1. I have no desire to take BFing pix. Must be my cold hard heart.
Same here. I did take one when DS was a few months old b/c DH was on his first business trip away from him. I sent him a little "day in the life" email with pics of DS doing his thing.
I not only have no pictures of DD breastfeeding, I have no pictures of me pregnant with her. I was photographed exactly once in 2011, when I was introducing DS to DD shortly after she was born.
Post by MadamePresident on Jul 25, 2014 21:30:54 GMT -5
I ended up with a boy and a girl. My FIL said something about how we have a "complete family". I didn't know what to say about that, if this baby was a girl would our family have been incomplete? I've always wanted 3 kids and my husband 2. I kind of wondered if we had 2 girls if he maybe would have been more open to a 3rd.
My confession is I think it's a good thing I have had a slow recovery. It's been good for my husband to see just how much effort and planning is needed to take care of cooking, house stuff and our toddler. But the other part of me hates feeling like I'm being lazy just sitting around feeding the new baby.
I gave my BFF some of my maternity clothes, but only the ones that require a bump to look decent. I still get to hang out in my comfy maternity clothes while enjoying her appreciation and good karma points. Best of both worlds.
I also have no desire to take pictures of myself BFing. It's not something I feel particularly connected to. Plus my boobs are already huge, imagine what they'll look like after the camera adds ten pounds.
So this isn't really a confession, and is probably a real downer, but I've been wanting to say it for a while. Whenever I get frustrated or angry with my children, I think of Pixy and it puts everything into perspective. In a way, knowing her has made me a better parent. I hesitate to post, because I don't know if that would hurt her to know, and the very last thing I want to do is hurt her. I doubt she's on MMM, and I'll delete if anyone thinks I should.
If there was a guarantee I would love to have four daughters. The embarrassing reason being is that I love the book Little Women and think it would be fun to have four girls.
My confession: I told DH that I'm only interested in having a 4th child if I can guarantee it would be a girl. I have nothing against boys and would have been thrilled with one previously. At this point though, I would greatly prefer another girl.
In light of all these "I always wanted a girl" confessions, I guess mine is that I always wanted two boys and it makes me feel like a sexist asshole.
Bonus confession inspired by @this : My doctor brought up the option of inducing me at 39 weeks due to DS1's size and I'm very open to the idea. Anyone who has a negative opinion on the matter can vaginally birth an 11lb baby before spouting off about my birth plans, thanks.
I chose to be induced at 39 weeks with DD3. My OB was estimating that she was close to 8 lbs already at my 36 week ultrasound and since I'm fairly petite, they had some concerns since I wanted a VBAC again. She ended up only being 7 lbs 13 oz at birth so they were wayyyy off. I don't regret my decision in the slightest. Also, I was only a fingertip dilated and my cervix was still high the night before my induction. Since I had a c-section with DD1, I wasn't able to have Cytotec. Despite the risks, I still chose to go forward with the induction and was able to have a second VBAC regardless.
I am not attending a graduation party tomorrow because the family throwing it never attends things I invite them to, I don't anticipate the food will be good and I don't want to shell out money.
I really hate the cutesy baby gender announcements. I like them when they are original ideas or if it is for the first child but when it's another damn box of pink or blue balloons and you already have a couple kids......
I just want to offer you a huge hug because what you wrote was pretty much what I went through with DD1. And while my supply issues are currently even worse with DD2, one thing that did get better over time was my perspective on being unable to EBF. I'm almost 4 weeks out too and barely produce an ounce a day, but time (and seeing how awesome DD1 is!) allowed me to find peace in giving DD2 whatever bm I could without stressing myself out over it like I did last time.
Take that nursing photo; you aren't a fraud. Take a photo of bottle feeding while you're at it. You are a good mom, because you are feeding your child. Period.
We are in a similar place. I think I just have low supply. DD was slow to get back to birth weight (3+ weeks). We've met with a LC, had her tongue tie fixed, pumped religiously, etc. I really resisted supplementing. she is happy and healthy and seems to enjoy nursing but I am just not making enough for her.
Started supplementing Tuesday and are seeing great results.
I want to thank this board for being honest about this stuff. I will admit that it is probably this board and other "online pressure" (lol) that made me so strongly desire to EBF and therefore it was a little emotional for me when we had to supplement. But it is also this board that has reminded me that it's ok to supplement, that feeding her is what is important, and not to torture myself. Overall I feel pretty calm and collected about this, which is a priceless gift.
I try not to let the fact that D isn't crawling yet not bother me, but some day it really does. I have friends who have kids who are up on walkers, pulling up, who are the same age as D, and D still doesn't crawl. I know this is one of those things that I have to start getting used to (not comparing my kid to other kids), but it's hard. And then I start to think that maybe he will have some serious issues from being a preemie, and I get to thinking that this is somehow my fault (even though logically, I know it isn't). Being a mom is hard, yo!
