Post by trixiedicksnatch on Jul 25, 2014 14:59:32 GMT -5
This is dumb and flameful
Tl;dr my mom favours my sisters kids, my dad can't be bothered to meet my dd and I'm sad and stressed out.
After my mom brought ss home from the parade I texted her to thank her and let her know how much he loved going (we don't call we text). And she texted me back that she decided she wanted time off from watching the grand kids for at least two weeks. Hey that's fine and dandy.
Buuuut the thing is my mom takes my kids once every other week and very occasionally if I need to run an errand that isn't kid friendly like certain drs apts. I hardly ever ask her to watch the kids ever because she always acts all put out and annoyed.
The every other week thing was her idea ftr. I just went with it.
But I fucking pissed because she watches my sisters kids everyday. Literally. And now it's even more since my sister moved in with my mom. So basically she doesn't want to watch MY kids. Because she will still be watching my sisters kids.
I'm pissed and my feelings are hurt that somehow it's watching my kids every other week that is causing her to not be able to get this house stuff done that she always talks about but never can explain what it is. It's not the fact that she has my sisters kids everyday.
It makes me so sad for my kids especially my dd (sks have maternal grandparents they see during the summer a lot) that their grandparents suck so hard.
I invited my dad and his gf over to MEET my daughter three weeks ago (they were too busy before that) they were going to come over I had the house cleaned up for company and dd in an adorable outfit and snacks set and ready. They texted me four hours after they were supposed to be here to let me know they forgot. Gee that's awesome you forgot you were going to meet your only bio grandchild for the first time???
I'm so mad at my parents for just not giving a fuck about my kids, and my mom blatantly favouring my sisters kids.
I'm hurt and sad and seriously I go weeks on end without my fi being home, so even a little bit of help here and there is greatly needed and appreciated. I'm sah and that's what we wanted but fuck being home alone with a baby 24/7 is hard. It's not like fi comes home at night and I can just relax for a bit.
We looked into drop in day care and the places here are sketch as fuck.
meganew that would freak me out big time! Any chance you're measuring ahead (fundal height)? I was, and they did a growth ultrasound at like 36 weeks to check on size.
Were you and your H big babies?
She's measuring perfectly, but Ollie didn't measure too big before he was born either. And they didn't give me an u/a for him. I think I'm going to gently demand one. Lol.
Silent disco has become a common name[1] for a disco where people dance to music listened to on wireless headphones. Rather than using a speaker system, music is broadcast via a radio transmitter with the signal being picked up by wireless headphone receivers worn by the participants. Those without the headphones hear no music, giving the effect of a room full of people dancing to nothing
@deadthing - you are more than welcome to join us for the low, low price of $30. Oh, and you'll have to give her your DL to hold onto until you return the headphones.
Oh. Tell that bitch good riddance, and that you'll celebrate her going away on your own.
I just randomly remembered my H telling me he saw my hemorrhoids during E's delivery, and I was thinking.. it's a good thing men are such persistent horndogs, b/c if I saw the insides of my H's butthole, I'm not sure I could recover from that.
Haha, YES.
H was like, "Um, I am never complaining about my hemorrhoids ever again," after I delivered K.
I wish that there was some sort of giving birth bad memory erasing thing for spouses too. Like, they can remember the good parts but not the painful or horrific parts.
meganew that would freak me out big time! Any chance you're measuring ahead (fundal height)? I was, and they did a growth ultrasound at like 36 weeks to check on size.
Were you and your H big babies?
She's measuring perfectly, but Ollie didn't measure too big before he was born either. And they didn't give me an u/a for him. I think I'm going to gently demand one. Lol.
I'd go in with a crazed look, explain the story, and hope they won't take a chance fucking with a very pregnant lady.
I measured ahead the whole time, they did the growth ultrasound, and he was born a whopping 6.6. Apologies for my giant belly!
Silent disco has become a common name[1] for a disco where people dance to music listened to on wireless headphones. Rather than using a speaker system, music is broadcast via a radio transmitter with the signal being picked up by wireless headphone receivers worn by the participants. Those without the headphones hear no music, giving the effect of a room full of people dancing to nothing
@deadthing - you are more than welcome to join us for the low, low price of $30. Oh, and you'll have to give her your DL to hold onto until you return the headphones.
Oh. Tell that bitch good riddance, and that you'll celebrate her going away on your own.
This is basically what my BFF is doing. Smart bastard.
daisyfay25 - I really, really want to but I am seriously exhausted and overstressed this week and my energy level for confrontation is like, 0. This has never been an excuse before. LOL
silva - that show's been sold out since the day tickets went on sale. I hope you can find tickets somehow if you do come!
I've saw tickets through the target centers website. And then there is stubhub.
I really want to do this because the Beatles were my first band I loved and my brother saw him last year which made me super jealous. We have family near there so I bet we could stay there.
silva - that show's been sold out since the day tickets went on sale. I hope you can find tickets somehow if you do come!
I've saw tickets through the target centers website. And then there is stubhub.
I really want to do this because the Beatles were my first band I loved and my brother saw him last year which made me super jealous. We have family near there so I bet we could stay there.
Seriously? What the heck am I doing wrong, I wonder? I've been checking almost daily for the last two weeks and it's always sold out.
I've saw tickets through the target centers website. And then there is stubhub.
I really want to do this because the Beatles were my first band I loved and my brother saw him last year which made me super jealous. We have family near there so I bet we could stay there.
Seriously? What the heck am I doing wrong, I wonder? I've been checking almost daily for the last two weeks and it's always sold out.
I could be wrong. I was checking on my phone while waiting for my car to get serviced.
