are at the same stage in life. I definitely want to start a family at some point - and not way off on the future - so I will want some who wants kids reasonably soon. I think these ages are the best for that.

You summed it up better than I did... I need someone who is in a similar stage of life and kids reasonably soon is a part of that.


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[WinterIsComing]

I always feel like you get what I'm saying onedayatatime since we are in such similar stages. Pretty sure if you were in Utah you would be my divorce best friend

[kitkat1502]

I wouldn't date younger, mayyyyybe one year younger tops. I'd go 10 years older. P is 9 years older than me.

[moonlight]

I'm 34 and I won't date younger. I usually stick within a few years of my age but I'd definitely consider older over younger. My max is probably about +10 years.

[stephreloaded]

I have dated younger. I think I shortly dated a 23 y/o when I was 30 and that didn't go that well. I think I prefer the guy to be older than me but I really don't see a difference if the guys is 1-3 years younger (I'm turning 32 next month).

[achase123]

I'd prob go about five years younger if they seemed ready to settle down. Maybe 10-12 years older. Although there's a realtor who's 48 (I'm 32) and I find him HOT. I saw him at lunch today and got all weak in the knees.