Aww, mel, I'm sure he is just fine. I'm sorry you are upset though. How old is he now?
I've been holding onto this one for MONTHS and the ML thread totally reminded me!
My induction at 39 weeks was (gasp) ELECTIVE!!! I had borderline BP so my ob said they'd do it at 39 weeks, but I definitely didn't have to. And I chose to do it! I was also not really a great candidate for induction (fingertip dialated, high cervix), but at that time I would rather have had a c/s than spent one more day pregnant.
WHEW. I've been dancing around that one for a year here. *spins in free circles*
My only hope is that this brings great fodder for a Friday afternoon.
My 39 week elective induction was one of my best decisions ever. I've already considered whether it'll be in poor taste to ask my dr about another one at my first appt the next time I'm pregnant.
My confession of sorts- I just avoided my mother for an entire month because I could tel that she was fuming about something. I finally found out today that it was because I didn't personally thank her for some shirts she got the girls. Just thanked my dad, because he physically gave them to me. I don't know why I even bother worrying about this shit :/
When DS3 was born (team green) I was totally thinking WTF when H said it was a boy. Then I held him and never looked back. We are done having kids, but sometimes I would still like a girl (not likevi wish one of my boys was a girl, just in addition to them) and get sad about things like not helping my daughter plan a wedding or take care of a new baby. But neither of us want 4 kids.
It is my morning to sleep in. I can't sleep so instead I'm lying in bed scrolling through GBCN while DH is up with the kids. I know he was tired and would have loved to sleep in. I need some downtime.
And, I hated maternity clothes. They never fit quite right which made them a bit uncomfortable, and I never felt put together when I wore them. Based on so many people loving them I think I bought the wrong stuff.
Aww, mel, I'm sure he is just fine. I'm sorry you are upset though. How old is he now?
And yes, being a mom is hard!
He's a little over 9 months.
DS started crawling at 10 months exactly. Then at 12 months he started walking and I was like NOOOOO!!!!! lololol.
I think it is easy to lose perspective though so I get that. I have a good friend whose kid is about 14 months younger than mine, and her daughter started crawling at 6 months. My friend was talking about another mom whose son just started crawling at 10 months and she was like, "wow, I cant believe he was that late, what has he been DOING for the past 4 months" and I was just like, ummm, 10 months for crawling is still pretty normal, at least I think so ;-) but I think it is easy with milestones like that to overly compare your baby to others. So if it helps, DS went from being non-mobile to super mobile really fast. It was awful ;-)
DS started crawling at 10 months exactly. Then at 12 months he started walking and I was like NOOOOO!!!!! lololol.
I think it is easy to lose perspective though so I get that. I have a good friend whose kid is about 14 months younger than mine, and her daughter started crawling at 6 months. My friend was talking about another mom whose son just started crawling at 10 months and she was like, "wow, I cant believe he was that late, what has he been DOING for the past 4 months" and I was just like, ummm, 10 months for crawling is still pretty normal, at least I think so ;-) but I think it is easy with milestones like that to overly compare your baby to others. So if it helps, DS went from being non-mobile to super mobile really fast. It was awful ;-)
Logically, I know that D is doing fantastic, especially for a preemie. And frankly, I should count my blessings on how healthy he is considering, but damn, if another person asks if he crawls, and when I say not yet, they give me this look:
LOL I hate that look!!! I know exactly what you are talking about. I'm especially feeling sympathetic for you bc I have a good friend going through something similar (without the preemie aspect though) - her son is 8 months, almost 9 and isnt crawling yet and we have the friend whose DD started at 6 months and another friend with a girl who is 6 or 7 months and is probably about to start crawling any day. So she is starting to get "the looks" and I always have to spout off some stuff about boys developing later or whatever. but even when its not directed at me, that "look" is annoying, lol.
And, I hated maternity clothes. They never fit quite right which made them a bit uncomfortable, and I never felt put together when I wore them. Based on so many people loving them I think I bought the wrong stuff.
I hated them too. I don't get the love at all. I felt so awkward and sloppy the whole time. I did buy one nice dress for my baby shower that I loved, which helped.
I have breastfeeding pics but I hate what I'm wearing in all of them (I spent a lot of my early ML wearing old button down shirts of DH's) so I never post them. lol
I gave up on nursing each of my children at around 3 months because I just couldn't handle the sleep deprivation longer than that. I was a little sensitive about it with DS1 when he was still a baby. Now that they're almost six, four, and two, I can tell you that I haven't thought about it in years and it doesn't bother me to hear about cases where breastfeeding *does* work out long term.