I feel like its flameful because I'm so pissed about it. I did tell my mom it was pretty fucked up to be willing to watch my nephews anytime and not my kids, and when my dad let me know they forgot and wanted to reschedule I told him I was busy and haven't texted or called him since.
Post by underwaterrhymes on Jul 25, 2014 15:11:53 GMT -5
The hemorrhoid talk also reminds me of a conversation my sister had with her husband a few days before she delivered their first child.
They stripped her membranes and her H, bless his heart, witnessed it and told her in a frantic whisper, "That can't be right. I think that lady just FISTED you!"
i'm sorry trixiedicksnatch - that is all very upsetting, i totally get it. (i'm in a situation where my ILs favour their other grandchildren over my son, all b/c they hate me and my FIL is jealous of my dad [super long annoying story, but just know that it's STUPID and my son is the loser in all of this]). anyway, my H would kill me for telling you guys this, but he cries over it. legit, 40 year old man cry. it's heartbreaking.
anyway. you got to do something about child care. you need some of your own time. can you look for a FB group of moms in your area? i joined one to laugh at the weirdos, but have found a ton of child care options on there (none of which i need right now, but damn, what a great resource for later). try this. even if it's finding a non-sketch mom who is also SAH wants to make $30 by taking your kid for a half-day or something.
I had a break down talking to my sister friend last night (she knows my dad and mom) she offered help when she can. She has a son my ss's age and loves babies. So I do have that new option. I want to look into more but people in my real life make me feel like shit for feeling like I need a break. It's really fucked up because it comes from both working moms and sahm. The closest people that would understand are the military sahm, but they give me the well at least your fi isn't deployed.
I really will look into more options though.
Eta I'm sorry that you guys have that too. And I've seen fuck cry over it too and fuck man. Full grown men crying over stuff like that ... Right in the fucking feels.
Oh for fuck sakes. A friend posted that they were selling their 50 inch tv for $50, so I told them I might be interested if it still works. Two seconds later I get a message that's like "haha you fell for it, now you have to follow the chain and post one of these options as your status. Don't be a spoil sport"
I am fucking aggravated with my husband right now. Like livid.
We are refinancing and he has summer Friday hours and gets out at 1 pm. Before I made the appointment with the appraiser, I told him I was thinking of making it for today at 4. No problem, he says. I made the appointment.
I even called him at 2 today to remind him of the appointment because he was all "oh I'm going down to the boat from work." NEVERMIND that he is going to be on the motherfucking boat all damned day tomorrow, but whatever. I called to remind of the 4 pm appointment, he says "yes, I know" in a tone that implied I was being all naggy.
My nanny just called me at WORK to ask if he knew he had an appointment at the house at 4 because guess what? HE'S NOT FUCKING HOME. She even called and texted him, with no response. I am now calling him like a psycho every 3 seconds until he picks up his phone. I AM SO MAD I COULD SPIT. I feel like in this very moment I could torch that stupid boat.
trixiedicksnatch none of that is dumb or flameful. I would be hurt. And your dad spacing on the first meeting? I would fucking RAAAGGGGE.
My dad and I hadn't spoken in years when I found out I was pregnant. We have pretty much no relationship at this point because he's a shitbag. But I tried to reconnect with him during my pregnancy because I felt like (my feelings aside) it was important for my child/ren to know their grandfather. Obviously I was mistaken.
I don't, if it's me you're speaking to. I think you're overreacting. I'm nowhere near the only person who said they didn't like the fundie-blog thing. holy crap.
Oh for fuck sakes. A friend posted that they were selling their 50 inch tv for $50, so I told them I might be interested if it still works. Two seconds later I get a message that's like "haha you fell for it, now you have to follow the chain and post one of these options as your status. Don't be a spoil sport"
While I understand discomfort in "hate reading" about someone's religion, it bothers me less when it's the people who use their religion as a scapegoat for discrimination and inhibiting the rights of others.
And OMG @fucksticklegit, that picture will never make me not LOL.
Oh for fuck sakes. A friend posted that they were selling their 50 inch tv for $50, so I told them I might be interested if it still works. Two seconds later I get a message that's like "haha you fell for it, now you have to follow the chain and post one of these options as your status. Don't be a spoil sport"
This isn't really flameful, but I wanted to put it somewhere. I Fully plan on making my own butter when I get my new blender. I just bought some butter molds meant for cannabis butter. I use a shit-ton of butter when making cookies. Seems like a good way to cut costs.
There's an intersection in town that always has someone holding a "woe is me/give me $" sign. It's always a different person and it's always the same intersection. It rubs me completely the wrong way. They could legitimately need help, but it reeks of scammy to me. Flameful, I'm sure.
This really pisses me off.
I'm grumpy today already, but the ignorance here is astounding.
Eh, I said it was Flameful... I'm not ignorant to why someone might need the help and ask for it in that manner. I've been homeless myself, so yeah. But, some things are scams. And yeah, I should stop and ask and not assume, but there's usually a screaming kid in the backseat when I see them.
This isn't really flameful, but I wanted to put it somewhere. I Fully plan on making my own butter when I get my new blender. I just bought some butter molds meant for cannabis butter. I use a shit-ton of butter when making cookies. Seems like a good way to cut costs.
I'm sure you know this but be super diligent when it's time to wash and press the liquid out because even a little left in can cause the butter to spoil quickly!
I love making my own butter and mixing fun stuff in (then usually freezing it if it's like, fruit). I didn't know butter molds are a thing!
I'm grumpy today already, but the ignorance here is astounding.
Eh, I said it was Flameful... I'm not ignorant to why someone might need the help and ask for it in that manner. I've been homeless myself, so yeah. But, some things are scams. And yeah, I should stop and ask and not assume, but there's usually a screaming kid in the backseat when I see them.
Calling it flameful doesn't exempt you from getting the side-eye.