The pendulum seems to be swinging back the other way a bit more now but I really hated how much pressure doctors and nurses tried to put on me to ebf the boys. I was always suspicious of the claim that "breast is best." Maybe but by how much? Is it worth turning me into an insane, anxious wreck from lack of sleep? I hate how some people try to make you feel that you don't matter or that you matter way less than you did before just because you have a baby now. No.
I have one! I don't know how women do it when their husband's aren't involved in child rearing. DH does so much and I still feel exhausted and overwhelmed at times. I am so grateful for him because I don't know how women do it when their spouses do little to help out with the the kids and the house.
I didn't love the maternity clothes because they were stylish.
I loved them because they were the only things that reliably fit me at 4 mo pp. I had to go buy "size now" clothes so I would stop wearing the maternity stuff.
Then I wore my teal polka dot maternity dress to my friend's baby party at 6.5 mo pp. In my head I looked like Princess Kate. In reality I looked....pregnant.
Post by jeaniebueller on Jul 26, 2014 10:38:25 GMT -5
Maternity pants accentuate my stomach postpartum so I don't know how so many people wear them months after having the baby. I need high waisted pants that suck everything in now. Lol
Maternity pants accentuate my stomach postpartum so I don't know how so many people wear them months after having the baby. I need high waisted pants that suck everything in now. Lol
Ok, so this is me. Except I am still 30lbs heavier than I was before I was pregnant. SO…I go back to work in September and have no pants that fit me (I think I would be a size 14 now, or a size 16 - most of what I have is a size 8/10)…so my maternity clothes are what I have, because I refuse to buy new clothes while I try to lose. Because I am stubborn and convinced I can lose SOMETHING. Sigh.
rugbywife-dresses. I'm a 12 and usually an 8/10. I'm wearing dresses, skirts, cardigans and nice jewelry (nice jewelry so people don't pay attention to my plumpness).
It will get me through September and *maybe* part of October, but it gets mighty cold here mighty quickly (I have to spend over an hour a day outside for work)…AND - I only have 3 dressed I can pump in…gah.
Maternity pants accentuate my stomach postpartum so I don't know how so many people wear them months after having the baby. I need high waisted pants that suck everything in now. Lol
Ok, so this is me. Except I am still 30lbs heavier than I was before I was pregnant. SO…I go back to work in September and have no pants that fit me (I think I would be a size 14 now, or a size 16 - most of what I have is a size 8/10)…so my maternity clothes are what I have, because I refuse to buy new clothes while I try to lose. Because I am stubborn and convinced I can lose SOMETHING. Sigh.
I know how that goes. I just bought new pants. It stinks. For whatever reason though, I still look lumpy and pregnant in maternity pants. No so much in regular ones. Maybe my stomach is weird?
Ok, so this is me. Except I am still 30lbs heavier than I was before I was pregnant. SO…I go back to work in September and have no pants that fit me (I think I would be a size 14 now, or a size 16 - most of what I have is a size 8/10)…so my maternity clothes are what I have, because I refuse to buy new clothes while I try to lose. Because I am stubborn and convinced I can lose SOMETHING. Sigh.
I know how that goes. I just bought new pants. It stinks. For whatever reason though, I still look lumpy and pregnant in maternity pants. No so much in regular ones. Maybe my stomach is weird?
I doubt you are weird. I am sure if I bought pants that actually fit me I would look ok. Maternity pants just make me look perpetually pregnant. The reason I HAD to tell people at work I was pregnant at 12 weeks was because I didn't fit into regular pants anymore, had to wear maternity pants and it just made me look even more pregnant1
DS started crawling at 10 months exactly. Then at 12 months he started walking and I was like NOOOOO!!!!! lololol.
I think it is easy to lose perspective though so I get that. I have a good friend whose kid is about 14 months younger than mine, and her daughter started crawling at 6 months. My friend was talking about another mom whose son just started crawling at 10 months and she was like, "wow, I cant believe he was that late, what has he been DOING for the past 4 months" and I was just like, ummm, 10 months for crawling is still pretty normal, at least I think so ;-) but I think it is easy with milestones like that to overly compare your baby to others. So if it helps, DS went from being non-mobile to super mobile really fast. It was awful ;-)
Logically, I know that D is doing fantastic, especially for a preemie. And frankly, I should count my blessings on how healthy he is considering, but damn, if another person asks if he crawls, and when I say not yet, they give me this look:
Trust me, I know how you feel. My daughter was not a preemie and there is nothing wrong with her, but she didn't crawl until she was 15 months old and then didn't walk until she was 22 months. She was so old, people stopped asking me if she could do those things because everyone assumed she could. It sucked to see kids who were seriously half her age doing things she couldn't.